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Am I asking too much? Or do you think it’s something I’m missing.

I sit here today with a completely broken heart. The love of my life, my best friend and the man I planned to spend the rest of my life with has moved out and essentially we have broken up. For good. As we told my kids we aren’t going to see him anymore, which was prob the hardest part as they love him like a dad. All over a fight about him taking care of the garbage. He moved into my house 9 months ago. I don’t ask for much from him. Just $500 a month, everything included even food to help with bills and that also includes my car as he doesn’t drive so anytime he has to work or go visit family or friends or go to doctors etc I drive him so that gas as well. I just asked for him to take care of all garbage related duties as I hate doing it and to also clean the cat litter box as it is his cat that he brought with him. Other then that, in the winter shovel the walk way. That the only chores I ask of him. When he’s home by bed time we have made it a routine that he brushes the kids teeth because he just gets home at their bedtime from work and while he does that I heat up his supper. It gives him a few mins with the kids before they are off to bed. I make him a full breakfast mostly every morning and have a good supper waiting for him every night. I do all the cooking and cleaning, laundry etc. As I even type this I know it sounds crazy to even ask but I just want to know if I’m asking to much of him because I feel this is so crazy. Obv something else is going on and this fight was just his way out??



Submitted April 30, 2019 at 11:38PM

Am I asking too much? Or do you think it’s something I’m missing.I sit here today with a completely broken heart. The love of my life, my best friend and the man I planned to spend the rest of my life with has moved out and essentially we have broken up. For good. As we told my kids we aren’t going to see him anymore, which was prob the hardest part as they love him like a dad. All over a fight about him taking care of the garbage. He moved into my house 9 months ago. I don’t ask for much from him. Just $500 a month, everything included even food to help with bills and that also includes my car as he doesn’t drive so anytime he has to work or go visit family or friends or go to doctors etc I drive him so that gas as well. I just asked for him to take care of all garbage related duties as I hate doing it and to also clean the cat litter box as it is his cat that he brought with him. Other then that, in the winter shovel the walk way. That the only chores I ask of him. When he’s home by bed time we have made it a routine that he brushes the kids teeth because he just gets home at their bedtime from work and while he does that I heat up his supper. It gives him a few mins with the kids before they are off to bed. I make him a full breakfast mostly every morning and have a good supper waiting for him every night. I do all the cooking and cleaning, laundry etc. As I even type this I know it sounds crazy to even ask but I just want to know if I’m asking to much of him because I feel this is so crazy. Obv something else is going on and this fight was just his way out??
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