Do you ever feel guilty for not wanting to see someone again?

So I had a date last weekend, and while she checked off all the boxes, there is just something intangible that’s pushing me to not schedule another one. I can’t really describe what it is, just a feeling that I’m not really into this person. Thing is, I don’t get dates very often, so I feel guilty rejecting someone who is otherwise attractive, educated, ambitious, etc just because something “feels off”. Do you listen to your gut? How do you get past that “people who are interested in you don’t come along very often, can you really afford to reject someone” feeling?

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 02:51PM

So I had a date last weekend, and while she checked off all the boxes, there is just something intangible that’s pushing me to not schedule another one. I can’t really describe what it is, just a feeling that I’m not really into this person. Thing is, I don’t get dates very often, so I feel guilty rejecting someone who is otherwise attractive, educated, ambitious, etc just because something “feels off”. Do you listen to your gut? How do you get past that “people who are interested in you don’t come along very often, can you really afford to reject someone” feeling?