Devastated.

I've[24M] been talking to this girl[23M] for the past week, she's amazing to say the least. We texted each other every single day for almost the entire day(at a reasonable pace of course), she liked everything about me, I liked everything about her. There seemed to be no qualms about each other without even having gone on a first date yet. In a way we were both too good to be true for each other. We both agreed we had such an amazing connection and were overly excited to see each other for the first time.

We were finally able to set up a time to have a "first date", which was last night. She drove to my house around 7:30PM and I took her to the park to hang out. We spent 4 hours there walking around, talking, telling stories, she laughed at my jokes, we kissed each other multiple times, it felt like we connected even more, it was everything and more than I expected, it felt like that week of talking materialized into something even more amazing with her.

I got her back to her car, we kissed again, I told her to drive safe and text me when she got home safely - which she did. I texted her and told her that I had such a good time and I was eager to see her again. She told me she had an a great time too and that it was really nice seeing me...but she didn't acknowledge me wanting to see her again. My subsequent texts to her were full of liveliness and enthusiasm, as they were when we were texting before the date, she feigned away from the texts with close ended responses. It was clear that something was amiss with her feelings towards me. I'm pretty vigilant when it comes to knowing how someone feels about me and I knew something changed.

I texted her today this morning and she carried on with some unenthusiastic and passive responses. I needed to verify that she lost interest, because her change of attitude was such a curveball to me. I told her I'm free on Thursday night and wondered if she wanted to get dinner with me. She said "Maybe? I might be headed back that morning!"(She lives with her parents half the week, 2 hours away.) Obviously a sign of disinterest to me, didn't feel great. So I said "Alright no worries." and she responded with "I'll let you know if I decide to stay longer :)" Again another "maybe" kind of answer.

It kills me inside that she flipped like a switch, but I know I can't acknowledge her about it without seeming insecure and needy. I haven't responded back. I genuinely thought she was interested in me but somewhere along the line I lost her. Perhaps someone or something else is going in her life that I'm unaware of.

I was having the best week of my life and now I'm just devastated so I needed to get this off my chest.

Submitted May 14, 2019 at 10:36PM

I've[24M] been talking to this girl[23M] for the past week, she's amazing to say the least. We texted each other every single day for almost the entire day(at a reasonable pace of course), she liked everything about me, I liked everything about her. There seemed to be no qualms about each other without even having gone on a first date yet. In a way we were both too good to be true for each other. We both agreed we had such an amazing connection and were overly excited to see each other for the first time.We were finally able to set up a time to have a "first date", which was last night. She drove to my house around 7:30PM and I took her to the park to hang out. We spent 4 hours there walking around, talking, telling stories, she laughed at my jokes, we kissed each other multiple times, it felt like we connected even more, it was everything and more than I expected, it felt like that week of talking materialized into something even more amazing with her.I got her back to her car, we kissed again, I told her to drive safe and text me when she got home safely - which she did. I texted her and told her that I had such a good time and I was eager to see her again. She told me she had an a great time too and that it was really nice seeing me...but she didn't acknowledge me wanting to see her again. My subsequent texts to her were full of liveliness and enthusiasm, as they were when we were texting before the date, she feigned away from the texts with close ended responses. It was clear that something was amiss with her feelings towards me. I'm pretty vigilant when it comes to knowing how someone feels about me and I knew something changed.I texted her today this morning and she carried on with some unenthusiastic and passive responses. I needed to verify that she lost interest, because her change of attitude was such a curveball to me. I told her I'm free on Thursday night and wondered if she wanted to get dinner with me. She said "Maybe? I might be headed back that morning!"(She lives with her parents half the week, 2 hours away.) Obviously a sign of disinterest to me, didn't feel great. So I said "Alright no worries." and she responded with "I'll let you know if I decide to stay longer :)" Again another "maybe" kind of answer.It kills me inside that she flipped like a switch, but I know I can't acknowledge her about it without seeming insecure and needy. I haven't responded back. I genuinely thought she was interested in me but somewhere along the line I lost her. Perhaps someone or something else is going in her life that I'm unaware of.I was having the best week of my life and now I'm just devastated so I needed to get this off my chest.