Do I have the right to feel insecure here?

My GF goes out of town for work often. An organizer from another city invited her to do a presentation and payed for her trip-- this is typical. Yesterday she tells me that this organizer lives in the city, but got a room for himself in the same hotel he booked her in, because he wants to be nearer to the conference. When she arrived he suggested they drive together to the empty conference building that hasn't started yet to scout it out and prepare. She didn't feel the need, but he insisted. The place was closed and they drove back to the hotel where they're both staying. I text my GF around dinner and she never responded for an hour which is out of character of her. No worries, just odd. Then we have a phone call tonight and at the end of it she casually mentions that the organizer invited her to have dinner with him one on one after the conference. That made me feel slightly uncomfortable, so I asked her "Does this guy like you?" and instead of answering the question she said "He's fat and married, and has kids. He showed me pictures of his kids". I reply to her "Married? It's a conference. A ton of married people cheat".

She can go to dinner with whom ever she wants, but it made me feel uncomfortable. And when she brought up that she went to dinner with him she first said "My client took me out to dinner. The guy organizer who sponsored my trip. The guy who invited me here..". Wait, is it her client or the organizer? Two completely different people here. Oh and he's driving her to the airport tomorrow morning at 5AM.. Pretty large and unneeded favor.

I just felt odd and insecure about the whole thing. She's out of town, staying at the same hotel as the local organizer who invited her and payed for her trip, car-pooling around with him, and went out for dinner one-on-one with him (and casually mentions it at the end of our call).

What do I do? I can't tell if my insecurity is justified.

Submitted April 11, 2019 at 04:30AM

My GF goes out of town for work often. An organizer from another city invited her to do a presentation and payed for her trip-- this is typical. Yesterday she tells me that this organizer lives in the city, but got a room for himself in the same hotel he booked her in, because he wants to be nearer to the conference. When she arrived he suggested they drive together to the empty conference building that hasn't started yet to scout it out and prepare. She didn't feel the need, but he insisted. The place was closed and they drove back to the hotel where they're both staying. I text my GF around dinner and she never responded for an hour which is out of character of her. No worries, just odd. Then we have a phone call tonight and at the end of it she casually mentions that the organizer invited her to have dinner with him one on one after the conference. That made me feel slightly uncomfortable, so I asked her "Does this guy like you?" and instead of answering the question she said "He's fat and married, and has kids. He showed me pictures of his kids". I reply to her "Married? It's a conference. A ton of married people cheat".She can go to dinner with whom ever she wants, but it made me feel uncomfortable. And when she brought up that she went to dinner with him she first said "My client took me out to dinner. The guy organizer who sponsored my trip. The guy who invited me here..". Wait, is it her client or the organizer? Two completely different people here. Oh and he's driving her to the airport tomorrow morning at 5AM.. Pretty large and unneeded favor.I just felt odd and insecure about the whole thing. She's out of town, staying at the same hotel as the local organizer who invited her and payed for her trip, car-pooling around with him, and went out for dinner one-on-one with him (and casually mentions it at the end of our call).What do I do? I can't tell if my insecurity is justified.