Back on the scene after the demise of a long relationship. I could use some advice...

Met this girl at a party a few months ago and clicked instantly. The kind of chemistry where you catch each other's eyes from across the room constantly. We talked about music and shows and how we were both going to go to one that has finally come around this Thursday. And then just like that, she was gone. We messaged a few times in FB about other shows closer to the time we met, I gave her my number to let me know if she would be going, but nothing has come of it. To be fair, I didn't go either. But now that this show is coming up I feel that it's my one shot to see this girl I otherwise would never randomly run into in the city. Only problem is....I can't go to the show because of a work commitment. Shit.

At 27, I don't really get nervous anymore, I'm not afraid of rejection or anything and i've been pretty fortunate in the hookup arena my whole adult life (not a boast, just some context). I'm just feeling very out of the game after 5 years in a relationship. My main quesiton is how cringey would it be to just message her on FB again, explain that i'm not going to the show, and simply suggest that we grab a drink another time soon. Nothing aggressive. Just an honest expression of interest in getting to know her. In my mind that isn't that crazy. Is it? I feel like I've reached that age where i'd rather throw caution to the wind and follow my desires hoping for the best than never trying and regretting it. The only thing holding me back is the fact that we really don't even know each other. I'm following a movie scene gut feeling and that won't translate well if it's not reciprocated, or if she is involved with someone, or the million other things that could result in an empty response. AH!

Appreciate the advice in advance friends.

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 04:38AM

Met this girl at a party a few months ago and clicked instantly. The kind of chemistry where you catch each other's eyes from across the room constantly. We talked about music and shows and how we were both going to go to one that has finally come around this Thursday. And then just like that, she was gone. We messaged a few times in FB about other shows closer to the time we met, I gave her my number to let me know if she would be going, but nothing has come of it. To be fair, I didn't go either. But now that this show is coming up I feel that it's my one shot to see this girl I otherwise would never randomly run into in the city. Only problem is....I can't go to the show because of a work commitment. Shit.At 27, I don't really get nervous anymore, I'm not afraid of rejection or anything and i've been pretty fortunate in the hookup arena my whole adult life (not a boast, just some context). I'm just feeling very out of the game after 5 years in a relationship. My main quesiton is how cringey would it be to just message her on FB again, explain that i'm not going to the show, and simply suggest that we grab a drink another time soon. Nothing aggressive. Just an honest expression of interest in getting to know her. In my mind that isn't that crazy. Is it? I feel like I've reached that age where i'd rather throw caution to the wind and follow my desires hoping for the best than never trying and regretting it. The only thing holding me back is the fact that we really don't even know each other. I'm following a movie scene gut feeling and that won't translate well if it's not reciprocated, or if she is involved with someone, or the million other things that could result in an empty response. AH!Appreciate the advice in advance friends.