Something needs to be done in order to make marriage more attractive to men, because otherwise they're just going to continue running away from it.

In the past, men would marry because the societal pressure was very strong, but also because it was pretty much the only way to get laid.

The latter reason is not valid anymore. If anything, it's the other way round, i.e. bachelors get laid way more often than married men.

In the current days and ages, both men and women have a much lesser need to get married, but men in particular.

This is because

- women can now provide for themselves, but we are still light years away from women being willing to do so. Many women are ambitious, and keen to be independent. However a lot of them are still totally fine, and in fact eager, to be provided for by a man. Men do nearly never have such an option.

- the reason many women still want a provider is that they have a much stronger biological urge to have children, which, by nature, requires them to have a partner they know they can rely on. Many men also want children, but, on average, much less than women do.

- in spite of the shift in women being able to work, divorce courts have not caught up, and men need to pay alimony for ex-wives, even if they are able bodied, and even if their career sacrifices during the marriage were their own choice.

- the work of a housewife has become much easier over the last century, because of appliances. So, in the past, men needed women for a lot of house chores, it turns out that in these days and ages, a bachelor can easily provide for himself.

Of course, men do appreciate the companionship of women. However, they also appreciate their friends or family, and yet, they do not require either to sign a lifelong contract promising love and support.

The marriage contract is, given the current context, highly beneficial for women, and hardly for men. While being a massive liability for men in case of divorce.

The only remaining arguments put forward to convince men to get marry nowadays is to shame them for 'not being willing to commit', in other words, for acting immature. This is a very dishonest one, when in reality, men simply refuse to get married because they realize that the risks are not worth it.

I realize that not all men think like that, and some surely may genuinely want to commit. But if a large enough share of men do, it can have catastrophic consequences for the institution of marriage.

Marriage can be an amazing thing, as it brings stability to society, especially to children growing with married parents. So it would be very unfortunate if it went out of fashion.

But nobody around in this country seems to realize that men are going to continue running away from marriage (for good reasons), as long as it is structured in a way that brings them so much potential downside.

Submitted April 30, 2019 at 05:46PM

In the past, men would marry because the societal pressure was very strong, but also because it was pretty much the only way to get laid.The latter reason is not valid anymore. If anything, it's the other way round, i.e. bachelors get laid way more often than married men.In the current days and ages, both men and women have a much lesser need to get married, but men in particular.This is because- women can now provide for themselves, but we are still light years away from women being willing to do so. Many women are ambitious, and keen to be independent. However a lot of them are still totally fine, and in fact eager, to be provided for by a man. Men do nearly never have such an option.- the reason many women still want a provider is that they have a much stronger biological urge to have children, which, by nature, requires them to have a partner they know they can rely on. Many men also want children, but, on average, much less than women do.- in spite of the shift in women being able to work, divorce courts have not caught up, and men need to pay alimony for ex-wives, even if they are able bodied, and even if their career sacrifices during the marriage were their own choice.- the work of a housewife has become much easier over the last century, because of appliances. So, in the past, men needed women for a lot of house chores, it turns out that in these days and ages, a bachelor can easily provide for himself.Of course, men do appreciate the companionship of women. However, they also appreciate their friends or family, and yet, they do not require either to sign a lifelong contract promising love and support.The marriage contract is, given the current context, highly beneficial for women, and hardly for men. While being a massive liability for men in case of divorce.The only remaining arguments put forward to convince men to get marry nowadays is to shame them for 'not being willing to commit', in other words, for acting immature. This is a very dishonest one, when in reality, men simply refuse to get married because they realize that the risks are not worth it.I realize that not all men think like that, and some surely may genuinely want to commit. But if a large enough share of men do, it can have catastrophic consequences for the institution of marriage.Marriage can be an amazing thing, as it brings stability to society, especially to children growing with married parents. So it would be very unfortunate if it went out of fashion.But nobody around in this country seems to realize that men are going to continue running away from marriage (for good reasons), as long as it is structured in a way that brings them so much potential downside.