Was this rude or am I overreacting?

Recently matched up with a girl on a dating app a few days ago and our chats were good. I think it's going well enough that I should ask to meet up for a drink and see how things go. But then she asks me, what's wrong with you? Why are you still single? I tried giving a brush off answer saying if I knew that I probably wouldn't be single hoping she would laugh and drop it. But no, she persists asking why people have broke up with me, shouldn't I have some idea of what I'm doing wrong?

At this point I'm turned off and felt all my interest in her evaporate. I haven't responded to her since she asked this yesterday afternoon and I don't plan on saying anything more to her. Or am I being too sensitive and should give her an answer? My thoughts are is that this is a very intrusive and rude question to ask someone you haven't even shared a cup of coffee with. I'm opening to different lines of thoughts here so please let me know what you think.

EDIT:Thanks all for the responses! Most of you feel she was rude in asking or I am doing the right thing by moving along. A smaller group thinks it was a badly done but a legitimate question and I should talk to her. And the smallest group thinks it was meant to be a joke and I am being thinned skin about it. I’ll just un-match her from my app and move along.



Submitted May 15, 2019 at 03:04PM

Recently matched up with a girl on a dating app a few days ago and our chats were good. I think it's going well enough that I should ask to meet up for a drink and see how things go. But then she asks me, what's wrong with you? Why are you still single? I tried giving a brush off answer saying if I knew that I probably wouldn't be single hoping she would laugh and drop it. But no, she persists asking why people have broke up with me, shouldn't I have some idea of what I'm doing wrong?At this point I'm turned off and felt all my interest in her evaporate. I haven't responded to her since she asked this yesterday afternoon and I don't plan on saying anything more to her. Or am I being too sensitive and should give her an answer? My thoughts are is that this is a very intrusive and rude question to ask someone you haven't even shared a cup of coffee with. I'm opening to different lines of thoughts here so please let me know what you think.EDIT:Thanks all for the responses! Most of you feel she was rude in asking or I am doing the right thing by moving along. A smaller group thinks it was a badly done but a legitimate question and I should talk to her. And the smallest group thinks it was meant to be a joke and I am being thinned skin about it. I’ll just un-match her from my app and move along.
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