My Boyfriend Laughed Hysterically At Me During Sex...Feeling Slightly Traumatized By It. Help!

Let me start by saying that today was unusually great for me. I had a light day on the job, completed a vigorous workout, had a delicious dinner and then watched a funny movie with my new boyfriend over a couple glasses of wine. Basically, the definition of an amazing day for me.

After feeling so good and drinking, naturally, I wanted to have sex. My boyfriend protested, saying he was too tired, but once we got to bed we started to tease each other and one thing led to another. I got super aroused, we started doing it and it felt AMAZING. I was super into it and feeling myself too.

I would say that dirty talk is one of my strengths and so I started talking dirty. I thought I was doing a fantastic job, too. I felt like he was ready to come at any moment. And then I made a crucial error--I said something using the exact phrase from the comedy movie we had just watched. It was a stupid mistake and I'm sure the wine had plenty to do with it.

My boyfriend lost his erection and immediately started laughing hysterically. In fact, I've never seen him laugh so hard at anything. He was on the verge of tears. He then told me that it was "the funniest thing that ever happened to him."

I know that people should be able to laugh at themselves, but I found the situation pretty mortifying. I feel like there's a time and place to be funny but that certainly wasn't the time or place for it. I'm legitimately feeling humiliated. I felt like I was close to an orgasm myself and then I just hit a wall. I want to be sexy for him. I don't want to be a comedian.

Am I being stubborn or unreasonable? I actually feel like I could benefit from taking a short break from having sex to recover from this incident. I've had embarrassing sexual encounters before but now it's hard for me to separate myself from this ridiculously dumb thing I said in the heat of the moment.

Any advice on how to get over it?



Submitted April 13, 2019 at 07:07AM

Let me start by saying that today was unusually great for me. I had a light day on the job, completed a vigorous workout, had a delicious dinner and then watched a funny movie with my new boyfriend over a couple glasses of wine. Basically, the definition of an amazing day for me.After feeling so good and drinking, naturally, I wanted to have sex. My boyfriend protested, saying he was too tired, but once we got to bed we started to tease each other and one thing led to another. I got super aroused, we started doing it and it felt AMAZING. I was super into it and feeling myself too.I would say that dirty talk is one of my strengths and so I started talking dirty. I thought I was doing a fantastic job, too. I felt like he was ready to come at any moment. And then I made a crucial error--I said something using the exact phrase from the comedy movie we had just watched. It was a stupid mistake and I'm sure the wine had plenty to do with it.My boyfriend lost his erection and immediately started laughing hysterically. In fact, I've never seen him laugh so hard at anything. He was on the verge of tears. He then told me that it was "the funniest thing that ever happened to him."I know that people should be able to laugh at themselves, but I found the situation pretty mortifying. I feel like there's a time and place to be funny but that certainly wasn't the time or place for it. I'm legitimately feeling humiliated. I felt like I was close to an orgasm myself and then I just hit a wall. I want to be sexy for him. I don't want to be a comedian.Am I being stubborn or unreasonable? I actually feel like I could benefit from taking a short break from having sex to recover from this incident. I've had embarrassing sexual encounters before but now it's hard for me to separate myself from this ridiculously dumb thing I said in the heat of the moment.Any advice on how to get over it?
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