Hoping if you guys can help me (19M) sort out some feelings

So this girl and I (m19 and f18), have been friends since pretty much the beginning of last semester. We're in the same friend group and we have a history class together so we've been hanging out a fair bit studying together. Anyways we'd both friendzoned each other earlier this year but like within the past week or two we've both ended up liking each other and I asked her out (although she had hinted to me first that she wanted to be asked out). This is the first date I'm ever going to be on and is the first real potential I've had for a relationship.

Here is the problem though, I'm getting so stressed out. I feel like I have this balloon of stress/anxiety in my chest now and every now and then it'll inflate and I'll start wondering if it's worth it to risk ruining a good friendship, if I still like her (I'd only liked her for a few days before I asked her out, I wonder if it was me that actually did it or if I got caught up in the moment), or if I actually want a relationship at all. But then other times my stress balloon will deflate and I'll be happy with how things are going (but I can still feel the stress hiding in the background of those moments of contentment).

It's weird cause we used to be able to hang out one on one just the two of us and have fun and laugh but now there's more to it when we interact and it's not as relaxed as it used to be.

She really is nice, supportive, and pretty pretty too and I can't think of any reason why not to date her but at the same time if I'm getting so stressed sometimes that I'm wondering maybe I shouldn't? I'm not sure if I'm afraid of us being together romantically or of me messing it up or it actually working out or something else altogether.

If any of you guys have ever experienced or helped someone else in a similar situation some advice or maybe suggestions to help me figure out what I'm feeling emotionally would be helpful.

TL,DR: A girl and I were just friends but now we like each other and are going on a date soon. However now that our mutual liking for each other is in the open I alternate between feeling happy and stressed and I'm not quite sure why. Any words that could maybe help me understand my feelings would be appreciated.



Submitted May 07, 2019 at 07:03AM

So this girl and I (m19 and f18), have been friends since pretty much the beginning of last semester. We're in the same friend group and we have a history class together so we've been hanging out a fair bit studying together. Anyways we'd both friendzoned each other earlier this year but like within the past week or two we've both ended up liking each other and I asked her out (although she had hinted to me first that she wanted to be asked out). This is the first date I'm ever going to be on and is the first real potential I've had for a relationship.Here is the problem though, I'm getting so stressed out. I feel like I have this balloon of stress/anxiety in my chest now and every now and then it'll inflate and I'll start wondering if it's worth it to risk ruining a good friendship, if I still like her (I'd only liked her for a few days before I asked her out, I wonder if it was me that actually did it or if I got caught up in the moment), or if I actually want a relationship at all. But then other times my stress balloon will deflate and I'll be happy with how things are going (but I can still feel the stress hiding in the background of those moments of contentment).It's weird cause we used to be able to hang out one on one just the two of us and have fun and laugh but now there's more to it when we interact and it's not as relaxed as it used to be.She really is nice, supportive, and pretty pretty too and I can't think of any reason why not to date her but at the same time if I'm getting so stressed sometimes that I'm wondering maybe I shouldn't? I'm not sure if I'm afraid of us being together romantically or of me messing it up or it actually working out or something else altogether.If any of you guys have ever experienced or helped someone else in a similar situation some advice or maybe suggestions to help me figure out what I'm feeling emotionally would be helpful.TL,DR: A girl and I were just friends but now we like each other and are going on a date soon. However now that our mutual liking for each other is in the open I alternate between feeling happy and stressed and I'm not quite sure why. Any words that could maybe help me understand my feelings would be appreciated.
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