F(21) Never wet, even when I orgasm?

Using a throwaway account cause I was an idiot and told people my real Reddit username :(

Anyways, as the title says, I never get wet, like at all. I can have sex, or use a vibrator or whatever, and I CAN climax, but I don't get wet. Lube is my best friend hahah. Obviously, most partners I have been with assume I am faking my orgasms which I couldn't even if I tried (terrible at faking things and lying!). I am on birth control pills (Blisolvi FE) so have been wondering if that is why and if it's messing with my hormones? I'm in between health insurances right now so haven't had a chance to ask a doctor or gynecologist and I am suuuper shy talking to them anyways.

I am 90% sure I have vaginismus (Definition: a condition involving a muscle spasm in the pelvic floor muscles. It can make it painful, difficult, or impossible to have sexual intercourse). I can't really have sex with bigger guys (my vagina literally just won't let anything in no matter how ready/turned on/relaxed I am) but am fine with smaller guys; however, while I can be fingered, it is extremely uncomfortable (not sure why I don't like fingers but I do like PIV when it fits). I'd like to be comfortable with fingering, not sure how I can get there though. Vaginismus is usually due to emotional factors though I am not sure what that would be for me, maybe this also has to do with my lack of wetness? I have never been sexually assaulted or anything like that so really not sure why I have it/ what to do about it.

Looking for people who have maybe seen this before or can relate or advice? I just wanna be wet, ya know!? hahaha awk.

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(Also, vaginismus is such a bad name for a condition, "Hi, sorry you won't fit in me, I have vaginismus", like can we come up with a better sounding name for it? I cringe every time I say/write it)



Submitted April 12, 2019 at 02:36AM

Using a throwaway account cause I was an idiot and told people my real Reddit username :(Anyways, as the title says, I never get wet, like at all. I can have sex, or use a vibrator or whatever, and I CAN climax, but I don't get wet. Lube is my best friend hahah. Obviously, most partners I have been with assume I am faking my orgasms which I couldn't even if I tried (terrible at faking things and lying!). I am on birth control pills (Blisolvi FE) so have been wondering if that is why and if it's messing with my hormones? I'm in between health insurances right now so haven't had a chance to ask a doctor or gynecologist and I am suuuper shy talking to them anyways.I am 90% sure I have vaginismus (Definition: a condition involving a muscle spasm in the pelvic floor muscles. It can make it painful, difficult, or impossible to have sexual intercourse). I can't really have sex with bigger guys (my vagina literally just won't let anything in no matter how ready/turned on/relaxed I am) but am fine with smaller guys; however, while I can be fingered, it is extremely uncomfortable (not sure why I don't like fingers but I do like PIV when it fits). I'd like to be comfortable with fingering, not sure how I can get there though. Vaginismus is usually due to emotional factors though I am not sure what that would be for me, maybe this also has to do with my lack of wetness? I have never been sexually assaulted or anything like that so really not sure why I have it/ what to do about it.Looking for people who have maybe seen this before or can relate or advice? I just wanna be wet, ya know!? hahaha awk.​(Also, vaginismus is such a bad name for a condition, "Hi, sorry you won't fit in me, I have vaginismus", like can we come up with a better sounding name for it? I cringe every time I say/write it)
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