Was I getting played?

I dated this guy when we first worked together years ago. I knew he had a gf at the time, but after years of being together, he assured me he was leaving her, so we hooked up. Eventually it came out that he had no intention of leaving her and things ended between us. A few years later, we ended up working together again. We started hooking up again, only this time he assured me they had been broken up for months and that he was still in process of getting over it. One day I got a phone call from his ex asking me if I had been with him. I told her I was because they has split. She then proceeds to tell me they had never broken up, ever, and that they were still together. Almost immediately after she broke up with him. He called me asking me what I had done, and I told him to never speak to me again, and I blocked him. Two years after this, we started talking again. He told me he was a sex addict and that he was in recovery. We began talking again but in a very limited way.. every time he would ask for nudes or to have sex, I would refuse or leave the conversation, except for the last time and we hooked up online (but just the once). This behavior has continued with him insisting he's changed although there are some key similarities with all three time periods of us being "friends". 1) He only calls/texts at night 2) the conversation always turns sexual, even when I tell him to stop 3) He never wants to talk about real life or hang out during the day or do anything with me as a friend outside of us hooking up. So today I asked him why he only wants to talk at night.. I said it feels a lot like it has in the past. I was trying to be honest because I wanted to believe he actually changed and was hoping we could actually be friends for real this time, so I wanted to just air it out. After I said that, he said goodbye. He said he has changed, he just doesn't want drama so he blocked me. I feel like he was playing me, which is why I said something in the first place. What do you all think? Was I getting played?

Submitted April 10, 2019 at 01:14AM

I dated this guy when we first worked together years ago. I knew he had a gf at the time, but after years of being together, he assured me he was leaving her, so we hooked up. Eventually it came out that he had no intention of leaving her and things ended between us. A few years later, we ended up working together again. We started hooking up again, only this time he assured me they had been broken up for months and that he was still in process of getting over it. One day I got a phone call from his ex asking me if I had been with him. I told her I was because they has split. She then proceeds to tell me they had never broken up, ever, and that they were still together. Almost immediately after she broke up with him. He called me asking me what I had done, and I told him to never speak to me again, and I blocked him. Two years after this, we started talking again. He told me he was a sex addict and that he was in recovery. We began talking again but in a very limited way.. every time he would ask for nudes or to have sex, I would refuse or leave the conversation, except for the last time and we hooked up online (but just the once). This behavior has continued with him insisting he's changed although there are some key similarities with all three time periods of us being "friends". 1) He only calls/texts at night 2) the conversation always turns sexual, even when I tell him to stop 3) He never wants to talk about real life or hang out during the day or do anything with me as a friend outside of us hooking up. So today I asked him why he only wants to talk at night.. I said it feels a lot like it has in the past. I was trying to be honest because I wanted to believe he actually changed and was hoping we could actually be friends for real this time, so I wanted to just air it out. After I said that, he said goodbye. He said he has changed, he just doesn't want drama so he blocked me. I feel like he was playing me, which is why I said something in the first place. What do you all think? Was I getting played?