Is this normal? I keep getting stood up on Tinder dates.

I've been using Tinder for a month and had 4 dates set up so far. However, every guy so far has stood me up.

First guy: I matched with a guy and we set up a date for the following week. I was extremely happy and so I kept texting him every day. However, I was always the one initiating the conversation. Come the day before we were supposed to meet, I reconfirmed if he was still down for the date. He didn't respond until the next day an hour before the date, and said that he couldn't make it bc of homework. He probably got annoyed from the daily texts, I guess?

Second guy: We talked for a few days and eventually we set up a date for the following week. This time, I learned my lesson and didn't text him that much. Maybe like every other day. Come the day of the date, I reconfirmed if he was still available but he never ended up responding.

Third guy: Same usual things. This time I didn't text at all until the day of the date to reconfirm if he was still available. He said yes and I was extremely happy! I guess guys get put off from texting. However, I showed up at the restaurant and he never came.

Fourth guy: This was a rich guy ~40 miles away from me. He said he would drive to my city and meet up. Changed his mind a few days before the date and told me to Uber to his city instead. I was upset and didn't feel like spending like $200 on Uber so we cancelled it.

Is this just bad luck or am I doing something wrong?



Submitted May 04, 2019 at 09:34PM

I've been using Tinder for a month and had 4 dates set up so far. However, every guy so far has stood me up.First guy: I matched with a guy and we set up a date for the following week. I was extremely happy and so I kept texting him every day. However, I was always the one initiating the conversation. Come the day before we were supposed to meet, I reconfirmed if he was still down for the date. He didn't respond until the next day an hour before the date, and said that he couldn't make it bc of homework. He probably got annoyed from the daily texts, I guess?Second guy: We talked for a few days and eventually we set up a date for the following week. This time, I learned my lesson and didn't text him that much. Maybe like every other day. Come the day of the date, I reconfirmed if he was still available but he never ended up responding.Third guy: Same usual things. This time I didn't text at all until the day of the date to reconfirm if he was still available. He said yes and I was extremely happy! I guess guys get put off from texting. However, I showed up at the restaurant and he never came.Fourth guy: This was a rich guy ~40 miles away from me. He said he would drive to my city and meet up. Changed his mind a few days before the date and told me to Uber to his city instead. I was upset and didn't feel like spending like $200 on Uber so we cancelled it.Is this just bad luck or am I doing something wrong?
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