Teach me how to get out of this hot mess

I've been seeing a guy for two months and I honestly only saw him as a potential FB. I made it clear to him that I was only looking for casual dating and fun early on but he didn't respond back with his intention. On our dates, he was romantic and seemed to genuinely like me although at the beginning, his texts were a little sexy but at one point he stopped the sexual texts (not sure why the change) and text "normal" things. Bottom line, since we actually started seeing each other in a dating capacity, he was respectful and not pushy or anything.

Finally we slept together, had a great time. We texted some more after that day but then I felt insecure because somewhere I felt the sex was great but was not passionate enough, plus I had my period so my hormones were all over the place. So I did the stupid thing of saying while I want absolutely no commitment, I wanted some emotional involvement too and asked him how he felt about me. He gave a very brutally honest answer that really offends and hurts me. I'd have slapped him if he had made that comment in person. I probably shouldn't feel like that as I also only thought of him as a FB but I couldn't accept that brutal honesty from him. I didn't reply him and a few days later he texted a sad face asking if I've forgotten him. I sort of gave him a cold response and he asked if I wanted to stop this to which I said no (haven't made up my mind what to do). He didn't respond.

A part of me want to continue sleeping with him but I don't know if I could ever get past that comment he made. Should I just end this with him? Just ghost him or tell him what I think? Everyday I'm scared that I'd get a text from him ending things. I also imagine I'd tell him my anger with him and we'd have hate sex but I don't wanna get across as too crazy. Suggestions?



Submitted May 04, 2019 at 06:21PM

I've been seeing a guy for two months and I honestly only saw him as a potential FB. I made it clear to him that I was only looking for casual dating and fun early on but he didn't respond back with his intention. On our dates, he was romantic and seemed to genuinely like me although at the beginning, his texts were a little sexy but at one point he stopped the sexual texts (not sure why the change) and text "normal" things. Bottom line, since we actually started seeing each other in a dating capacity, he was respectful and not pushy or anything.Finally we slept together, had a great time. We texted some more after that day but then I felt insecure because somewhere I felt the sex was great but was not passionate enough, plus I had my period so my hormones were all over the place. So I did the stupid thing of saying while I want absolutely no commitment, I wanted some emotional involvement too and asked him how he felt about me. He gave a very brutally honest answer that really offends and hurts me. I'd have slapped him if he had made that comment in person. I probably shouldn't feel like that as I also only thought of him as a FB but I couldn't accept that brutal honesty from him. I didn't reply him and a few days later he texted a sad face asking if I've forgotten him. I sort of gave him a cold response and he asked if I wanted to stop this to which I said no (haven't made up my mind what to do). He didn't respond.A part of me want to continue sleeping with him but I don't know if I could ever get past that comment he made. Should I just end this with him? Just ghost him or tell him what I think? Everyday I'm scared that I'd get a text from him ending things. I also imagine I'd tell him my anger with him and we'd have hate sex but I don't wanna get across as too crazy. Suggestions?
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