How to meet girls over summer when I’m stuck at home?

I’m about to finish up my first year of uni, and while i sort of had a gf for like 1-2 months, nothing really came about it, and that was that. I’m approaching 19 now, and not having any relationship experience is starting to get embarrassing and making me question myself, and I might not be doing something right. I’ve had girls interested in me in the past, but usually they’re not my type or I just wasn’t intrested in them.

The hardest part is just initiating conversation or just the ice breaker, because I don’t usually like for them to think that I’m trying to get at them. I think I’m realizing that I just need to be more direct with things and just straightforward. I just don’t hit on that many girls because there either has to be a sign that they might like me, or something like that. And what is evening “hitting” on a girl, I just usually just have a conversation like I normally would, but I just posture up and am try to be more “smooth” and jokey.

I’m going to be taking a math class at a community college, but it’s sort of a stem class so I don’t expect there to be any girls in that class. I was thinking of joining tinder, but people have said that online dating is just kind of unreliable and weird, so I don’t know if it’s best to stay away from it.

I don’t really go out with friends, just usually smoke weed with people and that’s pretty much it. I’m not 21 so I just can’t go to a bar or something. I just don’t really know what to do, and just want to get myself out there. Im tall, relatively good shape, a girl actually called me skinny, and being recently fat, I took that as a huge compliment. I’d like to think that if I could just meet people, that I’d have more success but I don’t really know how to go about doing that.

I mean right now my plan is to just keep working out and hopefully once I get muscular at 6’5, my confidence will shoot up and who knows, maybe I’ll start just getting more attention or something. I also have been applying for jobs on campus and in retail stores specifically just so that I can work on initiating conversation, and that type of stuff.

Any advice??

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 01:31AM

I’m about to finish up my first year of uni, and while i sort of had a gf for like 1-2 months, nothing really came about it, and that was that. I’m approaching 19 now, and not having any relationship experience is starting to get embarrassing and making me question myself, and I might not be doing something right. I’ve had girls interested in me in the past, but usually they’re not my type or I just wasn’t intrested in them.The hardest part is just initiating conversation or just the ice breaker, because I don’t usually like for them to think that I’m trying to get at them. I think I’m realizing that I just need to be more direct with things and just straightforward. I just don’t hit on that many girls because there either has to be a sign that they might like me, or something like that. And what is evening “hitting” on a girl, I just usually just have a conversation like I normally would, but I just posture up and am try to be more “smooth” and jokey.I’m going to be taking a math class at a community college, but it’s sort of a stem class so I don’t expect there to be any girls in that class. I was thinking of joining tinder, but people have said that online dating is just kind of unreliable and weird, so I don’t know if it’s best to stay away from it.I don’t really go out with friends, just usually smoke weed with people and that’s pretty much it. I’m not 21 so I just can’t go to a bar or something. I just don’t really know what to do, and just want to get myself out there. Im tall, relatively good shape, a girl actually called me skinny, and being recently fat, I took that as a huge compliment. I’d like to think that if I could just meet people, that I’d have more success but I don’t really know how to go about doing that.I mean right now my plan is to just keep working out and hopefully once I get muscular at 6’5, my confidence will shoot up and who knows, maybe I’ll start just getting more attention or something. I also have been applying for jobs on campus and in retail stores specifically just so that I can work on initiating conversation, and that type of stuff.Any advice??