35M, 6 months in to a relationship that is all wrong for me, why can I just let it go?

Early 2018 my fiance and I split up and it was devastating for me. It took probably 6 months to get over it. We met when I was 31 and she was the one who I thought I'd never find. For 2.5 years we had a great relationship that just drifted apart.

I decided to be single for a while and then I met someone who I thought I was really compatible with - after probably 20 failed tinder/okc dates. We are close in age, interest, and life goals. That is what I'm hanging on to. She is a big-time drama queen, she is always doubting the relationship and undermining my positive thoughts. She doesn't know if we should or shouldn't be together, and goes through this phase every couple of months She disregards how I feel while giving me grief about how I'm not being supportive enough.My friends who have met her have called her a "head case" and a "narcissist" and I'm starting to see it.

I think we both know it's run its course, but for the love of me I can't just cut her loose. I want to move forward in life, get married, have kids - instead I'm mid 30s, successful, and unable to make it work. My mom is starting to think something is wrong with me!

Is anyone else here? Any success stories? I don't want to stay in a toxic relationship but I feel time is running out for me to have a family :(



Submitted April 10, 2019 at 04:43AM

Early 2018 my fiance and I split up and it was devastating for me. It took probably 6 months to get over it. We met when I was 31 and she was the one who I thought I'd never find. For 2.5 years we had a great relationship that just drifted apart.I decided to be single for a while and then I met someone who I thought I was really compatible with - after probably 20 failed tinder/okc dates. We are close in age, interest, and life goals. That is what I'm hanging on to. She is a big-time drama queen, she is always doubting the relationship and undermining my positive thoughts. She doesn't know if we should or shouldn't be together, and goes through this phase every couple of months She disregards how I feel while giving me grief about how I'm not being supportive enough.My friends who have met her have called her a "head case" and a "narcissist" and I'm starting to see it.I think we both know it's run its course, but for the love of me I can't just cut her loose. I want to move forward in life, get married, have kids - instead I'm mid 30s, successful, and unable to make it work. My mom is starting to think something is wrong with me!Is anyone else here? Any success stories? I don't want to stay in a toxic relationship but I feel time is running out for me to have a family :(
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