Dating with Asperger's- do you ever feel alone?

I suppose I should elaborate on what I mean by alone. I mean it in the context of both:

1. Romantically

2. In terms of the support available to me/you

Before I start I'd like to add that this is a personal opinion of mine so feel free to disagree.

In terms of 1. I'd say I fit into the category of feeling alone romantically. My main friend group consists of four guys and they're all either actively dating or currently in a relationship. I feel like the odd one out since in the last year I've only had one date (my first ever). I feel that at over 21 years of age I should have more to show for it (at least that's what my NT friends think). I wish I knew how to start properly dating and building positive relationships with women.

I'm stuck in terms of university since my course is male dominated and there are very few clubs running which would overlap with women's interests. I don't/cant cope with clubbing so I'm pretty much stuck in that regard. I hate the advice my friends feel the need to give me all the time since it almost always consists of "just be yourself bro", or "love yourself and be comfortable alone before you start dating, it'll all happen when you least expect it bro". For the record, I didn't do anything to solicit that response, the conversation almost always turns to who each other is dating currently and I almost always never know what to say to it.

As for my second point, I find that I struggle a lot more with my mental health than most of the NTs I know. I think this is down to my emotional understanding and the fact that my brain processes emotions quite literally which makes me feel things a lot stronger and with less dilution. I feel that there is almost never enough support for people with Asperger's or any autism spectrum disorder-we're almost left to fend for ourselves. That's another reason I'm active in this sub and like to see what others are experiencing.

Thank you all for listening, I'm eager to hear what you think of my little essay.

Submitted May 04, 2019 at 10:14PM

I suppose I should elaborate on what I mean by alone. I mean it in the context of both:RomanticallyIn terms of the support available to me/youBefore I start I'd like to add that this is a personal opinion of mine so feel free to disagree.In terms of 1. I'd say I fit into the category of feeling alone romantically. My main friend group consists of four guys and they're all either actively dating or currently in a relationship. I feel like the odd one out since in the last year I've only had one date (my first ever). I feel that at over 21 years of age I should have more to show for it (at least that's what my NT friends think). I wish I knew how to start properly dating and building positive relationships with women.I'm stuck in terms of university since my course is male dominated and there are very few clubs running which would overlap with women's interests. I don't/cant cope with clubbing so I'm pretty much stuck in that regard. I hate the advice my friends feel the need to give me all the time since it almost always consists of "just be yourself bro", or "love yourself and be comfortable alone before you start dating, it'll all happen when you least expect it bro". For the record, I didn't do anything to solicit that response, the conversation almost always turns to who each other is dating currently and I almost always never know what to say to it.As for my second point, I find that I struggle a lot more with my mental health than most of the NTs I know. I think this is down to my emotional understanding and the fact that my brain processes emotions quite literally which makes me feel things a lot stronger and with less dilution. I feel that there is almost never enough support for people with Asperger's or any autism spectrum disorder-we're almost left to fend for ourselves. That's another reason I'm active in this sub and like to see what others are experiencing.Thank you all for listening, I'm eager to hear what you think of my little essay.