FWB > Something More?

My bad, this is gonna be a long one.

Met this guy around the beginning of the year on a dating app and clicked pretty well. Good banter, into some of the same things sexually, tons of the same views. Set up a time to hang out, weather didn't cooperate so a week or so later he jokes that I should come visit him on lunch break. So I do. The goal at this point was a hook up - for both of us. It was mind blowing.

By the time I got home we had plans to hang out that weekend and he tells me he actually misses me. It wasn't just sex, it was great cuddling and chatting too. Do the same thing a couple of days later, before hanging out that weekend. After the second meet up we get pretty in the weeds on what kind of future we might like, but both are very adamant that at this point FWB is where we want to be.

In the past few months he does some really relationship-type stuff. Like drives 30+ minutes just to take me to dinner and tuck me in after a really long work day. We see each other 1-2 times a week and take turns making food. He'll randomly kiss my forehead. Just sweet stuff. Sometimes we have pretty deep conversations, but at the same time sometimes he puts up a wall.

A month or so ago I asked him how he felt about me. All positive things. I pushed and asked about a relationship and he said he wasn't sure he wanted one - with anyone.

At this point I really really like this guy. He is a person I can see myself with for a very long time. I'm trying to be patient. I tried dating other guys and every one pales in comparison. I do not want to rush him or push him to do anything.

What the heck do I do?

TL;DR I've caught feelings, he says he's not sure he wants a relationship, but does very relationship-y things. What do I do?

Submitted May 15, 2019 at 07:33PM

My bad, this is gonna be a long one.Met this guy around the beginning of the year on a dating app and clicked pretty well. Good banter, into some of the same things sexually, tons of the same views. Set up a time to hang out, weather didn't cooperate so a week or so later he jokes that I should come visit him on lunch break. So I do. The goal at this point was a hook up - for both of us. It was mind blowing.By the time I got home we had plans to hang out that weekend and he tells me he actually misses me. It wasn't just sex, it was great cuddling and chatting too. Do the same thing a couple of days later, before hanging out that weekend. After the second meet up we get pretty in the weeds on what kind of future we might like, but both are very adamant that at this point FWB is where we want to be.In the past few months he does some really relationship-type stuff. Like drives 30+ minutes just to take me to dinner and tuck me in after a really long work day. We see each other 1-2 times a week and take turns making food. He'll randomly kiss my forehead. Just sweet stuff. Sometimes we have pretty deep conversations, but at the same time sometimes he puts up a wall.A month or so ago I asked him how he felt about me. All positive things. I pushed and asked about a relationship and he said he wasn't sure he wanted one - with anyone.At this point I really really like this guy. He is a person I can see myself with for a very long time. I'm trying to be patient. I tried dating other guys and every one pales in comparison. I do not want to rush him or push him to do anything.What the heck do I do?TL;DR I've caught feelings, he says he's not sure he wants a relationship, but does very relationship-y things. What do I do?