Have you dated a Co-Worker/Boss? If you have, do you still work with them/for them?

Long time lurker. Figured I would disclose that. Ha. I've been out of a 4 yr relationship since Nov 2017. My ex is my boss. He dumped me 2 days before Thanksgiving. We were living together and I moved out the next day. Pretty sure he was not expecting that from me. Please allow me to vent or ramble...

I worked my ass off for him and he dumped me...The stress of the job got to me and I did not know how to shut off once I left the office and I seriously thought that when we weren't talking about work, things were good between us. NOT. I was in major denial about our relationship. Seriously in major denial. We had sex maybe 5 times the last year we were together. I blamed the no sex on his weight and bad hip. Come to find out from him, he didn't want to have sex with me because I was always angry. Ugh.

I know that in order for me to completely be able to move on, I should no longer work for him but I like everyone (well not everyone) that I work with and love the freedom that I have with the job. I just can't stand it anymore and I know that I need to go look elsewhere but it is just so hard for me. I don't want him completely out of my life but I can't stand to hear how he is doing this or that or how he is on vacation and plans on vacationing in the same spot 2 to 3 times a year. Am I bitter and resentful still? Yes. Pathetic but yet I am still working for him.

I have realized that I need security and I think that is the reason that I continue working for my ex OR is it because I don't want him completely out of my life...? I know that for as long as he has a thriving and successful business, I will have a job. I am just scared to venture out into the unknown. I seriously am scared of that.

Enough...I know what I have to do but it is hard for me. So on to the question, have you dated a co-worker or boss, long term, and are no longer in that relationship but you still work with them or for them and how is that going for you?



Submitted April 12, 2019 at 04:12AM

Long time lurker. Figured I would disclose that. Ha. I've been out of a 4 yr relationship since Nov 2017. My ex is my boss. He dumped me 2 days before Thanksgiving. We were living together and I moved out the next day. Pretty sure he was not expecting that from me. Please allow me to vent or ramble...I worked my ass off for him and he dumped me...The stress of the job got to me and I did not know how to shut off once I left the office and I seriously thought that when we weren't talking about work, things were good between us. NOT. I was in major denial about our relationship. Seriously in major denial. We had sex maybe 5 times the last year we were together. I blamed the no sex on his weight and bad hip. Come to find out from him, he didn't want to have sex with me because I was always angry. Ugh.I know that in order for me to completely be able to move on, I should no longer work for him but I like everyone (well not everyone) that I work with and love the freedom that I have with the job. I just can't stand it anymore and I know that I need to go look elsewhere but it is just so hard for me. I don't want him completely out of my life but I can't stand to hear how he is doing this or that or how he is on vacation and plans on vacationing in the same spot 2 to 3 times a year. Am I bitter and resentful still? Yes. Pathetic but yet I am still working for him.I have realized that I need security and I think that is the reason that I continue working for my ex OR is it because I don't want him completely out of my life...? I know that for as long as he has a thriving and successful business, I will have a job. I am just scared to venture out into the unknown. I seriously am scared of that.Enough...I know what I have to do but it is hard for me. So on to the question, have you dated a co-worker or boss, long term, and are no longer in that relationship but you still work with them or for them and how is that going for you?
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