Regretting getting married

I’ve been married before because of a pregnancy but I did my best to make it work I thought. She ended up cheating on me multiple times and I divorced. During the long divorce I met someone else. We were together for 3 years before getting married. The first year I was still dealing with the divorce, and my child was involved so that meant no bringing new girl around my child. I would only see her every other week and those weeks I didn’t see her, things seemed off when talking to her(smoking weed and other things, which I personally don’t like and also affects my job and my child). She had me convinced I was just insecure because of soon to be ex and I went through therapy and worked on it to get past it.

Fast forward we get married and are on our honeymoon when she drunkenly admits that everything I had thought was happening during early relationship did in fact happen. So she lied to me for 3 years about and convinced me to think I was the crazy person. I wanted to divorce her right then. She begged me not to and said I would try.

We are at 6 months now and things were getting better. She came to me wanting to go on a girls trip. I told her I did not trust her with the girls she was going with since they were the ones they told her at beginning of relationship to do whatever she wanted because it wouldn’t affect me. She begged for me to agree to her going so she could prove I could trust her. I agreed and asked her two things, just check in with me and no drugs or weed. She went and got black out drunk and smoked and possibly more on top of not checking in(when I say check in I mean to let me know when she was back at hotel room at night).

I’m really regretting this marriage more than my first. I do not trust this woman at all. I am unhappy and don’t believe it will change. And it worse because I actually wanted this marriage to begin and it only took 2 days before wanting out.

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 01:57PM

I’ve been married before because of a pregnancy but I did my best to make it work I thought. She ended up cheating on me multiple times and I divorced. During the long divorce I met someone else. We were together for 3 years before getting married. The first year I was still dealing with the divorce, and my child was involved so that meant no bringing new girl around my child. I would only see her every other week and those weeks I didn’t see her, things seemed off when talking to her(smoking weed and other things, which I personally don’t like and also affects my job and my child). She had me convinced I was just insecure because of soon to be ex and I went through therapy and worked on it to get past it.Fast forward we get married and are on our honeymoon when she drunkenly admits that everything I had thought was happening during early relationship did in fact happen. So she lied to me for 3 years about and convinced me to think I was the crazy person. I wanted to divorce her right then. She begged me not to and said I would try.We are at 6 months now and things were getting better. She came to me wanting to go on a girls trip. I told her I did not trust her with the girls she was going with since they were the ones they told her at beginning of relationship to do whatever she wanted because it wouldn’t affect me. She begged for me to agree to her going so she could prove I could trust her. I agreed and asked her two things, just check in with me and no drugs or weed. She went and got black out drunk and smoked and possibly more on top of not checking in(when I say check in I mean to let me know when she was back at hotel room at night).I’m really regretting this marriage more than my first. I do not trust this woman at all. I am unhappy and don’t believe it will change. And it worse because I actually wanted this marriage to begin and it only took 2 days before wanting out.