I feel like every time things are going well with somebody, I always find a way to overthink it. And then, I force myself to want too much too fast and decide to figure out a way to get them to end it. For example, I’ve been talking to someone for a month. I noticed some changes in how they’re communicating with me, I act mildly clingy, and immediately decide they don’t want me. Then I send a message asking if they want something or not (knowing full well it’s too soon to know and definitely not a good time to ask). That way, I can go back to square one guilt free. It’s a constant cycle and I’m not sure how to break it. I’m in the process of finding a new therapist here, but in the mean time, am I the only one that acts like this? Any advice (other than therapy)? Submitted February 01, 2021 at 12:08AM I feel like every time things are going well with somebody, I always find a way to overthink it. And then, I force myself to want too much too fast and decide to figure out a way t...

I was dating a girl for a couple months and she cut things off saying she didn't feel I had enough mature mentality and I'm not sure what that means since she didn't elaborate? Submitted February 01, 2021 at 12:15AM I was dating a girl for a couple months and she cut things off saying she didn't feel I had enough mature mentality and I'm not sure what that means since she didn't elaborate?

Can any guy give me some advice about how i can muster up courage to talk to ladies i like, i don't know for what reason i can flirt to ladies i don't even know and i don't like and for some reasons there are ladies that falls for me that i don't even like why is this. And my balls just hides when it comes to the ladies i like the hell. My guess is that i'm afraid to commit and show my true self or introduce my life to them is that it? Submitted February 01, 2021 at 12:17AM Can any guy give me some advice about how i can muster up courage to talk to ladies i like, i don't know for what reason i can flirt to ladies i don't even know and i don't like and for some reasons there are ladies that falls for me that i don't even like why is this. And my balls just hides when it comes to the ladies i like the hell.My guess is that i'm afraid to commit and show my true self or introduce my life to them is that it?

That pic is awfully saucy for being an "asexual app" February 01, 2021 at 12:00AM

I seriously just had this revelation the other day. You aren't alone. 😅 January 31, 2021 at 11:59PM

Asking what they think of the lgbtq community then asking a bit later what they know about asexuality. January 31, 2021 at 11:47PM

I heard someone describe being asexual like this: when you see an absolute beautiful person, but you don't think they would be more attractive naked on top or under you, that's possibly because you don't feel sexual attraction. January 31, 2021 at 11:46PM

I'm glad I could be of help. Usually it's just kinda there and not very strong. A little bit uncomfortableness. Bur by now I'm pretty good at telling people if I start to feel extremely uncomfortable or in overall avoid conversations like this completely. January 31, 2021 at 11:46PM

not an expert, but I'd say 1) only if you're 100% sure you want to 2) only with someone who you trust enough to stop if you don't want to continue. January 31, 2021 at 11:33PM

I have two birds and even my grandma says "How is your son and his Kids doing?" when refering to them January 31, 2021 at 11:31PM

where did you get that picture of me? January 31, 2021 at 11:31PM

Hey! It's cool. There's more confused people out there than you realise. I'm still working myself out, take your time. January 31, 2021 at 11:27PM

Thanks for the tips. I'm pretty sure I am ace, but I would like to explore sexuality a little bit (safely of course!). January 31, 2021 at 11:22PM

Np, good luck finding something you like 😁 January 31, 2021 at 11:20PM

Thanks😊 January 31, 2021 at 11:18PM

Pregnant Ace here. It is... an interesting experience. January 31, 2021 at 11:17PM

If they’re your friends and they are lgbtq+ themselves then they’re probably more likely to accept you. I’m wish you the best of luck. January 31, 2021 at 11:17PM

Try Etsy, lots of choice and price points January 31, 2021 at 11:16PM

I’d suggest doing some research and trying to find personal stories and see if you relate to any of them. You sound ace to me, even if your sexuality fluctuates over time you can still be a valid ace. January 31, 2021 at 11:13PM

This is exactly how I feel. Aroace makes me feel (I dunno, warm and fuzzy?) and agender is just an afterthought. It still feels good, but not in the same way or to the same degree. January 31, 2021 at 11:12PM

Exactly what I did. My mom is thrilled with her grand-pup! January 31, 2021 at 11:11PM

It sounds like she’s sex favorable, above all else I’d advise communication. If you make it clear you just want to understand her I doubt she will feel insulted if you ask her questions like this. January 31, 2021 at 11:07PM

Both are great January 31, 2021 at 11:07PM

Honestly it's always been so confusing that in English you don't have two different words for this, in Italian we have asessuato=reproduces asexually and asessuale=the sexuality January 30, 2021 at 11:58PM

Oh thanks ! That's really good songs ! For the second one I never realized that's interpretation about it, while I like Ray Charles! It's very interesting to understand the lyrics thus ! :0 January 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

Why did they write " Gay or Lesbian" and not simply "Homosexual" ? Is there a nuance that I don't know ? January 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

couldn't be me, no sir January 30, 2021 at 11:53PM

I hope so, but he's not a very "important character" for the story. January 30, 2021 at 11:52PM

You high? January 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Exactly.. very sad January 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

'Cause, an french author, (Lou lubie) represent and compare cyclothymia like a goupil. Because foxes are cunning, and also adorable, etc.. That's a good representation of the disease cycles. She compare to the bipo 1 and 2 are wolves for example. It's a comic book very accurate et very helpful for people who have these troubles. January 30, 2021 at 11:48PM

Same 🤣 January 30, 2021 at 11:47PM

I read face o face January 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

i get oppressed by other aces!!! it’s so stupid January 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

Yup. Even if trauma is the reason someone doesn't experience sexual attraction, that doesn't mean they're not allowed to identify as asexual. Obviously I would hope that person is working with a professional to process and heal from that trauma, but that doesn't erase the fact that they aren't currently experiencing sexual attraction. January 30, 2021 at 11:41PM

Why is it the best representation of that? January 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

my first guess would have been keyword recognition? but that would also block homo- and bisexual, right? January 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

Oh 🥺 really, really thanks you January 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

Thanks ! It's me ahah, thanks ! ^ January 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

Thank you so much ;-; January 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

I definitely find women aesthetically more attractive (which was the reason, that I thought I was lesbian for 3 years) January 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

Thank you sooooo much ! January 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

Thanks ! Yep it's very outlet to drawing this kind of stuff ! January 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

This one made me do a double take. January 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

I think the correct term here would Asexual and Homoromantic. January 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

Me too ! Favorite animal, and also the best representation of cyclothymia (bipolarity 3) 🦊 January 30, 2021 at 11:37PM

Back when I was about 14 I wanted to get a tongue ring because I thought it looked cool and my older brother told me that people do that to provide “greater stimulation during oral sex” and I was traumatized and immediately abandoned the idea of ever getting one! January 30, 2021 at 12:04AM

If you get to the point where you’re posting on r/trueunpopularopinion , it might just be time to delete your account. January 30, 2021 at 12:02AM

The look like Sam Manson from Danny Phantom. In a good way! January 30, 2021 at 12:00AM

Anyone? January 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

Wait, people put piercings in their tongues? January 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

For sure! Being vulnerable is scary! We believe in you. January 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

So they're saying that lgbt community is inclusive to everyone but ace and straight people that's the literal definition of discrimination that said I'm already neutral on the whole community thing but it's nice to know that there are others like me and I'm not alone January 29, 2021 at 11:54PM

You can make any man keep his shirt on if you have a staple gun nearby January 29, 2021 at 11:50PM

Enby ace solidarity!!! January 29, 2021 at 11:50PM

Go downvote January 29, 2021 at 11:49PM

Hiya! Thanks so much for making these threads! It does feel like the most common misconception about aces (asexual = hates sex) tends to dominate this sub, and I sometimes feel weird posting my experiences because I don’t want to accidentally trigger any sex-repulsed folks. I would define myself at this point as a sex-favorable demi-romantic ace. Generally speaking, I find that I share more experiences with other aces - even sex-repulsed aces - than I do with allos. I’m currently married to my long-term allo partner and to be honest, the idea of dating terrifies me. I never had any interest in dating before I met my spouse, and I can’t even imagine navigating that scene. It’s very rare for me to develop romantic attraction and I don’t feel sexual attraction, so what else do I have to offer the unsuspecting allos out in the dating world? Nothing that they would understand and accept in a partner, that’s for sure. I might find someone I was romantically attracted to, but judging by my...

It's still considered a mental illness actually. Asexual people regularly get prescibed medicine to treat their "low libido". January 29, 2021 at 11:49PM

:0 thank you. I think that I'm more in the sexual attraction January 29, 2021 at 11:48PM

Oink January 29, 2021 at 11:46PM

I promise you not all of us allos are shallow pricks hugs January 29, 2021 at 11:44PM

If I had an award to give, I’d give it to this comment. I struggle with finding the right words in arguments; I’m definitely using this next time something like this comes up. Cheers! January 29, 2021 at 11:43PM

Well geez. I've never heard of that before, but then again I don't have a tongue piercing. To me that just seems like such a weird association to make. January 29, 2021 at 11:41PM

Wait wait wait I need to just Why tables ? What a random choice. Like, I get the whole pan = hahahaha you fuck pans/various other cookware """""joke"""" but January 29, 2021 at 11:41PM

I want to stab something after that last one January 29, 2021 at 11:41PM

Omg this, but less... Intense. I'm out as pan(romantic) and trans and my family are are also like "uh cool I guess", but I feel like if I came out as ace my family would DEFINITELY be like "that's not a thing sit tf down" January 29, 2021 at 11:36PM

Aces make up the largest percentage of people in conversion therapy camps and we are subjected to corrective rape like many other queer groups January 29, 2021 at 11:36PM

You are literally discriminating against us right now you dumb idiot God, what is with people January 29, 2021 at 11:35PM

Both of these stories are painfully similar to my own and I'm sorry. January 29, 2021 at 11:34PM

Glow-in-the-dark nail polish is also really cool for this January 29, 2021 at 12:01AM

I think their both not amazing. January 29, 2021 at 12:01AM

Sexual attraction is when you look at someone and want to fuck them. Aesthetic attraction is when you look at someone and think they're hot but still don't want to fuck them. January 28, 2021 at 11:58PM

I agree. Intimacy in a relationship is really based on trust and understanding. See if you guys can effectively communicate about both of your expectations and what you are/are not comfortable with (this should include humor; if somebody consistently tells “jokes” that make you uncomfortable, then they are not funny and are not okay). If you guys can work something out, great! If not, it’s only been three months and this can serve as a great learning experience for the future. I know from experience that some people can make it work. My bf is allosexual, and while I’m a Demi and grey-asexual as opposed to sex-repulsed, he is very understanding and patient with me when I just have zero interest (which can sometimes last months). January 28, 2021 at 11:58PM

a lot of aspec characters tend to be p much purely repulsed asexuals, if not, it's very vague as to their "aceness" especially those that havent been confirmed January 28, 2021 at 11:54PM

We'd get crushed January 28, 2021 at 11:51PM

I think it's just exactly what you said. Some people wish that they weren't asexual. I don't think that it has its own place on the spectrum, because it's simply kind of wishing that you felt something that you don't. January 28, 2021 at 11:46PM

I've never watched the Mandolorian but I just like the design so thanks January 28, 2021 at 11:41PM

Yes I know women have more freedom and that's great, I am really happy that that's the case. I thought of this idea, but it's more complicated than you think : you have to introduce the parents and have both parties approve and everything. When the environment of this family gets too toxic, as I said my family are kinda protective/inposing, I get thoughts of paying someone to pretend to marry me, but that's too complicated too. Also, I know I may just go or runaway, but i feel like I am going to disappoint them and if they just think I got married, this is going to be easier and they'll leave me alone. But I really wanted to find a real person to love, but as I can imagine you can't have everything, but i wrote this post in hope to find someone here. January 28, 2021 at 11:40PM

I kinda have always wanted to put those glow in the dark stars on my ceiling :-) January 28, 2021 at 11:34PM

I really hope this helps: http://blog.asexual-aces.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/2017-28-10-18-48-23.jpeg January 28, 2021 at 11:34PM

Ok, thank you so much ! January 28, 2021 at 11:34PM

what do you mean premarital sex is real i thought it was a joke January 28, 2021 at 11:34PM

Ahhh okay. Well if you're happy. I suggest trying FB. There's lots of ace groups and you should be able to find someone. Discord has many as well. January 28, 2021 at 11:33PM

If you don't want to be Muslim then that's okay. This is a new world where you choose your religion instead of having it forced upon you. A new world where women can go wherever they want and do whatever they like. You don't have to become a mother or a wife if you don't want to. If you want to be a Muslim then I accept that too. Maybe try finding someone Asexual by setting up an ace club in your school/university and marry someone regardless of religion and pretend they are Muslim maybe. January 28, 2021 at 11:32PM

Thanks🖤🖤✨✨ January 28, 2021 at 11:32PM

If watching porn and looking at nudes still turns you on, that is aegosexuality imo. January 28, 2021 at 11:32PM

I know what you mean, but I truly believe in my religion and I do not intend to give it up, I am not forced to be muslim. Unfortunately, my religion don't allow me to get married with a non-muslim, otherwise I would've had more options and I wouldn't struggle that much :(( January 28, 2021 at 11:31PM

Thank you so much🥰💖Same, but I had nothing to do so I just did it. You should do it too!! It tooks 10 minutes or so. January 28, 2021 at 11:31PM

3 months, to me, is still early days where you're still just having fun and seeing where things could go, so I wouldn't be too worried about taking a step back, or several, or running in the opposite direction. But really, talk to him about your worries that he'll want sex and/or intimacy that you know you don't feel comfortable with. And if he makes more sexual comments, show your true feelings, by saying "I don't get it, how is that funny?" or "That makes me uncomfortable", rather than brushing it off as a joke or letting it go. It sounds like he's pushing boundaries to see what he can get away with and to make you more comfortable with sex. January 28, 2021 at 11:29PM

Do you have to be muslim? Religion is a choice. January 28, 2021 at 11:28PM

That's a nice fursona January 28, 2021 at 11:26PM

That's really amazing! January 28, 2021 at 11:23PM

They never said human needs (which isn't a need for everyone) and desires are unnecessary/invalid. They are talking about people who base their entire existence and "achievement meter" on finding a partner, to the point that they even invalidate others happiness and life achievements because they don't have/want a partner. I think you are taking this too personal. /G January 28, 2021 at 12:03AM

Sorry for asking but how does that work exactly? I'm new to this so sorry if it comes off a bit blunt. January 28, 2021 at 12:00AM

The comic itself is absolutely the best description of my sexuality, although I'm straight. Aegosexual seems to be a good fit for me, but I don't really broadcast that, it's so niche. It's nice to know there's a name for it though 🤷‍♀️ January 27, 2021 at 11:59PM

The comic itself is absolutely the best description of my sexuality, although I'm straight. Aegosexual seems to be a good fit for me, but I don't really broadcast that, it's so niche. It's nice to know there's a name for it though 🤷‍♀️ January 27, 2021 at 11:59PM

Do you suffer from some health condition or depression? January 27, 2021 at 11:58PM

Do you suffer from some health condition or depression? January 27, 2021 at 11:58PM

Not a good year to be going to parties though is it. January 27, 2021 at 11:54PM

Hey, if they're not for you, they're not for you. January 27, 2021 at 11:51PM

“Why are you asexual?” “Well, why are you bisexual?” January 27, 2021 at 11:50PM

this lmaoo riprip January 27, 2021 at 11:49PM

God, her life must SUCK if she thinks a lack of sexual attraction makes life boring. January 27, 2021 at 11:49PM

Of course! Not hating on people who use microlabels at all, just expressing my own preference :) January 27, 2021 at 11:47PM

I get that! Microlabels could be really helpful to people who are just starting to learn about asexuality and where they fit into it. But I guess as I've settled into it I've stopped caring as much. January 27, 2021 at 11:46PM

Bruh the number of parties I've been to this year alone.... Not living a boring life my friend lol not at all! January 27, 2021 at 11:46PM

The ace part of my AroAce labe is actually Aegosexual. I mostly go as ace for simplicity. If someone gets curious I might go over what being aego is (which I should really look over in more detail) January 27, 2021 at 11:42PM

Uh. January 27, 2021 at 11:39PM

Well... I kinda want to be a fit ace guy, so... January 27, 2021 at 11:38PM

I mean, it's all about personal preference. Others might feel better having a more specific label, but that doesn't mean you need to. If regular ol' Ace is good enough for you, it doesn't really matter what other people use. January 27, 2021 at 11:31PM

Same story here, but didn’t realize it till I was 44. Was confusing aesthetic attraction for sexual attraction. Now I need to figure out if I’m aromatic or not. January 27, 2021 at 11:27PM

Precisely. I cannot imagine only being able to derive pleasure and joy from sex and nothing else. That sounds boring and weird quite frankly. January 27, 2021 at 11:26PM