Amazing first date, texts he’s looking forward to doing it again soon and then

34F. We texted for around 2 weeks, pretty lengthy texts, meet for what turned into a 6 hour date of drinks and chatting the whole time, neither of us looked at our phones and when the bar started closing up and I saw that it was 1:30am I couldn’t believe it.

I found him super attractive, he told me he’s tired of the dating apps and just wants to find someone to be with to share fun things with. He asked me what my dealbreakers were, asked questions that indicated he genuinely wanted to get to know me further etc.

He walks me home and I wanted to kiss him but bc I was in front of my building with my doorman seeing me I felt a bit put on the spot so I just gave him a hug. The next morning I text him “glad to meet you, I had a really great time,” because well, I’m not good at playing games and I like being honest. He texts back within the hour, says “had a great time, glad to meet you too, looking forward to doing it again!”.

That was Saturday morning. No texts since then but I figured he was busy. This afternoon (Wednesday) I text him “Hi, how are you? Hope you’re having a great week”.

And now SILENCE. Nothing. Wtf. I don’t get it at all. Why not just tell me he’s not interested, or even just go ahead and not reply to my message on Saturday. Clearly he’s not just busy, bc if he was, he could’ve just texted that.

I’ve been single for 3 years now. Have gone on 37 first dates in the past 2 years or so. Only a handful of second dates and then nothing. “Dated” one guy very casually for 6 months and then found out he’s married.

I have a successful career, have very often been told by complete strangers (old grandmother types, sweet old men) that I’m beautiful. I’ve been through a ton of medical issues and spent half of my 20s in hospitals, which has made me just be real with people and not take things for granted. I’m about 30 pounds overweight, a size 10-12, so I realize I’m not everyone’s type. But I have 3 full length pictures in my profile that accurately portray my size, so I’d think if a guy wasn’t into me bc of my extra pounds, he’d just not match with me in the first place.

I just feel so done with it all. And yeah I understand the whole work on yourself, find a way to enjoy being alone and not have a partner blah blah blah but really, I just wish I could know what’s so wrong with me that every guy I meet is so repulsed by me that they have no desire to even continue talking at all

Submitted April 11, 2019 at 03:00AM

34F. We texted for around 2 weeks, pretty lengthy texts, meet for what turned into a 6 hour date of drinks and chatting the whole time, neither of us looked at our phones and when the bar started closing up and I saw that it was 1:30am I couldn’t believe it.I found him super attractive, he told me he’s tired of the dating apps and just wants to find someone to be with to share fun things with. He asked me what my dealbreakers were, asked questions that indicated he genuinely wanted to get to know me further etc.He walks me home and I wanted to kiss him but bc I was in front of my building with my doorman seeing me I felt a bit put on the spot so I just gave him a hug. The next morning I text him “glad to meet you, I had a really great time,” because well, I’m not good at playing games and I like being honest. He texts back within the hour, says “had a great time, glad to meet you too, looking forward to doing it again!”.That was Saturday morning. No texts since then but I figured he was busy. This afternoon (Wednesday) I text him “Hi, how are you? Hope you’re having a great week”.And now SILENCE. Nothing. Wtf. I don’t get it at all. Why not just tell me he’s not interested, or even just go ahead and not reply to my message on Saturday. Clearly he’s not just busy, bc if he was, he could’ve just texted that.I’ve been single for 3 years now. Have gone on 37 first dates in the past 2 years or so. Only a handful of second dates and then nothing. “Dated” one guy very casually for 6 months and then found out he’s married.I have a successful career, have very often been told by complete strangers (old grandmother types, sweet old men) that I’m beautiful. I’ve been through a ton of medical issues and spent half of my 20s in hospitals, which has made me just be real with people and not take things for granted. I’m about 30 pounds overweight, a size 10-12, so I realize I’m not everyone’s type. But I have 3 full length pictures in my profile that accurately portray my size, so I’d think if a guy wasn’t into me bc of my extra pounds, he’d just not match with me in the first place.I just feel so done with it all. And yeah I understand the whole work on yourself, find a way to enjoy being alone and not have a partner blah blah blah but really, I just wish I could know what’s so wrong with me that every guy I meet is so repulsed by me that they have no desire to even continue talking at all