Dealing with an emotionally unavailable guy (33/M) with religious hangups. Confused about keeping him in my life.

I (31/F) met a guy (33/M) over the holidays on Tinder. He's attractive and he has an eccentric personality that I admire. We live three hours apart from each other. We have met up a total of four times, the last time being a few days ago when we went skiing together. The previous times we met, we have gotten physical and he would regret it after because he's part of the LDS community and felt bad about sinning. But the last time we met, he cuddled me for a bit but asked me not to "seduce" him because he is trying to change his ways, so we didn't end up doing anything. He seems very confused emotionally and has admitted in the past that he never feels right with any women in the past. He also admitted he tends to like multiple women at once and share feelings with more than just one women at a time.

I briefly tried cutting contact from him back in February because I found out he was still fooling around with his ex, days after he was over at my house. We weren't exclusive but it was hard for me to handle hearing him tell me about the other women in his life.

He says hes trying to be a better person and not get physical with random women anymore. He's hoping to find the "right one" and feels he'll only be rewarded once he starts living pure again.

I...don't know what to do at this point. I enjoy his company and we text on a frequent basis. There's a part of me that wonders what the point of us speaking is anymore. He obviously doesn't want to exclusively date me but I'm assuming he still wants to keep me in his life because he still reaches out to me. I also kinda feel rude and selfish having the mentality of "Well you don't want to date me and cannot give me what I want soooo goodbye". I know people will disagree but he actually is a decent person and has a good heart. I mean, I think he would make a wonderful friend but I still have some feelings for him and it's hard hearing your crush telling you about his ideal future mate.

I'm not sure if I should keep him in my life or cut communication completely. Thoughts?

Submitted April 13, 2019 at 02:38AM

I (31/F) met a guy (33/M) over the holidays on Tinder. He's attractive and he has an eccentric personality that I admire. We live three hours apart from each other. We have met up a total of four times, the last time being a few days ago when we went skiing together. The previous times we met, we have gotten physical and he would regret it after because he's part of the LDS community and felt bad about sinning. But the last time we met, he cuddled me for a bit but asked me not to "seduce" him because he is trying to change his ways, so we didn't end up doing anything. He seems very confused emotionally and has admitted in the past that he never feels right with any women in the past. He also admitted he tends to like multiple women at once and share feelings with more than just one women at a time.I briefly tried cutting contact from him back in February because I found out he was still fooling around with his ex, days after he was over at my house. We weren't exclusive but it was hard for me to handle hearing him tell me about the other women in his life.He says hes trying to be a better person and not get physical with random women anymore. He's hoping to find the "right one" and feels he'll only be rewarded once he starts living pure again.I...don't know what to do at this point. I enjoy his company and we text on a frequent basis. There's a part of me that wonders what the point of us speaking is anymore. He obviously doesn't want to exclusively date me but I'm assuming he still wants to keep me in his life because he still reaches out to me. I also kinda feel rude and selfish having the mentality of "Well you don't want to date me and cannot give me what I want soooo goodbye". I know people will disagree but he actually is a decent person and has a good heart. I mean, I think he would make a wonderful friend but I still have some feelings for him and it's hard hearing your crush telling you about his ideal future mate.I'm not sure if I should keep him in my life or cut communication completely. Thoughts?