Feelings Hurt as a Father

Good morning everyone,

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So my wife's mother and sister suppose to be going to Ohio for a tournament for her sister. Her mom asked us did we want to go but I didnt respond because I really wasnt interested. So later that day my wife called me while I was at work and was hinting that she wanted to go. Of course I wouldnt have a problem but I just told her that we would talk. Then I said "Well since you are going on the weekend, I can take off of work that Friday to be there with our son (Just turned 1) during the weekend." Her response was ," Just you and him?"

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When she asked that it really hurt my feelings as a father because it made me feel like she isn't confident that I wont look after our son. Im not sure if shes saying that because her mom ( who is extremely obsessed with our son) is pressuring her to bring him on the trip or what but all I know is that it really hurt me pretty bad. I asked her why she said it and she said " Oh Idk" and was like " Idk I was just saying anything". She even mentioned that I make her feel like I dont trust her being flying in another state with our son. But that isnt true. I am trying to give her time alone since she is a housewife and be with our son 24/7. I wouldve thought she wouldve appreciated me saying that I will take off so she can enjoy her trip but instead it was the compete opposite. I hope not but I feel like shes doing this for her mom.. Shes another topic to discuss but of course we havent talked more about it but I am sure that we will soon. When she brings up the trip again, I am going to bring that up and explain it to her how she made me feel.



Submitted April 30, 2019 at 04:23PM

Good morning everyone,​So my wife's mother and sister suppose to be going to Ohio for a tournament for her sister. Her mom asked us did we want to go but I didnt respond because I really wasnt interested. So later that day my wife called me while I was at work and was hinting that she wanted to go. Of course I wouldnt have a problem but I just told her that we would talk. Then I said "Well since you are going on the weekend, I can take off of work that Friday to be there with our son (Just turned 1) during the weekend." Her response was ," Just you and him?"​When she asked that it really hurt my feelings as a father because it made me feel like she isn't confident that I wont look after our son. Im not sure if shes saying that because her mom ( who is extremely obsessed with our son) is pressuring her to bring him on the trip or what but all I know is that it really hurt me pretty bad. I asked her why she said it and she said " Oh Idk" and was like " Idk I was just saying anything". She even mentioned that I make her feel like I dont trust her being flying in another state with our son. But that isnt true. I am trying to give her time alone since she is a housewife and be with our son 24/7. I wouldve thought she wouldve appreciated me saying that I will take off so she can enjoy her trip but instead it was the compete opposite. I hope not but I feel like shes doing this for her mom.. Shes another topic to discuss but of course we havent talked more about it but I am sure that we will soon. When she brings up the trip again, I am going to bring that up and explain it to her how she made me feel.
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