How do i be patient with my boyfriends sudden crashed sex drive?

so my boyfriend and i have lived with each other for over 5 months. our sex life used to be fine and we’d have sex 3-4 times a week which was perfect for me and just the right amount but lately it’s crashed immensely and we have sex usually once every 10-14 days which is driving me insane. he says it’s because he’s just tired from work and has no energy once he comes home even tho he used to be fine before. any time i try bringing up the fact that we don’t have sex as much as we used to and it’d be nice to at least try a bit more he just gets mad and says he doesn’t wanna talk about it and goes back to complaining about him being too tired. the thing is is that he still expects head from me and says it will make him happy but i don’t even wanna do it if he can’t do something for me that i’ve been wanting... idk if i’m going crazy for feeling like this but it’s getting frustrating. he also says it’s just because we’re out of the “honeymoon phase” but like, that doesn’t mean you need to give up on trying ? sometimes it makes me think i don’t turn him on enough anymore and i’m not good enough but that’s probably just my insecurities breaking through now. he also says 3-4 times a week is unrealistic and once a week is normal (if that). it’s just confusing to me cause this sudden change of his mind is just coming out of nowhere and it’s tough to handle it, especially when he doesn’t even like the thought of me getting myself off when he doesn’t want it.. arghhh anyone experience anything similar? how did u deal with it? anything i should say to my partner?

Submitted May 17, 2019 at 06:17AM

so my boyfriend and i have lived with each other for over 5 months. our sex life used to be fine and we’d have sex 3-4 times a week which was perfect for me and just the right amount but lately it’s crashed immensely and we have sex usually once every 10-14 days which is driving me insane. he says it’s because he’s just tired from work and has no energy once he comes home even tho he used to be fine before. any time i try bringing up the fact that we don’t have sex as much as we used to and it’d be nice to at least try a bit more he just gets mad and says he doesn’t wanna talk about it and goes back to complaining about him being too tired. the thing is is that he still expects head from me and says it will make him happy but i don’t even wanna do it if he can’t do something for me that i’ve been wanting... idk if i’m going crazy for feeling like this but it’s getting frustrating. he also says it’s just because we’re out of the “honeymoon phase” but like, that doesn’t mean you need to give up on trying ? sometimes it makes me think i don’t turn him on enough anymore and i’m not good enough but that’s probably just my insecurities breaking through now. he also says 3-4 times a week is unrealistic and once a week is normal (if that). it’s just confusing to me cause this sudden change of his mind is just coming out of nowhere and it’s tough to handle it, especially when he doesn’t even like the thought of me getting myself off when he doesn’t want it.. arghhh anyone experience anything similar? how did u deal with it? anything i should say to my partner?