First of all, I left my number on a table at a diner. I think the wrong server picked it up, judging by the voice, but I didn't tell her that. I think I'm going to go on the date anyways just to see how it goes. But the thing is: I'm extremely nervous. I've been on a date with one other person before. I'm a 27 male. That date went awkwardly, the first one. We went on a second after, that one was still somewhat awkward but not as bad as the first one. Really I think I could do fine on this date. It's the phone calls leading up before the date I'm nervous about. And this isn't like "I'm so nervous, what if she doesn't like me? what if she cancels? etc" it's just general nervousness. In fact I don't want it to happen, I hope she doesn't call me back, because I want to avoid this all! At the same time I'm so grateful for the experience. What I'm saying is: There isn't anything in particular I'm worrying about ...

A friend of mine is trying to set me up with his friend. He showed me her photos and I was interested and he showed her my photos and she was interested. I'd love to talk with her but the problem is that I'll be out of the country for vacation for 1.5 months in 2 weeks so if I start the conversation now, I feel we would lose the momentum of the conversation by the time I'm back. My worry is that she'll already be in a relationship by the time I get back as well. What would you do? Submitted March 01, 2023 at 01:13AM A friend of mine is trying to set me up with his friend. He showed me her photos and I was interested and he showed her my photos and she was interested. I'd love to talk with her but the problem is that I'll be out of the country for vacation for 1.5 months in 2 weeks so if I start the conversation now, I feel we would lose the momentum of the conversation by the time I'm back. My worry is that she'll already be in a relationship by t...

There’s a girl I’ve been talking to for a few months and I would say we’re good friends right now, we always just walk with each other when we’re heading to class and just talk. Today, we got sent to another room because we both have online classes and go to the media center in the morning, but we got sent to another room for something, and she wanted me to sit next to her. We just sat in there and talked about random things for about an hour. She’s really nice, but if she’s just being friendly, I don’t wanna make things weird by assuming she likes me. Submitted March 01, 2023 at 01:16AM There’s a girl I’ve been talking to for a few months and I would say we’re good friends right now, we always just walk with each other when we’re heading to class and just talk. Today, we got sent to another room because we both have online classes and go to the media center in the morning, but we got sent to another room for something, and she wanted me to sit next to her. We just sat in there ...

I always though of allosexual as being less an antonym of asexual, and more a place holder kind of term for any sexuality that isn't asexual/ace spectrum. Allosexual= "_______sexual"= heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, etc etc- a word that can stand in place for any of this type of sexual orientation. Asexual= The term for the asexual orientation, and also usually the term for the umbrella or spectrum of asexual orientations/identities. A word used both like allosexual , but also like one would use terms like heterosexual or bisexual, as a specific orientation label term. Basically, all not-asexual-sexual orientations have an over arching term to describe them that isn't also already a term for any single on of those orientations: allosexual. We don't have an asexual equivalent to the word allosexual other than asexual . So far, we've gone with the term asexual to both describe the orientation asexual, as well as using it as the over archin...

Happened today at the gym (happens a lot there) and it just left me wondering. Submitted March 01, 2023 at 12:14AM Happened today at the gym (happens a lot there) and it just left me wondering.

That’s totally valid and sorry you have to put up with that. I’ve honestly just gotten to the point that I don’t tell family members that I don’t want kids (I’m 22, so they tell me the same stuff) February 28, 2023 at 01:37AM

Context: We barely started dating, talking for about a year but 2 actual dates so far. She just started a new job last week. She was really busy to go out last week since she works from 8am-5pm. And I’m actually available this whole week. And we can’t really go out after her work because she has things to do at home before going to work again the following day. Also I don’t live close to her and I’m just in the area for a few weeks. So I want to see her as much as I can while i’m here. So would it be weird or creepy if I showed up to her work to walk with her to the bus a few blocks away just to see her and talk for like 15min since she is busy. I mean I have errands to run and I usually end up close to where she works anyways so it’s not like I’d be waiting there the whole day. Is this cute or creepy? Submitted February 28, 2023 at 01:10AM Context: We barely started dating, talking for about a year but 2 actual dates so far. She just started a new job last week. She was reall...

19m here. As the title says, I want to have a relationship, but I'm constantly afraid of the possibility of being cheated on. How do I get over this somewhat rational fear? Edit: I've never had a relationship before, so I'm not really sure how I developed this fear. Submitted February 28, 2023 at 01:14AM 19m here. As the title says, I want to have a relationship, but I'm constantly afraid of the possibility of being cheated on. How do I get over this somewhat rational fear?Edit: I've never had a relationship before, so I'm not really sure how I developed this fear.

So to start off, I am a 24yo male and I'm a kissless virgin and never had any sort of relationship. I have virtually zero family besides my mother and have a very small social circle. Im finishing up a trade school type associates that should make me a decent earner, so im not too worried about money. Im 6ft tall, 235lbs (down from 320 and still improving), blue eyes. Though id consider myself a 3 or 4/10 on the best of days, my friends all say im "handsome" and that "ill meet someone someday". Theyre just being nice, i dont expect them to tell me the harsh truth. I've tried dating apps, but have not had a single match in the years ive been on them. I dont know how to meet people as i live in West Texas (I swear its like 70% male and 30% female out here), and i dont enjoy drinking or clubbing. My hobbies arent all that social either, i enjoy football, building PCs, cars, and working (for now lol). I guess i am just unlovable? Anyways i dont know where to g...

yeah i am 😏😏😏 both cute and hot February 27, 2023 at 11:08PM

Dang, this is a great picture. You just look so happy :D And the background is beautiful, it goes perfectly with the aesthetic :) Congratulations! February 27, 2023 at 11:07PM

oh whoopsies i thought i did... but yeah i don't really find people sexually attractive and instead i find them more like objectively attractive or romantically attractive but almost never as someone who i would want to have sex with February 27, 2023 at 01:20AM

i haven’t met anyone else from denmark though February 27, 2023 at 01:16AM

I (M25) am embarrassed to admit that I have somewhat of a crush on the concierge (F, definitely in her 20s) who works weekends in the building I live at. We’ve exchanged a few words, but nothing crazy. I always keep it short, since I know being polite is part of her job. However, Tony Montana once said, “The eyes chico… they never lie.” What I’m trying to say is, obviously, we all come across a lot of women who work in customer service, but when we exchange glances or words, it doesn’t feel so artificial (I could be totally wrong and she could just be very good at her job lol). Today I went to walk my dog and said hello and whatnot. When I came back, her glasses were taken off and wow, is she beautiful. She is with her glasses too, but that took me by surprise lol. Anyway, I said goodnight and that was that. I’m just wondering if I should pursue this or not. I don’t wanna put her in a bad/uncomfortable position or put her job at risk in any way. She probably gets flirted with a lot a...

Sorry for any errors, I’m on mobile. For some context: My fiancé (31m) moved into my (26f) place a year and a half ago. We have been engaged for 2.5 years and have been dating for about 4 years. For my post: Mid last week, I told him I would clean parts of the apartment before my surgery, but became overwhelmed with everything happening (I’m in college full time, 8-9hrs Mondays and Tuesdays-Fridays, 5hrs Tuesdays, as well as working two part time jobs on weekday evenings and weekends). I only was able to clean the bathroom and reorganize half of the kitchen. My surgery was on Friday and I had to pick up my pain meds after I got home. He does not drive. I told him I would walk to the pharmacy (typically 7-10mins walking each way), he told me no and he was not planning on going out once we got home. I ended up asking my mom to drive me to my normal pharmacy (20mins drive each way) and we waited for my meds which took about an hour, then she drove me home. My niece came over yesterday ...

It’s just being asked out. You politely decline. No drama February 26, 2023 at 11:28PM

Same February 26, 2023 at 11:26PM

Then it sucks even more! It's a shame you don't remember. My life mission is being a little pesky imp that messages website owners and other people like that and educate them about asexuality. February 26, 2023 at 12:34AM

Sounds like a dysphoria-related challenge you are going through. I had a trans-ish (not explicitly identifying as trans but sharing much of the same trans lived experience) friend who described a similar feeling. Myself personally I am enby (male agender), and I care as much about my genitals about as I care about gender-identity, not at all either way. IMO organs are just a part of my body, they dont define my personality or interests or values. February 26, 2023 at 12:34AM

I’ve been talking to this guy for awhile now and we have gone on two dates. those two dates were truly amazing and he told me he likes me. he also told me he doesn’t want a hookup and that he’s done one before and it was not his thing. well here’s the problem- he acts very interested in me in person (very affectionate, sweet, touchy, thoughtful, etc. we literally act like gf/bf in person) but over text, he hardly pays attention to me. he will ignore my messages and text other people (his snapchat score goes up while i’m on delivered) so it has me very confused. before the first time we hung out, he was very flirty and would respond to me super quick over text, and now he doesn’t do that. even after the first date he was barely texting me, so when we hung out for a second time i was super surprised he was acting interested in me. i thought maybe i was getting friend zoned, but when he saw me he picked me up and kissed me and everything was normal. he goes to college almost 2 hours a...

I matched with this girl and we had a great connection. We met up and hit it off like natural. Had a great date, a kiss, hand hold etc. It seems though she is keeping me on a string. Like not letting me too close but then sorta is.. if that makes sense. I am being me and what I said was too much or not enough. She said she liked baby so I said it then I woke up to her being cold and weird and said I over used it..but I don't think I did. Then today we were going to hang out and she cancelled cause it was going to snow. But then turned out to not snow. She hasn't really talked much and seems distant not since that conversation. I want to ask whats up but I don't want to sound weird. And I sent a selfie and got not much back..so I am kinda like eh.. she's really my type and we connect but I am feeling kinda like she's wasting my time or not letting me in.. after we opened up on a lot of things already and said I was respecting her boundaries that many people did...

No shame, no judgement (they don't have to know) Submitted February 26, 2023 at 12:16AM No shame, no judgement (they don't have to know)

Omnisexual is not the same as Pan. Pan lacks preferences while Omni does. February 25, 2023 at 11:26PM

I am 26 year old Asian (Japanese/Korean) looking for some dating advice born in the West (Australia) Uploaded is a few pictures of me and my tinder dating profile. To give you an update about what it is that I do, so you have an understanding of what it is that I do. For a few years I have been dealing with mental health issues, trying to get mentally unfucked and self improvement. I would like to share my Instagram, Tinder and 8 IMGUR pictures. im 6 foot/5'11(183cm) and weigh 187 pounds (85kgs) I currently running a consultancy company making (0 dollars) and work part time, can make about 110-130k if I wanted a employment job in marketing, consultancy, product management. Hobbies include playing classical & improvisation Jazz piano, cooking European and Asian culinary and self improvement. Here are explicit pictures of me, https://imgur.com/a/ntAnCVy?fbclid=IwAR1bM8l3ngSzpdtV22h88dE_5O7YJemyZGfCxk5FIp-gyk6fkEcxiboYC9E https://www.instagram.com/lewisagawakim/ www.t...

I (20F) have a crush on my (22NB) classmate but I’m really conflicted on how to proceed. We sit right next to each other and at first I thought they were cute, but I wasn’t romantically interested until I started noticing behaviors that I interpreted as romantic interest. Some examples are mirroring body language, subtly watching to see if I needed to borrow a writing device, offering notes when I was talking to someone else about not having them, only joining discussion groups I’m a part of in class, asking to exchange writing pieces because we’re both writers, rushing to catch up to me after class on multiple occasions, waiting by the door to say bye to me after class, being willing to talk for a while after class when I ask and some other stuff. I’ve reciprocated interest as well by giving them compliments and again asking to talk with them after class, but I’m an awkward person and it’s hard for me to make eye contact and initiate when I like someone. I’m also new to dating and wh...

Terrible pun, may god have mercy on your wretched soul February 25, 2023 at 12:18AM

that person is part of the discrimination in itself. Because the LGBTQIA+ Community gets enough shit from society at large. The only thing that makes it worse is when you're invalidated by the community itself. To all you bis and aces and aros and any other group that suffers from erasure, I hope you know you're loved. You're not faking it, you're not lesser, you're part of the community. And anyone that disagrees can stub their toe at two past midnight while trying to go for a midnight snack, and continue hitting it while trying to go up the stairs. February 25, 2023 at 12:18AM

☹️ Submitted February 25, 2023 at 12:03AM ☹️

I (23F) grew up in a financially tight family. My parents however made sure I studied and got myself a good education and career to boot since they never got the opportunity to do so My problem is that because we never had money to spend on vacations or even socializing with friends or anything I have no clue how to do the same right now. Simple things like my friends spending money in cafés or buying cosmetics feels like a big waste of money to me too I live alone and while I know I am very friendly and nice I keep to myself quietly reading most of the time at home (it makes me happy reading books plus that was the only hobby I knew growing up) Most men that I know like to go on adventures and vacations etc and talk about them to me in great detail, and I worry they probably think something's wrong with me for not traveling or having similar experiences or even in general wanting the same things. It's just that I don't know how to do so cos my first instinct with my pa...

godofchinchilla February 24, 2023 at 01:35AM

Sorry, I didn't read it all (headache from the blur) I just want to address the first point of asexuality as a word compared to atheism. English is strange, more than half the time. Just because it's similar in meaning 'lack of something' doesn't mean the two words can be categorised similarly. Asexuality is sexual orientation because it's a direction of sexual attraction (it's going nowhere or very slowly) but atheism is still isn't a religion, but is related to religious belief (see, English is strange) February 24, 2023 at 01:35AM

Can I get an amen Submitted February 24, 2023 at 01:09AM Can I get an amen

I’m in 12th grade and there’s this girl in most of my classes, the only time I’ve talked to her was when she said he had a room swap for our class and that was it, so I haven’t really talked to her before but for some reason I really like her, my friend told me that she’s slightly autistic like me, and she seems shy and awkward like me. I think it would be weird for me to ask her out out of nowhere since we haven’t really talked, how do i befriend her when I have crippling social anxiety, how do I approach her and what would I say? She doesn’t have ig or snap. (In short how do I befriend her/ eventually ask her out) Submitted February 24, 2023 at 01:09AM I’m in 12th grade and there’s this girl in most of my classes, the only time I’ve talked to her was when she said he had a room swap for our class and that was it, so I haven’t really talked to her before but for some reason I really like her, my friend told me that she’s slightly autistic like me, and she seems shy and awkwar...

Hey, I just wanted your input in this situation: I saw someone on bumble and then followed her on instagram. Then she followed back and we also happen to have mutual friends. Would it be not ok to reach out/dm ? Let me know your opinion, Thanks. Submitted February 24, 2023 at 12:14AM Hey,I just wanted your input in this situation:I saw someone on bumble and then followed her on instagram. Then she followed back and we also happen to have mutual friends.Would it be not ok to reach out/dm ?Let me know your opinion,Thanks.

They didn't need to lash out at this person though? It was uncalled for. I'm sorry but if someone is being rude sometimes they need to be told they're being rude. Low self esteem doesn't really excuse that. February 23, 2023 at 11:25PM

No February 23, 2023 at 01:41AM

From what I hear, it’s not common for guys to get compliments from girls often Submitted February 23, 2023 at 01:12AM From what I hear, it’s not common for guys to get compliments from girls often

So we met on a dating app a while ago we texted/FaceTimed for a while but started going on dates recently. We just had our 6th date a few days ago and it was the best one yet things escalated and she seemed super excited about it, made sure to text me right after to tell me how much fun she had, when we hung out she started talking about things we can do together in the summer, how she can take time off of work to hang, etc. Basically everything is going really well except lately she’s being weird w texting. She puts effort into the texts, isn’t dry but will sometimes take HOURS to respond but I’ll see that she posted during those few hours….I would normally take this as her not being interested but everything besides the texting points to her being super interested. Not sure how to take it. Thoughts? Submitted February 23, 2023 at 01:12AM So we met on a dating app a while ago we texted/FaceTimed for a while but started going on dates recently. We just had our 6th date a few day...

I'd suggest searching the term "queer platonic relationship" (QPR for short) as a starter February 23, 2023 at 12:42AM

long story short, he(38M) messaged me(28F) last year. He asked me on several dates and talked to me for 3 months before I agreed to see him. I was going through a break up and was extremely cautious about doing anything with another man. we ended up hanging out a lot and sleeping together. we ended up being each other’s only sexual partner throughout this year, talking day and night, all day every day, this whole time. something happened that made me realize I might have actual feelings, so I brought “us” up into conversation. he said he wasn’t in a place to have relationship expectations put on him and has way too many things on his plate. I’m at an absolute loss on what to think. I wasn’t expecting to jump into relationship waters either, as I am busy too, but his answer bothered me. Why approach me and talk to me for almost a year? I ended up getting upset and cut him off. I said some things I didn’t mean, and I messaged him days later after having time to think and apologized for ...

Boyfriend and I of over a year have been doing long distance. Things are great when we’re together but he says we’re “not right for each other” when we’re apart. We don’t fight often but when we do, it hurts. He says it’s not an easy “responsibility” to be “required” to talk to me every day. Which, we hardly talk at all most days and then other days we’ll be on the phone for an hour. But I feel like that’s part of long distance, letting each other know they’re on your mind even far away and genuinely wanting to know about their days. Our recent fight was because he went on a bender for 3 days - no communication and he doesn’t understand why I would be upset … mind you he canceled seeing me the weekend before because he was too busy with a class - which is still unfinished so he just chose not to see me. Am I in the wrong for wanting communication? And for wanting it not to be a difficult “responsibility”? He’s on his phone with his brother and cousin and friends whenever we are to...

Been seeing a guy these last few weeks. Things got very serious very fast - we spent a crazy amount of time together and by our third date he was telling me how much he liked me. Our intimacy and closeness has been off the charts - many nights spent together having deep conversations in bed, talking about our fears, passions, ambitions - you name it. Today though, I decided to end it. I realised that I couldn’t see him as part of my future (for various reasons I won’t get into), and because I’m toward the end of my 20’s, I’m having to think of the longer term with dating rather than just something temporary and fun. For some reason though, when I told him this I was so taken aback by how much he was in agreement. I felt my ego being bruised so badly. It’s crazy to think how much I wanted him to disagree - despite knowing this would make things harder for me in the long run. Deep down I wanted him to fight for me and feel sad about me ending things? But it turns out he was completely...

I 31m went on a date with 27f - she asked about my last relationship and why it ended, no big deal I guess… but then she asked to see a picture of my ex? That’s weird right? Submitted February 22, 2023 at 01:16AM I 31m went on a date with 27f - she asked about my last relationship and why it ended, no big deal I guess… but then she asked to see a picture of my ex?That’s weird right?

There is this really shy and quiet girl (19) and I'm (22) not really sure how to carry on things and if she just likes me as a friend. We know each other for a year now because we go to the same places/parties. We rarely chat online, but everytime we see each other at parties we talk and dance together. I noticed she likes to touch me and everytime we see each us we laugh frequently. I know that she likes me, as she talks about things we could do together in the future and she even bought me something little for my birthday. So last saturday I accompanied her home after a party and gave her a kiss on the cheek and she gave me one too. Right after I told her I would like to kiss her lips and she said, as shy as she is, "what if I dont know how to kiss? It's been a long time". I said to her it's all about the feelings and I kissed her. She pulled a bit back but gave me a short kiss too after. We went for a walk today, but I didn't kissed her because somehow ...

I (28F) have been getting to know (33M) this guy for nearly two months. We have a good connection, are similar in many ways, although I have caught myself getting the ick at times. He likes to communicate frequently in the day, meaning almost nonstop. He is big in sharing his life with me, meaning regular updates and pictures. I’m not always able to reply right away as I’m working or busy with life so I’ve noticed if I don’t he will double or triple text me. I think it’s sweet he likes to keep me in the loop however at times it is a bit much, like today. I’ve had a busy day and haven’t been able to get back to him consistently, so he’s continued to text me. He doesn’t seem like a textbook creep however some of his behaviors are a bit off putting at times. He isn’t unaware, he has said to me he knows he messages me a lot and even asked me if I think it’s weird. I felt uncomfortable saying yes because I didn’t want to be insensitive, now I’m regretting not being honest. His messages ar...

26, I fell in love three times (all with close friend), and I don’t think I ever had a crush. The first two were unrequited love. But I’m gonna get married with the 3rd one this year ❤️. (She’s asexual, I’m demisexual-demiromantic.) February 21, 2023 at 11:10PM

I really wish it did mean i couldn't fall in love. I really do. February 21, 2023 at 11:08PM

I deleted my previous comment because I added some stuff you can look at it on imgur.com/user/theplantorwhatever6 Your feedback is very much appreciated!! February 21, 2023 at 01:33AM

Been on a first date with a girl a few weeks ago. Red flags I noted: Mentioned some guy wants to be intimate with her again, but she isn’t allowing it because he’s been acting funny. Kept mentioning hobbies that relates to the above guy. mentioned she does bareback Asked me the last time I had sex. Asked if I had any friends which were girls and if we get together I’d have to cut them off. mentioned she wants me to message her atleast once per day if we get together or she’d cut me off Submitted February 21, 2023 at 01:12AM Been on a first date with a girl a few weeks ago. Red flags I noted:Mentioned some guy wants to be intimate with her again, but she isn’t allowing it because he’s been acting funny.Kept mentioning hobbies that relates to the above guy.mentioned she does barebackAsked me the last time I had sex.Asked if I had any friends which were girls and if we get together I’d have to cut them off.mentioned she wants me to message her atleast once per d...

This is relationship related, I promise. Long story short, my best friend (19m) and I (19f) have been on and off dating/being intimate for about a year now through various circumstances and have known each other for 2. He's one of those people I really felt like that cared about me (and I care so much about him too), and we were extremely close friends. About half a year ago, he moved to a different state for school and so have I. At the time, he basically decided that any romantic relationship, long distance, is not possible due to the lack of physical intimacy he needed and that if we want to stay friends, we'd have to move on from each other. I listened and agreed, and tried moving on as fast as possible, through healthy methods such as confronting my feelings and hanging out with friends and meeting new people. A few months after that, I basically met a guy, and my best friend has been looking around for a S.O. too. At first, I was definitely uncomfortable, but I really t...

I feel a little hurt when my girlfriend jokes to me about sucking someone elses dick or having sex with someone else. There was one joke she told me that i commented ln a movie where people had crashed an airplane, i asked her what she would do if she was in that situation, then i jokingly said if she would start dating, then she said she wouldnt suck dick because she would get dehydrated. For me that joke implied that she would be sucking dick if she wouldnt get dehydrated. Am i wrong for reacting a little to this? I didnt make a big deal out of it, i said in a calmly manner that i dont like it so much when she jokes in that manner, but she got very defensive and started laughing at me and said that crazy that i falt that Submitted February 21, 2023 at 12:13AM I feel a little hurt when my girlfriend jokes to me about sucking someone elses dick or having sex with someone else.There was one joke she told me that i commented ln a movie where people had crashed an airplane, i as...

Do not listen to this person. They are giving you bad advice. February 20, 2023 at 11:17PM

What an awful take. February 20, 2023 at 11:15PM

At this point I’ve ran into some weird stuff I just assume most sexual stuff is real February 20, 2023 at 12:07AM

You've opened my eyes a little bit here, thank you. The timing was wrong to suggest therapy. I've been wanting to bring it up to him for a while and for some reason felt that this was my chance. I'll amend that with him as soon as I can. I've never consciously equated asexuality to brokenness. I just know he has a lot to unpack with a therapist and thought that maybe some of those troubles were feeding into his sexual issues. But I shouldn't have been so knee-jerk about it, you're absolutely correct. As far as me suggesting opening the relationship goes, it's truly NOT what I want at ALL. I just figured that we would have that conversation at some point and wanted to rip off the bandaid, I guess. He told me he wouldn't be comfortable with it and I made it clear I wouldn't be either so that won't be an option for us. But again, my timing was off. My emotions were running high. I was worried about my relationship. I'll make sure to have anoth...

I (F21) started talking to this guy (M20) a month-ish ago and things were pretty chill. He’s a really dry texter(cool on the phone and in person) is only free on the weekends because he works two jobs, we’ve met up twice and when I tried to plan another date he would be open to it but the plans always fell through. At one point he wanted to meet my friends but then he wouldn’t talk to me over the weekends, he knows I’m not interested in having sex until I’m in a committed relationship. Which is what I thought that’s what he was looking for was sex, but he said he wanted to date and yet he hasn’t made an effort to actually go on dates with me. I told him happy Valentine’s Day and he responded with “you too”😭. Why isn’t he putting in any effort to actually see me? Is he just keeping me around because he thinks I’ll eventually put out? TLDR: Started talking to this guy who said he wants to date me but hasn’t made an effort to go on dates. He knows I’m not interested in having sex so I f...

Basically the title. I (27F) am fairly inexperienced. I’ve dated a decent number of guys (20) and haven’t felt the potential for actual love with anybody. I’ve had many good conversations, and with some I’ve felt some attraction, but there’s been nobody with whom there’s been both or a sense of “I could fall in love with this person.” Is that asking for too much though, to hold out until I have that feeling about somebody? Or is the whole point of dating to find that? I worry I’d be being too picky if I waited to fall in love, and I’m no spring chicken at 27, but it also seems terribly depressing and possibly self-sabotaging to stay with somebody you don’t actually feel in love with. Just thinking aloud and would appreciate any thoughts. Had a first date today that went nicely but also can’t imagine actually falling in love with this guy. Not sure what to do. Submitted February 20, 2023 at 12:15AM Basically the title. I (27F) am fairly inexperienced. I’ve dated a decent number...

Aegosexual is an asexual microlable that describes people that have a disconnect between themselves and the object of arousal. So the vast majority of aegos are turned off by the thought of their own involvement. February 19, 2023 at 11:09PM

Being ace is literally a superpower, i cannot imagine myself NOT being ace. Like you can do anything when you are not limited nor pushed by sexual desires towards people. I 100% agree with OP, asexuality is great! February 19, 2023 at 11:07PM

Some of them might, though they might not find other people sexy in return. February 19, 2023 at 01:07AM

Hello fellow user, In my 21 years in this planet I've never truly had a relationship, mostly because I can never get fully interested in the other person, & now I'm not sure if it's because I'm not going for the right people or if it's just a "me thing". For context, I have always been the kind of kid to go from group to group growing up, for example: in high school I would spend my free periods walking around to the different spots that different friend groups of mine would occupy. But now, I'll meet somebody on a dating app and we will talk for a while, but after we meet and go for a date or two I'll just stop responding to some of their texts, or I'll send less, purely because it seems like to much of an effort to keep them in mind. I know it may sound selfish and/or greedy of me, but that's why I would like to see what you all have got to say. Has anyone else have had this happen to them? -Tarlutar01 Submitted February 19,...

yo same! February 19, 2023 at 12:07AM

I’ve been texting a guy from work pretty much everyday since we last saw each other a few weeks ago. I want to ask him to see if he’d like to ft/chat on the phone but I don’t want to come off clingy.. Submitted February 19, 2023 at 12:14AM I’ve been texting a guy from work pretty much everyday since we last saw each other a few weeks ago. I want to ask him to see if he’d like to ft/chat on the phone but I don’t want to come off clingy..

thank you!!❤️ February 18, 2023 at 11:21PM

yes February 18, 2023 at 12:08AM

I met a girl last week in a networking event. I thought she was cute and but it was clearly a friendly interaction. She’s going to be in town for a few months and wants to experience the bar scene. I told her that me and my friends females and males) always try to go out to the bars at least once each weekend. I told her if she was interested in hanging out with us that i could let her know if she wanted. She said she was and we exchanged numbers. Last weekend we didnt go out and i want to go out this weekend. I asked my friends if they wanted to go out this weekend and they said yes. So i texted the girl yestersay saying most of us were going downtown if she was interested in going. She said she was and to let her know once i got more details. Unfortunately all of my friends have been flaking tonight. Some have decided to just stay home today, others had a change of plans. Im considering just going to the bars solo tonight but i do kind of want to let the girl know that she is still...

To say the least this went a little bit wrong, I suppose. I probably I screw this up, totally, when I spoke with a woman today, which is ok since I refuse to keep doing this overthinking if she likes me or not for this long (months, she looks at me, I look at her, she smiles, I like that, etc.), so regarding that (thinking about her this hard) I'm done. Over the years I've had girlfriends, all good, but since my last one, my game (which was never great) has been poor to say the least. So today, after some months of looking at this woman smile at me, wink the eyes at me, me looking at her, and liking this interaction, but knowing it could be just a friendly interaction, which has been going on for some time now (we sometimes talked to each other, etc.). As time went by I started to see these as signals (they were not, or so I think so let's be real, or what do I know women are complicated). So I approached her today and told her the following below (yeah, it sucks, but I ju...

Yeah it's not the majority but it is a bit less, about 40% or so. Partnered sexual activity may include a range of behaviors. In 2015–2017, 40% of adolescents aged 15–19 reported ever having had penile-vaginal intercourse (commonly referred to as "sexual intercourse"), 45% had had oral sex with a different-sex partner and 9% reported ever having had anal sex with a different-sex partner. February 17, 2023 at 11:13PM

I'm not sure it's healty February 17, 2023 at 11:13PM

I suppose you could count Kai from the Canadian sci-fi series Lexx as ace/aro. I mean.... he's kinda dead, but has zero interest in sexual relationships. February 17, 2023 at 11:09PM

Hm, I think Issac from Heartstopper is aroace February 17, 2023 at 12:31AM

How do I (22M) put myself out there? I feel absolutely invisible. Can’t remember the last time anyone has shown any clear interest in me. I’ve had terrible luck with dating apps. Submitted February 17, 2023 at 12:03AM How do I (22M) put myself out there? I feel absolutely invisible. Can’t remember the last time anyone has shown any clear interest in me. I’ve had terrible luck with dating apps.

Hi everyone, sorry to bother you all, I just wanted some advice on this girl I met. So when I first asked her to meet up on a Saturday, she said she might not because of studies and catching up on them, so she said she will let me know during the week if she can or can't. So a week passes since I asked her, and she still hasn't said anything ( we were still chatting to each other ) so I asked her if she could make it on Saturday, and she says no she's still busy, so I asked maybe the next week Saturday, but she said she still doesn't think she can. So I said, "That's alright I'm very flexible with time so im usually available, so when you have free time maybe, then you can message me, and we can get coffee ". Was this wrong of me to do, am I putting needless pressure on her? I just thought that would be more practical considering her workload, and she can decide whenever without me bothering every time. Submitted February 17, 2023 at 12:04AM Hi ...

It happened again. I (27F) met someone who I really liked and enjoyed spending time with all for it to fall about largely because of issues related to my ADHD. For those who don't know, a lot of people with ADHD tend to live in extremes, either they love something or couldn't be bothered with it, which often I feel like applies to my feelings for other people. So my feelings tend to be really strong while the other person is at a more moderate level with their feelings. I also tend to get bored easily and constantly want to be doing new things and don't want to stay at home very much, where often nuerotypical folks I've dated have a more set routine, a shorter list of activities they enjoy, and want to spend a good amount of time at home. I also get easily bored sexually which has become a big issue in the past. These issues often create a lot of tension over time between myself and the other person because there's an imbalance. And as much as I've gotten bett...