/u/vorellaraek on Am i really asexual or some odd offbranch?

Only you can decide whether asexuality fits you, but here's the 101 explanation if it helps.

Asexuality is defined as the lack of sexual attraction - not really having a visceral sexual interest in other people.

The details of this can get complicated quickly.

Some asexuals are totally celibate and repulsed by sex in general, but that's only one way of many to be asexual.

Attraction isn't libido, so it's pretty common for aces to masturbate.

It's also very normal for people of all sexualities to experience arousal in response to sexual situations and especially direct stimulation, even in the absence of attraction. Your body can 'enjoy' something without your mind being all the way in it.

And being willing to do some sexual things with a partner, even if you wouldn't seek them out for yourself, is probably the most common reason that aces have sex.

There's also grey asexuality, for the grey area between ace and not. This is usually about really rare attraction, but there's quite a lot of variation here.

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All this to say, nothing you do really disqualifies you from being ace. It's about what - or who - you want.

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Good luck on your journey!

May 15, 2019 at 05:44AM