Confused, and need your insights

If you are reading this, I would like to thank you for your time.

My long term (almost 8 years) live-in boyfriend and I broke up 10 months ago. The first two months was hard because we lived together. He was avoiding me, he was coming home really late, and if we were to speak, he had no patience, and we end up just fighting.

Month 4, I found my own place, and moved out. Throughout the moving process he was very helpful. I had noone to helped me, and he stepped up and help me all throughout the moving process.

Month 5 to now, we have been “friends”. Communication is better than ever - he calls or text me everyday to wish me a great day and good night. Throughout the day, we keep communication. We listen more to each other and try to understand the other’s point of view. We would see each other, at least 2x a week, sometimes even more. During the times we would hang out, we would grab dinner, and talk about our days. He is always there for me, for anything and everything I need. He is always taking care of me, and make sure that everything is easy for me. We do not have sex, nor have any physical contact. We hug each other when we say hi or our goodbyes. Or when one just needs a hug because of something rough the other person is going through. Other than that, no other physical interaction. You maybe asking why, or wondering why – His reasoning, why he wouldn’t want us to go that way is because he has a lot of respect towards me, and he would not want to play with my emotions.

He does have depression. He does not share it with me as much, but promise me that if there is anything, I would be the first one that he would contact. He is going on a “soul” searching trip by the end of this year, in which he thinks will allow him to move on from the bad childhood memories and pain. We both love to travel, so he invited me to come with him the last week to enjoy and explore the country together.

With all of this being said, I don’t know what to do nor do I know what I want. Yes, yes, yes, I know, this is all up to me, and at the end it is my decision. I have talked to many of my friends, and because they are my friends, I do feel like they are giving me biased advised and insight. So, with that being said, here I am internet world ready for your insight.

He tells me he does not want to get back together anytime soon. In the future, who knows, but currently he is not in a good place to be in a relationship. In which, I also believe that I am currently growing so much and learning about myself, that I also do not want to be tied down in a relationship. But, I do want to move on if he and I do not have a hope of getting back together.

I don’t necessarily know what my question is, nor what kind of advice do I need. So, have at it.

Thank you internet world.

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 09:00PM

If you are reading this, I would like to thank you for your time.My long term (almost 8 years) live-in boyfriend and I broke up 10 months ago. The first two months was hard because we lived together. He was avoiding me, he was coming home really late, and if we were to speak, he had no patience, and we end up just fighting.Month 4, I found my own place, and moved out. Throughout the moving process he was very helpful. I had noone to helped me, and he stepped up and help me all throughout the moving process.Month 5 to now, we have been “friends”. Communication is better than ever - he calls or text me everyday to wish me a great day and good night. Throughout the day, we keep communication. We listen more to each other and try to understand the other’s point of view. We would see each other, at least 2x a week, sometimes even more. During the times we would hang out, we would grab dinner, and talk about our days. He is always there for me, for anything and everything I need. He is always taking care of me, and make sure that everything is easy for me. We do not have sex, nor have any physical contact. We hug each other when we say hi or our goodbyes. Or when one just needs a hug because of something rough the other person is going through. Other than that, no other physical interaction. You maybe asking why, or wondering why – His reasoning, why he wouldn’t want us to go that way is because he has a lot of respect towards me, and he would not want to play with my emotions.He does have depression. He does not share it with me as much, but promise me that if there is anything, I would be the first one that he would contact. He is going on a “soul” searching trip by the end of this year, in which he thinks will allow him to move on from the bad childhood memories and pain. We both love to travel, so he invited me to come with him the last week to enjoy and explore the country together.With all of this being said, I don’t know what to do nor do I know what I want. Yes, yes, yes, I know, this is all up to me, and at the end it is my decision. I have talked to many of my friends, and because they are my friends, I do feel like they are giving me biased advised and insight. So, with that being said, here I am internet world ready for your insight.He tells me he does not want to get back together anytime soon. In the future, who knows, but currently he is not in a good place to be in a relationship. In which, I also believe that I am currently growing so much and learning about myself, that I also do not want to be tied down in a relationship. But, I do want to move on if he and I do not have a hope of getting back together.I don’t necessarily know what my question is, nor what kind of advice do I need. So, have at it.Thank you internet world.