Why can’t I get any women

Hi guys, I’m a 25 year old virgin. Even though it shouldn’t, me being a virgin is starting to bother me. I didn’t really care up until 23, but now it is getting weird. Over these last two years, I’ve gotten tons of compliments on my looks from customers, pretty girls, average girls, big girls, etc. last year I got over 20 compliments on my looks and this year I’ve already been complimented over 15 times. Customers refer to me as the “good looking or sexy guy”. I’m 5’9 and weigh between 175-190 pounds depending on the time of year. I work out a lot, so I’m very muscular and lean and people always ask me for dieting advice. I do have a big forehead though. Anyway, I’m so hard on myself. Even when I get compliments I’ll say “oh, but she is big, old, average looking etc. actual pretty girls don’t like me” however, two really pretty girls said I was cute this year, but indirectly because I heard from their friends’ and I’ll be like “oh, it’s because I was wearing a hat and they can’t see my forehead” but I can’t wear a hat at work and still get complimented. Girls will even sneak pictures of me and send them to their friends and I’ll call them on it and they’ll be like “I’m trying to hook you up with one of my friends.” I went to a music festival and thought for sure I’d lose my virginity because I was staying with girls and their is plenty of girls there. I think my problem is I’m just too nice. I NEVER approach women on a sexual level. I always just act like a friend and send no clear signals of attraction by saying “your cute, beautiful etc” even at the festival a girl kept smiling at me and eventually I got so close to her in the crowd I had to talk to her and she took a picture of me and put me on her snap with the caption “aye” but then my friend wanted to go to another stage, so I left and didn’t bother to get her number because I’d rather just focus on having a good time with my friend then chasing a girl. At a party a girl even said “you can come back to my place” even without saying anything to her. I didn’t though because I wanted to hang with my friends and not some drunk girl. Do you think my problem is because I show no interest and do put no effort into it? My problem is I think just because I’m supposedly good looking, girls will just walk up to me and have sex with me. I’d said to myself “why can’t I get any girl?” And then I’ll be like “well, you put absolutely no effort into it. You will never make a basket, if you NEVER take a shot” any advice? I’m very social and outgoing, but I shy away from approaching women in a sexual way.

Submitted May 21, 2019 at 02:12AM

Hi guys, I’m a 25 year old virgin. Even though it shouldn’t, me being a virgin is starting to bother me. I didn’t really care up until 23, but now it is getting weird. Over these last two years, I’ve gotten tons of compliments on my looks from customers, pretty girls, average girls, big girls, etc. last year I got over 20 compliments on my looks and this year I’ve already been complimented over 15 times. Customers refer to me as the “good looking or sexy guy”. I’m 5’9 and weigh between 175-190 pounds depending on the time of year. I work out a lot, so I’m very muscular and lean and people always ask me for dieting advice. I do have a big forehead though. Anyway, I’m so hard on myself. Even when I get compliments I’ll say “oh, but she is big, old, average looking etc. actual pretty girls don’t like me” however, two really pretty girls said I was cute this year, but indirectly because I heard from their friends’ and I’ll be like “oh, it’s because I was wearing a hat and they can’t see my forehead” but I can’t wear a hat at work and still get complimented. Girls will even sneak pictures of me and send them to their friends and I’ll call them on it and they’ll be like “I’m trying to hook you up with one of my friends.” I went to a music festival and thought for sure I’d lose my virginity because I was staying with girls and their is plenty of girls there. I think my problem is I’m just too nice. I NEVER approach women on a sexual level. I always just act like a friend and send no clear signals of attraction by saying “your cute, beautiful etc” even at the festival a girl kept smiling at me and eventually I got so close to her in the crowd I had to talk to her and she took a picture of me and put me on her snap with the caption “aye” but then my friend wanted to go to another stage, so I left and didn’t bother to get her number because I’d rather just focus on having a good time with my friend then chasing a girl. At a party a girl even said “you can come back to my place” even without saying anything to her. I didn’t though because I wanted to hang with my friends and not some drunk girl. Do you think my problem is because I show no interest and do put no effort into it? My problem is I think just because I’m supposedly good looking, girls will just walk up to me and have sex with me. I’d said to myself “why can’t I get any girl?” And then I’ll be like “well, you put absolutely no effort into it. You will never make a basket, if you NEVER take a shot” any advice? I’m very social and outgoing, but I shy away from approaching women in a sexual way.