I'm going on a date

First of all, I left my number on a table at a diner. I think the wrong server picked it up, judging by the voice, but I didn't tell her that. I think I'm going to go on the date anyways just to see how it goes.

But the thing is: I'm extremely nervous. I've been on a date with one other person before. I'm a 27 male. That date went awkwardly, the first one. We went on a second after, that one was still somewhat awkward but not as bad as the first one.

Really I think I could do fine on this date. It's the phone calls leading up before the date I'm nervous about. And this isn't like "I'm so nervous, what if she doesn't like me? what if she cancels? etc" it's just general nervousness. In fact I don't want it to happen, I hope she doesn't call me back, because I want to avoid this all! At the same time I'm so grateful for the experience. What I'm saying is: There isn't anything in particular I'm worrying about, I'm just so nervous for no reason. My head is spinning about absolutely nothing as far as I can tell. I know I'll be alright if this doesn't work out and really couldn't care less if it doesn't.

One thing I often do worry about is, though: What if I don't feel a connection? What do I do? I hate being the one to be like "I don't feel a connection" and just stop talking to them. That feels mean, but I know that's how I have to do it. I feel like it's even ruder to just suddenly not contact them anymore, right? So I'll have to break the ice if I don't want to continue going on dates. How do I do that without hurting her feelings?



Submitted March 01, 2023 at 02:15AM

First of all, I left my number on a table at a diner. I think the wrong server picked it up, judging by the voice, but I didn't tell her that. I think I'm going to go on the date anyways just to see how it goes.But the thing is: I'm extremely nervous. I've been on a date with one other person before. I'm a 27 male. That date went awkwardly, the first one. We went on a second after, that one was still somewhat awkward but not as bad as the first one.Really I think I could do fine on this date. It's the phone calls leading up before the date I'm nervous about. And this isn't like "I'm so nervous, what if she doesn't like me? what if she cancels? etc" it's just general nervousness. In fact I don't want it to happen, I hope she doesn't call me back, because I want to avoid this all! At the same time I'm so grateful for the experience. What I'm saying is: There isn't anything in particular I'm worrying about, I'm just so nervous for no reason. My head is spinning about absolutely nothing as far as I can tell. I know I'll be alright if this doesn't work out and really couldn't care less if it doesn't.One thing I often do worry about is, though: What if I don't feel a connection? What do I do? I hate being the one to be like "I don't feel a connection" and just stop talking to them. That feels mean, but I know that's how I have to do it. I feel like it's even ruder to just suddenly not contact them anymore, right? So I'll have to break the ice if I don't want to continue going on dates. How do I do that without hurting her feelings?
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