Stingy Husband

I’m eight and a half months pregnant and work full time at an extremely stressful job. My husband also works full time and makes six figures and over double what I make. With my job I have very limited time off and no paid holidays. The daycare we were looking at was around 800.00 a month. We have minimal bills and vehicles are paid off. My husband however has a disabled father and pays all his bills except the mortgage because his house is paid off and car paid off. His dad gets around 700.00 a month and is not expected to co tribute to his bills per my husband. Recently I’ve told my husband I am planning on quitting my job because it’s too stressful and I would like to spend time raising my own child instead of paying someone else to raise them. We also don’t have any family help for our child which makes things more difficult. I’ve helped him to apply for more assistance for his father to help cut those bills. So here’s my issue..... my husband keeps flip flopping between telling me it’s ok and telling me it’s not ok and that I need to stay at my job. This is stressing me out even more when I know he makes more than enough money to support us and should be expecting his father to chip in for his own bills. He then starts blaming it on the health insurance saying mine is better through my job, which is true but he can change his coverage at his job. I feel like he’s giving more priority to his fathers needs than his wife and kid and is being selfish with his money. Not to mention I have been the only one buying things for the nursery and the baby over the past few months. We each split the mortgage as well. Not sure what to do here and need advice I’m at my wits end with my job and my husband. :(

Submitted April 30, 2019 at 06:35PM

I’m eight and a half months pregnant and work full time at an extremely stressful job. My husband also works full time and makes six figures and over double what I make. With my job I have very limited time off and no paid holidays. The daycare we were looking at was around 800.00 a month. We have minimal bills and vehicles are paid off. My husband however has a disabled father and pays all his bills except the mortgage because his house is paid off and car paid off. His dad gets around 700.00 a month and is not expected to co tribute to his bills per my husband. Recently I’ve told my husband I am planning on quitting my job because it’s too stressful and I would like to spend time raising my own child instead of paying someone else to raise them. We also don’t have any family help for our child which makes things more difficult. I’ve helped him to apply for more assistance for his father to help cut those bills. So here’s my issue..... my husband keeps flip flopping between telling me it’s ok and telling me it’s not ok and that I need to stay at my job. This is stressing me out even more when I know he makes more than enough money to support us and should be expecting his father to chip in for his own bills. He then starts blaming it on the health insurance saying mine is better through my job, which is true but he can change his coverage at his job. I feel like he’s giving more priority to his fathers needs than his wife and kid and is being selfish with his money. Not to mention I have been the only one buying things for the nursery and the baby over the past few months. We each split the mortgage as well. Not sure what to do here and need advice I’m at my wits end with my job and my husband. :(