I wrote a poem to cope with my relationship's ending yesterday. What do you do to feel better when a relationship you invested in ends?

Someone I has been seeing for 4 months broke up with me yesterday. I'm hurt because I love this man and thought we had a lot of potential. I know I will be okay but I still cried a lot. I wrote a poem about it as a way to cope. What's your coping mechanism when something sad happens?

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" Us of Tomorrow

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You stood by the mirror

Your lips curled

One foot out the door

Leaning against my bedroom wall

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Your smile did not quite reach your eyes

And you said you were not sorry

Even if I cried

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Look at us

Each one of a kind

And one day when we look back behind

We’ll have everything that one would desire,

except we won't have each other,

you and I."

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EDITS: People seem to have problem with my saying I love this person even though I have only knew him for 4 months. To clarify this is just something I knew about my own state of mind and I have never told him that. I have dated people for longer without 1/10th of the affection I have for this man. I'm not sure its healthy but it's because I rarely ever meet someone who appreciate so many things in life that I also appreciate and don't judge me for the many strange hobbies of mine. Understand 4 months is a short time but I'm not going to negate even my own feeling by telling me my feelings weren't real. Maybe the idea of the man I was in love with wasn't but the happiness I felt was real.



Submitted May 06, 2019 at 06:30PM

Someone I has been seeing for 4 months broke up with me yesterday. I'm hurt because I love this man and thought we had a lot of potential. I know I will be okay but I still cried a lot. I wrote a poem about it as a way to cope. What's your coping mechanism when something sad happens?​" Us of Tomorrow​You stood by the mirrorYour lips curledOne foot out the doorLeaning against my bedroom wall​Your smile did not quite reach your eyesAnd you said you were not sorryEven if I cried​Look at usEach one of a kindAnd one day when we look back behindWe’ll have everything that one would desire,except we won't have each other,you and I."​EDITS: People seem to have problem with my saying I love this person even though I have only knew him for 4 months. To clarify this is just something I knew about my own state of mind and I have never told him that. I have dated people for longer without 1/10th of the affection I have for this man. I'm not sure its healthy but it's because I rarely ever meet someone who appreciate so many things in life that I also appreciate and don't judge me for the many strange hobbies of mine. Understand 4 months is a short time but I'm not going to negate even my own feeling by telling me my feelings weren't real. Maybe the idea of the man I was in love with wasn't but the happiness I felt was real.
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