Dating doesn’t work for me what am I doing wrong?!?

I’m sure if I dig deep enough, I can answer this question with something trite like I’m attracted to the wrong kind of men, or I’m too needy, or I just haven’t met the right one yet and he’s out there so don’t give up! But I’m sick of chewing on all that garbage.

I’m getting too old [39f] for the cliche filler and really just think there’s something wrong with my age. Are all the single, decent men in my age bracket (35 to 50) hiding under a rock? And why does Bonnie Tyler’s I Need a Hero song line, “where have all the good men gone” keep looping in my head?

Ok, before anyone freaks out on this post, yes, I know there are outliers out there. I’m one, so there must be a dude or two (preferably eight) out there for me to choose from? Where are you? I can’t find your rock! Ok, I’d better reel this in before I get tagged for ranting. Too late? Hrrrrmmmmm

But seriously though... what or where does an independent, intelligent, attractive (subjective), shy, outdoorsy, blue party gal do or go to find the right rock? I don’t want too much, just a good time and some respect; aka, I don’t want to be taken advantage of. Believe me, it’s easy to do. Something to note about me, OLD doesn’t work for me. I’m too introverted and take sex pretty serious. I’m not about the hook ups. Also, I’m super shy. Like I can’t even say hi to a guy I think is attractive. So cliche, “he’s out there, don’t give up hope” just seems sad now.



Submitted May 08, 2019 at 04:32AM

I’m sure if I dig deep enough, I can answer this question with something trite like I’m attracted to the wrong kind of men, or I’m too needy, or I just haven’t met the right one yet and he’s out there so don’t give up! But I’m sick of chewing on all that garbage.I’m getting too old [39f] for the cliche filler and really just think there’s something wrong with my age. Are all the single, decent men in my age bracket (35 to 50) hiding under a rock? And why does Bonnie Tyler’s I Need a Hero song line, “where have all the good men gone” keep looping in my head?Ok, before anyone freaks out on this post, yes, I know there are outliers out there. I’m one, so there must be a dude or two (preferably eight) out there for me to choose from? Where are you? I can’t find your rock! Ok, I’d better reel this in before I get tagged for ranting. Too late? HrrrrmmmmmBut seriously though... what or where does an independent, intelligent, attractive (subjective), shy, outdoorsy, blue party gal do or go to find the right rock? I don’t want too much, just a good time and some respect; aka, I don’t want to be taken advantage of. Believe me, it’s easy to do. Something to note about me, OLD doesn’t work for me. I’m too introverted and take sex pretty serious. I’m not about the hook ups. Also, I’m super shy. Like I can’t even say hi to a guy I think is attractive. So cliche, “he’s out there, don’t give up hope” just seems sad now.
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