Where do I go from here?

So to start off, I am a 24yo male and I'm a kissless virgin and never had any sort of relationship. I have virtually zero family besides my mother and have a very small social circle. Im finishing up a trade school type associates that should make me a decent earner, so im not too worried about money. Im 6ft tall, 235lbs (down from 320 and still improving), blue eyes. Though id consider myself a 3 or 4/10 on the best of days, my friends all say im "handsome" and that "ill meet someone someday". Theyre just being nice, i dont expect them to tell me the harsh truth. I've tried dating apps, but have not had a single match in the years ive been on them. I dont know how to meet people as i live in West Texas (I swear its like 70% male and 30% female out here), and i dont enjoy drinking or clubbing. My hobbies arent all that social either, i enjoy football, building PCs, cars, and working (for now lol). I guess i am just unlovable?

Anyways i dont know where to go from here? Am i just doomed to live my life alone? I know people say you should be happy with yourself first but the loneliness has developed a huge hole in my life that i cant figure out how to fill. Its made me feel like a burden on people, im starting to feel shame being out in public doing things like getting groceries or just looking around sporting good stores. I just want to be happy, i see everyone else around me meeting people and getting married and all that stuff. What is wrong with me?



Submitted February 28, 2023 at 12:13AM

So to start off, I am a 24yo male and I'm a kissless virgin and never had any sort of relationship. I have virtually zero family besides my mother and have a very small social circle. Im finishing up a trade school type associates that should make me a decent earner, so im not too worried about money. Im 6ft tall, 235lbs (down from 320 and still improving), blue eyes. Though id consider myself a 3 or 4/10 on the best of days, my friends all say im "handsome" and that "ill meet someone someday". Theyre just being nice, i dont expect them to tell me the harsh truth. I've tried dating apps, but have not had a single match in the years ive been on them. I dont know how to meet people as i live in West Texas (I swear its like 70% male and 30% female out here), and i dont enjoy drinking or clubbing. My hobbies arent all that social either, i enjoy football, building PCs, cars, and working (for now lol). I guess i am just unlovable?Anyways i dont know where to go from here? Am i just doomed to live my life alone? I know people say you should be happy with yourself first but the loneliness has developed a huge hole in my life that i cant figure out how to fill. Its made me feel like a burden on people, im starting to feel shame being out in public doing things like getting groceries or just looking around sporting good stores. I just want to be happy, i see everyone else around me meeting people and getting married and all that stuff. What is wrong with me?
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