Hahahahaha half of my hand is in the shadow of my phone 😂 July 01, 2020 at 12:01AM

It's in the exact same order too... June 30, 2020 at 11:58PM

Yeh but i identify as agender since I know about the difference between sex and gender, anyway 😃 June 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

It’s great for news, other than that.... don’t voice your feelings people are cruel. Haha you know, I love birds so if I had one I’d frequent them too! June 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

Love it! June 30, 2020 at 11:56PM

Interesting! I didn’t know that, that makes a lot of sense! Thank you so much! You guys seem very kind of here so I’m glad to jump aboard! 🥰 June 30, 2020 at 11:56PM

Can I post this? If you have Instagram I can give you your proper credit. If not, I’ll just say it’s not mine June 30, 2020 at 11:54PM

Aw it’s cute June 30, 2020 at 11:52PM

As someone who went most my life not knowing I was grey-ace, I can relate to this. I didn't know anything about the ace spectrum so I just thought something was wrong with me most of my life. I honestly thought I was just not a very good heterosexual. I lacked the vocabulary and it caused me to never consider myself as part of the LGBTQIA+ community. Even now that I do know and do have the vocabulary, I'm still processing becoming part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I hear you and can definitely see where you're coming from. June 30, 2020 at 11:52PM

Yup, I've been through the skin prick tests. Had to go for a week without antihistamines first so that wasn't fun. Learned useful stuff though. They also have a version where they take a needle and inject a bubble of the stuff being tested under your skin in increasing amounts. Painful, but gives a better level of accuracy. Never got the blood test version. June 30, 2020 at 11:51PM

Dude, this shit's insane ! I love it !! June 30, 2020 at 11:47PM

Being a "man" is overrated. June 30, 2020 at 11:47PM

I sometimes think there's a contradiction where women had to be demisexual for centuries, but now they aren't supposed to be anymore. So it creates this disconnect where half the world thinks everyone is demisexual and the other half think demis are fake. It must make explaining your identity impossible. Seriously though, I am so sorry for you! Twitter is a trainwreck. Welcome to this subreddit! It's nice and civil. Lean on Ace content to feel validated. Lean on your supportive irl friends. :) Feel free to DM. June 30, 2020 at 11:47PM

Twitter is evil. I'd say I avoid it like the plague, but recent events suggest that's not something people do. Also I know people who really do frequent bird websites. 😝 June 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

I like the idea that the A is pretty shared, because day it is just ace is fucked up to agender, and saying it is Ally is just weird to me June 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

Oh haha I call it “bird website” just in case anyone.., likes to mock people on here about it. It’s just Twitter! But yeah, it doesn’t really affect anyone but they wanna make sure feel like crap. Thank you 🥺 June 30, 2020 at 11:42PM

I never understood the allies thing. An ally of a community is never actually part of it. It already stands in the name: ally . June 30, 2020 at 11:38PM

Ok, yeah, i had a ton of romantic crushes when I was under 20 June 30, 2020 at 11:38PM

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My parents finally gave up. I guess my sister incubating their second granchild, and me telling them I'm not their son, but their firstborn daughter, may have something to do with that. Still as ace as ever though. June 29, 2020 at 11:55PM

Yes! We should just form our own family made up of mostly aces. June 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

Not at all!! I really want a setup like this too, it would be absolutely wonderful. Like, can everyone who replied to this just come join a little family with me please :P June 29, 2020 at 11:53PM

Legit. I have limited myself to two settings - #1) I find you interesting and I realize you and everyone else may think that means I want to have sex with you but that's a risk I'll take to talk to you I guess and #2) I don't talk to you. Because I just don't get the nuances in #1. So when I notice #1 is going off the rails somehow I go to #2. June 29, 2020 at 11:49PM

Yeah, if there isn't some level of romantic attraction, I think you'd need a lot more extra space to make a home like that work without killing each other. June 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

Reading through the comments and they're all saying the usual aphobic talking points. Things about how we don't exist, have a biological or mental disorder, "the woke left has made too many labels", and so on. June 29, 2020 at 11:46PM

Oh I love that kpop ace meme! June 29, 2020 at 11:46PM

You said you think your parents' incompetence stunted you. My family is very closed off emotionally, I only ever saw my parents kiss if my mom was teasing my dad the way kids do (like "ew, gross, cooties" level stuff), no one but my grandma says I love you, hugs are rare and forced, etc. I sometimes wonder if that affected me. But it didn't affect my sister, and a lot of kids I grew up with had the same kind of home life and ended up more sexually active because of it, not less. In the end, your experiences shape you, but nature overrides all of that. If your brain wants sex, you'd know it. June 29, 2020 at 11:45PM

I'm childfree, neutrois, AND grey asexual. I'm also pretty sure I'm mostly/completely infertile due to my health (PCOS and God knows what else). I literally have no need or want for a uterus or ovaries, they only cause me pain (psychological and physical) June 29, 2020 at 11:39PM

Man, I wish I had friends I could handle living with first. June 29, 2020 at 11:35PM

Yeah, my friends want to move in with me, but they're toxic af, so I wouldn't be able to handle them daily. June 29, 2020 at 11:34PM

My friends and I used to joke around with this idea back in our early teens. It wasn't really a joke to me though. June 29, 2020 at 11:33PM

Neat ^^ June 29, 2020 at 11:33PM

Wanting to yeet uterus AFAB trans people🤝 AFAB aces or anyone else not wanting kids June 29, 2020 at 11:33PM

It also works for sex-positive ace people. June 29, 2020 at 11:29PM

I take birth control pills, and over the past year and a bit have been taking it continuously (with Drs orders) so I don't get a period. It's such a blessing. June 29, 2020 at 11:27PM

I do not think I have ever shipped characters romantically, but I sometimes QPR-ship. June 29, 2020 at 11:26PM

Sounds awesome. Does anyone know where i find this in Aus? June 29, 2020 at 11:20PM

Oh i wish this so bad. I wish i could just live together with my best friends this way :( June 29, 2020 at 11:19PM

I was pretty happy to see this scene but a bit disappointed with the character's description of sex. Although her approach might seem accurate to some aces, to me it's more like the feast is made up of foods I just don't like. I am sex-positive but I'm just not attracted to anyone. June 29, 2020 at 11:17PM

Monster if the week ace is my new form. Does this mean I get to fight the Power Rangers? June 29, 2020 at 11:16PM

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Technically not "over thirty", but I figured I'm close and would get slightly more mature advice here. ​ The situation is: she's only a month and a half out of a long-term relationship (where she did the breaking up and says she's not "hurting" from it), and I'm catching feelings for her and want to start veering towards a relationship (or at least exclusivity) with her. I don't know if she's talking to/seeing/sleeping with other guys, and we haven't had the "feelings" or exclusivity talk either. We've been seeing each other from pretty soon after she broke up with her previous boyfriend, have had about 10-12 dates/hangouts or whatever you want to call them, and have also been sleeping with each other without protection (but she is on birth control). I hate power games in relationships, but I know they exist, and feel like if I'M the one who brings up feelings and exclusivity I'm going to put myself at a huge powe...

A useful trait to pass on to the ne- oh wait a second June 29, 2020 at 12:01AM

Lol same June 28, 2020 at 11:56PM

Thanks. I feel like this could be helpful for someone else, but I also like queer platonic relationships, so I guess friendship and dating are pretty close to the same thing for me. June 28, 2020 at 11:55PM

I'm similar, half the time afterwards I’ll feel really gross, physically sick even. June 28, 2020 at 11:54PM

Aces and Birbs are both relevant to my interests. June 28, 2020 at 11:51PM

I thought it was a satirical joke. Like when people are in ridiculously sexy clothes in situation that would make no sense and then they drink the soda and we're all collectively "Haha that's funny because that would never happen". But apparently I was wrong. June 28, 2020 at 11:48PM

My apartment is getting upgraded so i figured I'd get something for my wall to celebrate Pride June 28, 2020 at 11:44PM

Thank you! June 28, 2020 at 11:42PM

Noo! I'll help you find the right plant for you! Do you kill them with love or forget about them? June 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

Jfc, someone said it! June 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

I actually never knew that. Like....really? June 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

I didn’t know we had a specific aroace flag. I have just been content with the aro and then the ace flags lol June 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

Acclaimed biosocial expert “BC” says asexuals don’t exist. Well, now we can rest the case. Last one out hits the lights. June 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

Hahaha 😂😂 June 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

ace flag is cool, but trans has to be my favorite. the colors are so pretty June 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

I'm not personally Ace (completely supportive of y'all though!!) just here to clear something up real quick: Not everything who isn't Ace is sexually excited or attracted when viewing commercials or any form of media like that. Sure, there definitely are some people who that kind of advertisement strategy is more effective on due to the fact that some are more sexually-inclined than others, but it all depends on the person. It is a targeted advertising strategy for a specific type of person. Just seeing a lot of comments like "Oh, didn't know everyone else was like that" Just wanted to clear it up! :) June 28, 2020 at 11:34PM

Yeah, I don’t think any one was watching Baywatch for the riveting plots 😅 June 28, 2020 at 11:34PM

Ahh okay thank you. I did have one girlfriend she never asked but I knew she wanted because she was very sex driven. Apart from that no one has ever really asked me. It’s more just me thinking about people asking me to send and then getting myself worked up about it without a reason. June 28, 2020 at 11:33PM

well... the result was unexpected June 28, 2020 at 11:32PM

You just made my day! June 28, 2020 at 11:30PM

I had this happen too! But for me it was being on the school bus in high school and we’d drive past the football fields while the players were practicing shirtless. All the girls would go over to that side of the bus and talk about how hot they were and I’m just sitting their like yeah, sure, whatever, back to my book. June 28, 2020 at 11:27PM

Hope ya'll are doing okay over there. We haven't had showers in awhile. But yeah, a legit thunderstorm just popped up just now. June 28, 2020 at 11:25PM

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I dunno, the word I've always used to describe Frodo and Sam was "friends." I think it's possible that we have different ideas of how far friendship can go. June 27, 2020 at 11:53PM

Thanks! June 27, 2020 at 11:51PM

I don't think every doctor is. Tenth hint at sexuality a lot but regardless yeah that's pretty weird. For me Tenth is just demi and a kisser. Didn't Twelfth say canonically to Billie something along the lines "Romantic and sexual relationships weren't really a big deal to time lords and that it's just a weird human thing and that humans don't really understand how more powerful other type of relationships and friendships like his one with The Master are" Actually, his speech is about gender. He says the Master was his man crush at the time of the academy and Billie asks if Time Lords only change gender smoothly and he says that: "They [Time Lords] are the most civilized civilization in the universe and they are beyond human conception of gender." Which segway me into...I think the reason it bothers you and me so much is that Doctor Who is literally the only show (like honestly...name another one) that values QPR other romantic or se...

I mean, teenagers normally start puberty at that age, though some people start a bit sooner/later. I am not an expert but I think just waiting to see what happens would not be a bad idea, you can always search some information in the internet, though “sexuality test” are worthless so don’t even bother about them. June 27, 2020 at 11:48PM

YAY June 27, 2020 at 11:46PM

Wooow whaaat...is that a fucking thing ? Is this what I've been all along ?! Okay but do aegosexual want to have sexual relationship and take part in sexual activities or is it purely about fantasies ? Also have you heard of cupiosexual and could you explain what you think the difference would be ? (cupiosexual is how I identify currently) June 27, 2020 at 11:45PM

Wait what ? I thought that was cupiosexual ? Because I'm cupiosexual. June 27, 2020 at 11:43PM

Based: Correct within a certain set of beliefs. June 27, 2020 at 11:40PM

Yeah I feel like you'd just have to have more than 5 on this test to be considered acespec honestly lol. June 27, 2020 at 11:39PM

I got 52 June 27, 2020 at 11:38PM

I think the questions themselves are just poorly worded given the answer scale. June 27, 2020 at 11:37PM

I do believe you've started a fashion (more rings looking like this should be made, even though I'm set on a design for my future ace ring) June 27, 2020 at 11:36PM

sorry what does this have to do with asexuality? June 27, 2020 at 11:33PM

How does it compare to the originals? They are the only ones I’ve seen and I didn’t like them due to lack of character development. June 27, 2020 at 11:33PM

Without even reading the comment, my brain went straight to there June 27, 2020 at 11:31PM

based is good June 27, 2020 at 11:31PM

Isn’t this just general advice though? June 27, 2020 at 11:29PM

This is awesome June 27, 2020 at 11:28PM

Can someone translate this into old millennial? June 27, 2020 at 11:27PM

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I (f46) have been seeing a guy for over a year (m38) who was pretty persistent in the beginning, but we were definitely still seeing other people until the pandemic hit. Still, we saw each other pretty much once a week (or more) until this last month. Legitimately our kid schedules stopped lining up and things started opening up and we both got busy. He’s been clear all along that this is something he wants... for now. Seems to think my life would make his pretty complicated, even though I have no interest in that kind of mess. In the past, I would have felt the pullback and panicked. But this time? I just asked what was up, let him know if he’s not into it anymore that’s ok, and got the long list of reasons he was busy (why do we do that when we could all just say I’m just not interested in prioritizing you right now?), and his need for time to himself. All legit, and probably mostly true, but also all shit we say when we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. I made clear I’d love ...

Is anyone else in same boat? I'm an attractive, fit, financially independent, fun loving gal with a great life. I have no problem finding guys to date, I just seem hard pressed to find anyone I deem worthy of the long haul. Guy 1: very nice guy but I left him after 9 months because he just became bossy and boring. Guy 2: I could see a future with this guy but he has veteran PTSD and doesnt want to get serious. Guy 3: legit rockstar in a well known band. Way too much fun but its never gonna be a long term thing. Is it too much to ask for someone with a big adventuresome personality? Or am I doomed forever? Submitted June 27, 2020 at 11:41PM Is anyone else in same boat? I'm an attractive, fit, financially independent, fun loving gal with a great life. I have no problem finding guys to date, I just seem hard pressed to find anyone I deem worthy of the long haul.Guy 1: very nice guy but I left him after 9 months because he just became bossy and boring.Guy 2: I could see ...

Other than the obvious negative profiles, I personally can’t stand when someone writes “no drama” or something like “if you’re not going to bother talking, swipe left”. It makes me feel like these guys attract drama and are bitter. Submitted June 27, 2020 at 11:43PM Other than the obvious negative profiles, I personally can’t stand when someone writes “no drama” or something like “if you’re not going to bother talking, swipe left”. It makes me feel like these guys attract drama and are bitter.

Yeah but the thing about Boku no Pico is that there also exists an anime called Boku no Hero Academia, so innocent people could think that’s what they’re watching, but 177013 is porn and you need to know which website to use. Now 177013 isn’t as just shockingly gross as something like Euphoria, but it’s more sad just watching the descent into addiction and homelessness. One of my friends read it and was extremely messed up for a week. June 27, 2020 at 12:00AM

I’m suddenly so grateful I’ve seen this Euphoria only June 27, 2020 at 12:00AM

I'm sorry that happened to you. People just don't get the concept of split attraction at all. I think even those who grasp the basic concept of asexuality struggle with the amount of queer theory you need to really understand it. Being allo and gay is pretty straightforward, relatively speaking; anybody can understand "a man who wants to have sex with men," whether they approve of the idea or not. But really getting asexuality requires picking apart waaay too many basic cultural assumptions about love and sex for most people to bother with. June 27, 2020 at 12:00AM

God I’m the same. Except I haven’t had crushes. June 26, 2020 at 11:59PM

it's 12:58 am. close but no cigar. I'll continue scrolling. June 26, 2020 at 11:58PM

Yeah it’s awful. Off the top of my head, I remember: Guy getting a boner from a girl who was electrocuted to death A whole lot of scat (porn using poop) Forceful taking of virginities (with a lot of blood) Almost electrocuting someone with sex toys The anime form of The Human Centipede (6 girls are hooked up with tubes from anus to the next one’s mouth and given laxatives by IV because god knows someone’s going to masturbate to that) There’s more but I’m lucky to have forgot it all June 26, 2020 at 11:58PM

This this this June 26, 2020 at 11:56PM

Jesus Christ, sounds awful. Everybody I’m talking about an HBO tv series w/ real people! June 26, 2020 at 11:54PM

Um no, I’m talking about a tv show on hbo. June 26, 2020 at 11:52PM

Purple has been my favourite colour since I was a kid, I am naturally drawn to black, white and grey. I adore Venom as he's black and white. I don't get it at all but even the shade of green in the Aromantic flag is one of the only shades of green I've ever liked. The way I see people describe themselves here, the terms friends have said, everything tracks with my own life. I've felt like an outsider my whole life. I have Autism and I don't really click with other Autistics all that much. But the day I found this forum I felt I had found my home. I've never instantly gelled with something before like this it making me have an existential crisis as I worry all these years of feeling like a freak, I've snapped and made a world for myself and am currently sitting in an insane asylum like that 1 episode of Buffy The Vampire Slayer 😹😹😹 June 26, 2020 at 11:48PM

Asexuals can have a preference romantically. Asexuals can enjoy sex. These are two truths that a lot of people can’t seem to grasp. The fact that you are not attracted physically to other people doesn’t mean you are required to be aromantic or not take part in any sexual practices. Asexuality has a lot of gray areas and can include any number of other aspects of pride. It’s not a matter of a gay or straight label, it’s a matter of how your body and mind work together as an individual. People like that are narcissists. He wanted everything to be exactly like his narrative and couldn’t handle it if someone didn’t follow suit. Disgusting. June 26, 2020 at 11:46PM

Boku no pico is kinda outdated for fake recommendations It’s all about 177013 now June 26, 2020 at 11:45PM

That sub is little more than an echo chamber. Waste of bits. June 26, 2020 at 11:39PM

Omg, yes. Those people are the worst to run into. Luckily, there are people that would like to learn first before forming conclusions, but the other types of people are much more common. "You can't be gay and aroace. Not even gay and ace. That's not how that works." Yes, please explain to me my own sexuality. This man who is attracted to other men can't be gay. Never. June 26, 2020 at 11:39PM

Sorry it’s bad advice, you can “do literally anything else” it doesn’t magically make you happy and ok June 26, 2020 at 11:36PM

lol 😂 June 26, 2020 at 11:34PM

Its so hurtful, tbh. We think we have a place there (its in the name!) but we dont. And we also dont have a real place one the other side. And reasons why this happens, from telling that ace, demi and even aro and so on, dont excist. Or that if you dont have a need for sex how could you be part of a community where there it is a big part? Or we didnt suffer enough for this. When I dont that this was a game, who has more than the other instead of giving a save space for people. June 26, 2020 at 11:34PM

Ty ✌️ June 26, 2020 at 11:34PM

My mother told me today that there are people on Facebook who think POTUS and VP are clones, so I can’t get too excited about their imaginations running into reality. June 26, 2020 at 11:34PM

Went out for late lunch today,ordered his food.Came different from what he ordered.I said to him,let me go get the waitress.He has injured back,is 100% disabled.Making sure he doesnt have to get up etc..Anyway ,to kinda add to it.Right now I got a Karen haircut as I am trying to grow hair out and I am all gray. He says ,go get the manager..lol..I am like..OH HELL NO.Thinking I might end up on here or TikTok...I said I take care of it..lol.I swear I am supernice and not a Karen.But he was upset ,waitress was sorry,not her fault,it happens,she was a sweetheart. Husband was sooo hangry tho..And yeah they messed up but at the end he was pretty much licking the plate. Been with him 30 years.Best man in the world.Still gives me goosebumbs when he touches me.There isnt a woman on this earth that gets treated better than I am at the end of the day. Tell your loved one how you truly feel.You might not be able tommorow.. Peace Submitted June 26, 2020 at 11:36PM Went out for late lunch to...