This sucks as much as it did in my teens!

I (F32) met my OLD match (M34) at the end of December last year. I lost my virginity to him (yes I know, I’m a late bloomer) in January, two days before my 32nd birthday. We’ve had sex four times since (most recently last week). I feel he isn’t as interested as he says he is. When we are together, he is so lovely and open. He enjoys cuddling and intimacy and we have fantastic conversations. He hasn’t kissed me goodbye though since the first time I met him. We do kiss leading up to sex and he does kiss me during, but I only get a hug goodbye. After a meet up, He goes quiet for days and even a week at a time sometimes before going all lovey dovey as soon as I call him out and ask if this is going anywhere. He said I had nothing to worry about and that he hasn’t felt this close and comfortable with someone for a very long time and that I don’t need to pin him down and that it’s up to us to build a meaningful relationship. How can we build on this if I’m only seeing him once a month? I feel like an idiot because I really like him but he can go from being very responsive to being like warm (even cold at times). I don’t know what to do. Blocking/deleting seems immature at my age and I’ve tried three times to ask what’s going on but I end up believing he wants me around (until he goes quiet again). I’d rather he was just honest and told me straight: “I’m not interested in you.” Brutal yes, but at least I’d know. Any advice would be very much appreciated. I hate feeling this way. Just feel like I’m being breadcrumbed and I could just kick myself for being so stupid.

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 09:13PM

I (F32) met my OLD match (M34) at the end of December last year. I lost my virginity to him (yes I know, I’m a late bloomer) in January, two days before my 32nd birthday. We’ve had sex four times since (most recently last week). I feel he isn’t as interested as he says he is. When we are together, he is so lovely and open. He enjoys cuddling and intimacy and we have fantastic conversations. He hasn’t kissed me goodbye though since the first time I met him. We do kiss leading up to sex and he does kiss me during, but I only get a hug goodbye. After a meet up, He goes quiet for days and even a week at a time sometimes before going all lovey dovey as soon as I call him out and ask if this is going anywhere. He said I had nothing to worry about and that he hasn’t felt this close and comfortable with someone for a very long time and that I don’t need to pin him down and that it’s up to us to build a meaningful relationship. How can we build on this if I’m only seeing him once a month? I feel like an idiot because I really like him but he can go from being very responsive to being like warm (even cold at times). I don’t know what to do. Blocking/deleting seems immature at my age and I’ve tried three times to ask what’s going on but I end up believing he wants me around (until he goes quiet again). I’d rather he was just honest and told me straight: “I’m not interested in you.” Brutal yes, but at least I’d know. Any advice would be very much appreciated. I hate feeling this way. Just feel like I’m being breadcrumbed and I could just kick myself for being so stupid.