Having a husband is like having a child at times

Seriously. Worked a full day. Ran to the store to get ingredients for supper. Unloaded & started to prep for dinner before I had to get back to work. Husband being so sweet said to leave it, he’d make supper after he picked up one of the kids from an activity. Instead I did the dishes. He said “don’t worry about that I can do that”, “I can help just tell me what you need”. I told him I had a little bit of time before I had to leave again I could get some done. Did most dishes except for some odds & ends, and two pans thick with grease told him those would need to soak.

Fast forward - I leave again for work after texting him the recipe for supper. Come back after 1+ hrs later. Dishes still “soaking”. Supper done (I do count my blessings although he only had to feed himself and one child), all dishes still sitting there. I start scrubbing the “soaking” dishes. He gets off the couch and rinses his bowl saying how good supper was. Goes back to the couch. Then asks if I want him to put the leftovers away. As I continue to do dishes, and I have yet to eat. I tell him to leave it. He states “I’m just trying to help”. I remind him I HAVENT EATEN YET as I’m still cleaning the kitchen. He puts up his hands and goes back to the livingroom. I dish myself some food & eat while doing dishes. Another child comes for food. Husband asks me again if he should put the leftovers away. I want to scream at him “NO I HAVENT HAD SUPPER YET WHY DONT YOU OFFER TO DO EVERYTHING ELSE THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE!!!” But I don’t. I just ask him to leave it so I can eat. I finish dishes. I prep food for the kids. I put away leftovers. I finally sit down for the day an hour later.

He suddenly doesn’t feel well. He suddenly is whiny and being all dramatic about feeling “out of it”. Not one mention of feeling out of it BEFORE I came home from work for the SECOND time.

Seriously why do we have to tell our husbands specifically tasks that need to be done?! If I have to write him a list it’s no different than leaving a chore list for our four kids. Then when he realizes I’m not happy and distant he suddenly dramatically has issues??!!!! UGH!!!!! Needed to RANT!!! Thanks for listening.



Submitted May 01, 2019 at 03:19AM

Seriously. Worked a full day. Ran to the store to get ingredients for supper. Unloaded & started to prep for dinner before I had to get back to work. Husband being so sweet said to leave it, he’d make supper after he picked up one of the kids from an activity. Instead I did the dishes. He said “don’t worry about that I can do that”, “I can help just tell me what you need”. I told him I had a little bit of time before I had to leave again I could get some done. Did most dishes except for some odds & ends, and two pans thick with grease told him those would need to soak.Fast forward - I leave again for work after texting him the recipe for supper. Come back after 1+ hrs later. Dishes still “soaking”. Supper done (I do count my blessings although he only had to feed himself and one child), all dishes still sitting there. I start scrubbing the “soaking” dishes. He gets off the couch and rinses his bowl saying how good supper was. Goes back to the couch. Then asks if I want him to put the leftovers away. As I continue to do dishes, and I have yet to eat. I tell him to leave it. He states “I’m just trying to help”. I remind him I HAVENT EATEN YET as I’m still cleaning the kitchen. He puts up his hands and goes back to the livingroom. I dish myself some food & eat while doing dishes. Another child comes for food. Husband asks me again if he should put the leftovers away. I want to scream at him “NO I HAVENT HAD SUPPER YET WHY DONT YOU OFFER TO DO EVERYTHING ELSE THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE!!!” But I don’t. I just ask him to leave it so I can eat. I finish dishes. I prep food for the kids. I put away leftovers. I finally sit down for the day an hour later.He suddenly doesn’t feel well. He suddenly is whiny and being all dramatic about feeling “out of it”. Not one mention of feeling out of it BEFORE I came home from work for the SECOND time.Seriously why do we have to tell our husbands specifically tasks that need to be done?! If I have to write him a list it’s no different than leaving a chore list for our four kids. Then when he realizes I’m not happy and distant he suddenly dramatically has issues??!!!! UGH!!!!! Needed to RANT!!! Thanks for listening.
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