I wonder what it takes to have a conversation.

My husband got badly hurt and is off work and home for the next 8 weeks. I was trying to see the silver lining of my husband getting injured. I thought, we will have time to spend together, maybe strengthen our family bond. He will have nothing to do but talk with me & our son. Might be good. I mean, hard on me, with my full time job, parenting, housekeeping, summer activities and now im a nurse for my husband. But, lets focus on that silver lining I was excited about.

I couldn't have been more wrong. Before his injury, if he was distracted, or ignored me I blamed it on him being foggy from work, just exhausted. I made excuses for his bad behavior with me. But I always have let him know when he upsets me. I dont believe in letting details get fuzzy, people should be called on their shit immediately. But now, now he is home, in bed, well rested & just healing. He acts the same with me. Makes me more sad, because he has even less of an excuse now.

I am literally his nurse, im massaging him, emptying his urinal, serving him 3 meals a day, helping him change his clothes, filling his ice bags, doing everything for him. He wont even have a conversation with me. I was sweeping the house and talking to him about an idea I had for a family member. There were several pauses while I was talking, leaving room for him to interject a thought of his own. Nothing, so I continued. By the time I finished my thought, I said, "Dont you think?"...Nothing. I got so mad at him, he was just scrolling through facebook the whole time I was talking. Not even a day before I got mad at him for doing the same thing through text. He will read my texts & not respond. Then when im like, "You dont have anything to ad? No thoughts on what I was talking about?", he gets MAD at ME, like im so annoying expecting him to say words to me.

The man wont freaking talk to me. I have zero connection with him anymore. It wanes with every day that passes. He wont share a thought or emotion with me, especially a nice one. Any time he brings words to the table its usually really rude, or expects something from me.

I have expressed that I am unhappy with how im being treated several days in a row now & this morning he had the nerve to ask me for a blowjob. All shocked when I declined.

Im so sick of being taken advantage of, so under appreciated.



Submitted May 20, 2019 at 06:54PM

My husband got badly hurt and is off work and home for the next 8 weeks. I was trying to see the silver lining of my husband getting injured. I thought, we will have time to spend together, maybe strengthen our family bond. He will have nothing to do but talk with me & our son. Might be good. I mean, hard on me, with my full time job, parenting, housekeeping, summer activities and now im a nurse for my husband. But, lets focus on that silver lining I was excited about.I couldn't have been more wrong. Before his injury, if he was distracted, or ignored me I blamed it on him being foggy from work, just exhausted. I made excuses for his bad behavior with me. But I always have let him know when he upsets me. I dont believe in letting details get fuzzy, people should be called on their shit immediately. But now, now he is home, in bed, well rested & just healing. He acts the same with me. Makes me more sad, because he has even less of an excuse now.I am literally his nurse, im massaging him, emptying his urinal, serving him 3 meals a day, helping him change his clothes, filling his ice bags, doing everything for him. He wont even have a conversation with me. I was sweeping the house and talking to him about an idea I had for a family member. There were several pauses while I was talking, leaving room for him to interject a thought of his own. Nothing, so I continued. By the time I finished my thought, I said, "Dont you think?"...Nothing. I got so mad at him, he was just scrolling through facebook the whole time I was talking. Not even a day before I got mad at him for doing the same thing through text. He will read my texts & not respond. Then when im like, "You dont have anything to ad? No thoughts on what I was talking about?", he gets MAD at ME, like im so annoying expecting him to say words to me.The man wont freaking talk to me. I have zero connection with him anymore. It wanes with every day that passes. He wont share a thought or emotion with me, especially a nice one. Any time he brings words to the table its usually really rude, or expects something from me.I have expressed that I am unhappy with how im being treated several days in a row now & this morning he had the nerve to ask me for a blowjob. All shocked when I declined.Im so sick of being taken advantage of, so under appreciated.
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