I think that's aegosexual, but I'm not aego myself so I'm not 100% sure on it? August 01, 2021 at 12:01AM

i'm sorry that happened. asexuality is 100% real and you are completely valid <3 July 31, 2021 at 11:59PM

I thought I was bi for a long time before I learned I was biromantic. Didn’t even know til recently about split attraction July 31, 2021 at 11:58PM

That he deserves to be slapped with a wet cold fish I think July 31, 2021 at 11:56PM

"No, thanks" or "you're right; I would like to keep that private" are fine if you don't want to come out. You can if you want, though. July 31, 2021 at 11:55PM

*disappears* July 31, 2021 at 11:52PM

Aesthetic attraction: Wanting to BE them more than you want to BE WITH them. :D July 31, 2021 at 11:50PM

I'm going to say this aswell July 31, 2021 at 11:47PM

I remember calling some celebrity “sexy” to try and fit in before I knew about asexuality and it just felt so gross lmfao July 31, 2021 at 11:47PM

Does he think its biologically impossible to be gay too? July 31, 2021 at 11:46PM

Ever notice that whenever someone cites 'biology' as a reason that you shouldn't exist, that that person doesn't actually know a damn thing about biology? July 31, 2021 at 11:45PM

I had to do a lot of thinking and go throught 4 years of abuse( a mix of all kinds you choose your probably right), and I just kinda put together that “ yeah sex is cool but I would die for my friends and I care more about that then sex or anything like that”( also I want to get a job so other don’t go throught what o have). I just never saw a reason for it or cared for it Btw in Demi-sexual and polyamorous just for context July 31, 2021 at 11:43PM

Oh I'm so glad! It can get confusing but as you said, it becomes clear when you realize you haven't thought about sex with them or are motivated to have it. It's all romance and feeling lovely! I so agree with what you said about the potential bond—I recently experienced a "Woah! Can't stop thinking about them" romantic attraction last month and it went away the second I learned more about them. If I know the person well though it can stick around for a long time. July 31, 2021 at 11:43PM

Good bot July 31, 2021 at 11:43PM

Bio major here. Science validates the existence of asexuality. So basically everyone who says that it’s biologically impossible to be ace is proudly flaunting their ignorance. July 31, 2021 at 11:41PM

Ever since I found out that others experienced sexual attraction, I thought that something was wrong with me, until I mentioned my lack of attraction to a friend who told me about asexuality five months ago. July 31, 2021 at 11:41PM

Wow, your answer is great! July 31, 2021 at 11:39PM

I'm concerned what you mean at the end? "It's a real shitty place to be because you're kinda at a dead end" there's nothing wrong with being fictosexual. But yes, it does sound like you are somewhere on the ace spectrum. If fictosexual feels like it fits you, cool! Use that label then. If it doesn't fit, that's also valid and there are plenty of other labels out there July 31, 2021 at 11:39PM

you could come out as ace or you could stand your ground and just say you will not date. end of. July 31, 2021 at 11:38PM

I've seen a huge lack of empathy in people. I once got downvoted to hell for saying that I didn't mind that my dad didn't come to lunch on my 21 birthday. July 31, 2021 at 11:37PM

I does get worse, by a lot, trust me. July 31, 2021 at 11:36PM

A frigid prude is what I was labelled as. July 31, 2021 at 11:34PM

This. If you are meant to be together, in two or three years, then you can make contact with him again and consider dating if it feels mutual July 31, 2021 at 11:33PM

That’s funny because it’s the opposite for me. My friend, my mom and my boyfriend were all asexual and I didn’t really know anyone of any other sexuality lol. I was the only Bi person I knew. July 30, 2021 at 11:58PM

I was only used that term because of the context of the thread I saw July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

Same age here, came out to my mother the better part of a year ago and she doesn’t believe asexuality is a real thing. She also told me she thinks I haven’t found the right person yet and also told me sex and sexual desire is part of what makes us human. She still keeps on making side comments about birth control and getting a boyfriend and so on, it’s annoying. July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

I actively try to avoid thinking about anyone being sexually attracted to me. It makes me uncomfortable so as far as I’m concerned, it doesn’t happen. July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

I personally don’t call myself a “straight ace.” I use the term heteroromantic. Since it means being attracted to the opposite gender only romantically. It just makes more sense July 30, 2021 at 11:56PM

Now that I think about it: Same. I would definitely not be comfortable with someone imagining that with me (I never really thought about it before since I don't think like that so the thought seems foreign to me). July 30, 2021 at 11:53PM

I'm exactly the same. I let my hair go long and messy, and wear cheap hoodies and jeans because I don't want anyone finding me attractive or desirable for my appearance. I don't think I'm a particularly attractive guy to begin with, but every bit helps. I guess it becomes like a test to see who can actually look past my appearance and see me for who I actually am. July 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yupp, I've never been diagnosed with anything but when I talked to the school councillor I was told I had forced thoughts so I think I know how you feel. I probably also have some manner of autisme but then again self diagnosis doesn't lead to anything good. July 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah, sometimes. I'm also on the autism spectrum and have PTSD, and those both come with their own myriad of issues when it comes to connecting with other people, and sometimes my asexuality feels like just another barrier to me being able to blend in. I try very hard to let those thoughts pass because I know they're not helpful for me. July 30, 2021 at 11:47PM

YES July 30, 2021 at 11:46PM

My mom would probably think it’s a disease if it said it like that July 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

The fact they have not had to live their lives in fear of knowing that they could be fired from work, or hell even murdered in the streets for being the “wrong” sexual orientation is their pride parade. Also, you talk about kids caring about what’s happening now. Right now, in some parts of the world, you can be imprisoned for being ace. Right now, in our world, you can be sent to conversion therapy if you’re ace. Right now, you could experience corrective rape for being ace. Do straight people experience things just as queer folk have? No. We can talk about straight pride when we have our fuckin liberties in tact. July 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

Oh okay, weird but I’m digging it. July 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

I has't been known to immediately leaveth and wend home at which hour yond happeneth. It’s so so gross I am a bot and I swapp'd some of thy words with Shakespeare words. Commands: !ShakespeareInsult , !fordo , !optout July 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

I have been known to immediately leave and go home when that happens. It’s so so gross. July 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

It's called foreplay! July 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

Do people self identify as straight aces? I used to be wary about the term. I felt like it was used to say hetero-aces were more straight than not and as such, didn’t belong July 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

Oh shit me too, like what if i give in and have sex some day????? And i'm suddenly sexually attracted to someone??? I really don't want that, i like being ace July 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

It is 100% an immediate turn-off to find out someone desires me sexually. July 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

I've been considering that I've not in fact been hetero my whole life and may be pan. But since I feel the same way towards all genders I just don't know for sure either way July 30, 2021 at 11:37PM

I agree that sex-averse people and asexuals have some similar experiences, such as people shaming them for not wanting sex. But at the end of the day, sex-aversion and asexuality are not the same thing. One is a sexual aversion, the other is a sexual orientation. Anyone of any sexuality can be sex-averse, and there certainly is a negative bias against those who are sex-averse. So I have nothing against standing together in solidarity. But at the end of the day, they are two vastly different things. Asexuals are discriminated against in a different way, even if said discrimination is somewhat similar to that against sex-averse individuals. July 30, 2021 at 11:36PM

The conversation I had today was probably the most interesting one I had in a long time. It was judgement free, no name calling... which is always refreshing. It was interesting because each one of the men and women I was talking with had very strong views and valid points, and anywhere other than that room, they'd have been grilled as you guys can imagine so I'll just summarise it. We were talking about sexual liberation and it somehow led to the double standard. One of the ladies said how bs the fact that men are praised and women are shamed for the same thing is. I, as a man, agreed. I don't think they should be shamed. One of the men also agreed with that but touched on the reason why men are praised (among each other) and women aren't. He said that it is no secret that generally speaking, women have pretty much zero difficulty if what they want is just sex, in which pretty much everyone agreed, and men do know that it is a complete different ball game for them....

I’ve asked her if she can take her clothes off, and she’s reluctant to do it. She has a good body from what I can tell, so I’m not seeing a reason why she would want to keep her clothes on. The most she has undressed was being in panties and a T-shirt, but I want to see her naked. Does anybody know what could possibly be the reason? All she gives me is that she doesn’t want to; and no I’m not pressuring her to do it. Submitted July 30, 2021 at 10:55PM I’ve asked her if she can take her clothes off, and she’s reluctant to do it. She has a good body from what I can tell, so I’m not seeing a reason why she would want to keep her clothes on. The most she has undressed was being in panties and a T-shirt, but I want to see her naked. Does anybody know what could possibly be the reason? All she gives me is that she doesn’t want to; and no I’m not pressuring her to do it.

I am watching am older anime called Shiro Bakko right now (white box) and there isn't any romance in sight. It's just a bunch of young women trying to follow their passion and make Anime. If you like slice of life Anime I highly recommend it. July 30, 2021 at 12:01AM

That's not forced romance, that's the "women as reward" trope. July 29, 2021 at 11:59PM

I am exactly the same way. Incest revulsion is triggered for me by people who grew up as siblings and went through puberty together. It results in some weird opinions.. For example I am comfortable with the idea of Captain Jack Harkness meeting himself or the relationship in the Loki TV series (though I was hoping it was just platonic or romantic). BUT the idea of Iris and Barry in CWs The Flash makes me want to throw up in my mouth. It's worse because Detective West who raised Barry from 10 and is a great father to Barry also ships that.🤢 July 29, 2021 at 11:54PM

By "trying out" the label you mean embracing it as a way of defining myself while I figure everything out? I guess it makes sense. But I just kind of feel my orientation and my "position" on the ace spectrum too vague yet to take on one label or the other. Maybe just "asexual" feels vague enough for me if I think about it in that sense. At least for now. July 29, 2021 at 11:52PM

It really depends. I think that romance for younger people is fine since younger often people do feel romance and in fact during adolescent it's a big deal and learning to navigate romantic and sexual relationships is a large part of growing up for a large number of people. I do think that there is an over focus on romance based on the percentage of stories where it is the sole focus vs the percentage of stories that don't focus or include it at all. I think you only need to be worried about liking youth romance if you are an adult that finds it romantically or sexually titillating rather than sweet, nice, relatable, or neutral. Also maybe if consuming it turns you into the "nosey aunt" of the young people in your actual life (aka obsession with pairing off people, specifically young people). July 29, 2021 at 11:47PM

I would also recommend Hilda. It gave a similar vibe. I would disagree with the the Aang and Katara relationship being detrimental to the plot I thought it was fine not super interesting but it's a decent representation of a young relationship. Both characters make mistakes and there are some tropes which are flimsy premises for plot. My main problem with it is that I hate the "main protagonist finds true love" trope, especially if it's their first love. Most people don't marry their first crush. July 29, 2021 at 11:46PM

City of ember while not an animation is a boy/girl adventure without romance July 29, 2021 at 11:43PM

I’m a fan of Ducktales 2017, and one of my fave things is that there is no romance between the kids! There are some romantic relationships among the adults, but they’re not important. Friendship and family are much more important to the central theme and plot. July 29, 2021 at 11:40PM

I caught myself doing that and stopped before it got too bad. For me it was like "I like both these kids and think they will grow to be wonderful people. I also like their families. It would be convenient if when they grew up and got married it could be to each other and I wouldn't have to worry about them making poor partner choices or meeting unfortunately awful in laws. Heck even getting to know a decent other family is a lot of work." July 29, 2021 at 11:39PM

Good advice other Hannah! July 29, 2021 at 11:37PM

Hey, not a problem! It's elating to know you're not alone, especially after awhile of feeling like you're strange in a way that others can't quite relate to (at least, that's how it was for me.) Finding community can be really validating. Joining this sub has actually helped me discover more about myself. I doubted my sexuality for a long time because of my interest in kink, before learning that the two aren't mutually exclusive at all. Finally shucking that 'imposter-syndrome' feeling does wonders for one's self confidence. I'm not sure how new you are to this sub, but welcome! This is a great sub for asking questions, so don't be afraid to make a post if you've got any. July 29, 2021 at 11:37PM

It may change, it may not. I thought I was pansexual at that age, turns out I'm panromantic asexual actually. That doesn't mean you will change your mind though, it just means that things can change. That doesn't make you any less asexual now. You've found a label that makes you feel right, and that's what's important. If I had been told "oh, you'll grow out of that" when I was identifying as pan, I would have been pissed! The unfortunate thing is, many people will try to invalidate your identity at any age. 20s and younger, youre just a late bloomer. 30s - 40s, you just haven't found the right person yet. 50s and up, theyll just say there's something mentally wrong with you. There's no winning with those types of people. So just live your life as you are now. You may change your identity as you grow, or you may realize you were right from the beginning. Whatever happens, you are valid in who you are. July 29, 2021 at 11:37PM

ah thank you! July 29, 2021 at 11:36PM

Well that's gross and awful. July 29, 2021 at 11:35PM

ah thank you! i’m hoping to study theology at university next year, do you have any advice? July 29, 2021 at 11:35PM

aghh im so sorry you had to go through that ‘you have to’ phase but i’m so happy for you about your living situation now! (totally not jealous haha) July 29, 2021 at 11:34PM

Generally when I see this, I like to think it is show runners trying to tell kids that age that all their attempts at mimicking of adult relationships is okay. Kids who are 4 will mimick having a relationship quite often even if all they watched was sesame Street which is pretty much a no romance zone despite having established couples. Mostly kids struggle declare "this person is my partner" and really just proceed to be exclusive friends but call each other by special names and go on fake dates. Its a lot like playing house really. Certainly there are probably some kids who get romantic crushes at 4 but mostly, in my experience it is just role play. July 29, 2021 at 11:34PM

The best way to describe it is when you have a craving for food (lets go with chocolate). Only with sexual attraction your "craving" is to engage in sexual activity with someone. Personally, I don't really care about chocolate but if someone gives me something, when I eat it I can enjoy it (that's being sex favorable). It's usually never something I have a craving for, except rarely.... rarely I can't think about anything but eating some chocolate. Like, I'm going to go to the store right now and load up on some because I need it. That's being grey. The baseline is feeling nothing but with specific circumstances (or a random breeze) it can turn into a craving. At least, that's how I experience sexual attraction (obviously not the same for everyone). This is going to be intentionally crude, but basically there will be a guy who catches my eye and I can't stop thinking about sitting on his dick. It's crude because that's what my brain...

haha that’s so true! i love what you said about the atmosphere being one where you are encouraged to turn down sex but now that’s not what they want...oh please don’t apologise for the response i really appreciate it, it’s exactly what i was curious about July 29, 2021 at 11:31PM

Yeah i was 16 when it started and it ended 10 months ago. I relate so much. I just worry that he might coerce someone else to have sex with him too. I dont want anyone to feel like that. It's weird I'm only looking to date people on the ace spectrum now. I'm usung the experience to identify red flags in other people and relstionships July 29, 2021 at 11:27PM

I’ve edited it for the most part July 29, 2021 at 11:25PM

For your own safety (since internet creeps are everywhere), NEVER put your real age and gender on the internet. Never share personal info--even innocuous information like a single age or gender is a no-go. I know plenty of people do it, but don't be them. July 29, 2021 at 11:24PM

Thanks for all the help. I really didn’t expect so many responses. 🥰💜💜💜 July 29, 2021 at 11:24PM

I've tried but they always go sour :/ July 28, 2021 at 11:54PM

Never did tongue, and don’t really want to 😅 July 28, 2021 at 11:53PM

Kissing is more romantic to me and I enjoy it very much as long as there’s not an expectation for more July 28, 2021 at 11:51PM

Well, I’m aro-spec ace, and I love cuddling and hugs and platonic kisses on the cheeks, forehead, pecks on the lips, back of my hand, holding hands, etc., so long as I know that it’s literally all platonic and there are no romantic nor sexual feelings on the other person’s part, because if there were I’d become uncomfortable being around them, let alone touching. I’m lucky that a lot of my close friends are also of this mindset and enjoy expressing totally platonic friendship in this way too. Unlucky because we live on opposite ends of the country now. July 28, 2021 at 11:49PM

I was ! A long time ago now but I was talking to a friend and she was going on and on about how long it’s been, so long she might forget how to do it she said. I asked how long it had been, she puffed out this big breath and said “ god FOREVER!!!” “ like 2 and a half weeks! “ In my head I was like WHAT ?! isn’t that really recently. I had no clue people had sex so often! July 28, 2021 at 11:48PM

I think it shocks me more that there are people who are very adamant they can’t have sex less than 3 times a week. But yes. July 28, 2021 at 11:44PM

I just don't say I'm asexual to new people. Way too much questions. July 28, 2021 at 11:44PM

I'm honestly not sure how to feel about kissing. My only experiences were with the only person I've ever dated, in 8th grade, and we were both extremely inexperienced and not sure of what we were doing. We experimented a little, and it felt incredibly awkward. I liked how close it made me feel to him, but the tongue stuff was kinda weird. We only did that once. Trying to keep an open mind about it, I've since mostly chalked it up to our mutual lack of experience. Plus, I don't know why, but I kind of find hugs and cheek/forehead kisses and the like to be more intimate and meaningful than full, on the mouth kissing. Like I said, though, open mind. I'm not opposed to trying again if I ever get a significant other. Especially if it makes me feel that same level of closeness I mentioned before. July 28, 2021 at 11:39PM

Pregnancy Scare (Please read everything to understand) I (F17) and my boyfriend (M17) are a little bit worried so any help or some support would be great. So in the past week, we have seen each other two times (exactly a week apart) and both times we engaged in sexual acts. Including the type that would land me pregnant. We did not use any form of protection any of the times we did it, and on one of the days we did it 9 times. We aren’t completely helpless in this situation though as we used the pull out method and cleaned up before each entry after finishing. The most that could have happened is some of that stuff being still on him and it getting in me. Obviously precum was present inside of me both days and after everything we over he did the best to scoop out anything from me and I did my best to scoop out anything after him. I know that pregnancy can happen when one ejaculates or pre-ejaculates gets into a vagina or on a vulva. If you don’t know what a vulva is; it is the part...

My wife and I usually have sex 3 times a week. Ever since I made a drunken comment to her, she hasn’t wanted to have sex with me. Apparently I told her I was tired of her pussy, and wanted to try new one. I feel awful, but the damage is done. I have no clue how to make things better. I have apologized profusely, but we still haven’t had sex in weeks. Any advice on how to get her to open up and confident again? Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:13PM My wife and I usually have sex 3 times a week. Ever since I made a drunken comment to her, she hasn’t wanted to have sex with me. Apparently I told her I was tired of her pussy, and wanted to try new one. I feel awful, but the damage is done. I have no clue how to make things better. I have apologized profusely, but we still haven’t had sex in weeks. Any advice on how to get her to open up and confident again?

So this is a throwaway as i don’t want to take chances of her browsing reddit and finding my account A friend of my mother who ill call G(F 43) recently decided to move to my city, but because of some problems that are too long to tell G can move into her new house in about 3 weeks. Now this is where I(M 22) come in G asked me if she could stay over at my place for the time being. Naturally I said yes as I know G since pretty much my childhood. One thing about G is that she is a very sexual person i can remember conversations with her where she would openly flaunt about her sextoys or favourite positions. Its a topic i strangely always could talk with her about as I find myself to be a very experimental person in bed. One time out of curiosity I went and tried sex with a trans women just or know how it is. This is also where my curiosity comes in I never managed to have sex with a MILF although always wanting to. Fast forward to today G is already 3 days at my house and since litte...

Me and my girlfriend would like to Try something new. She is kind of unexperienced and when i ask her what she likes she replies "just take me harder" which is a sign that she does not know exactly what she likes. Ive played around the thought of buying a sex toy. What sex toy works best for you? There is so much to choose from, vibrating cock rings, finger vibrators, bullets, plugs. Thanks for the help❤️ Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:18PM Me and my girlfriend would like to Try something new. She is kind of unexperienced and when i ask her what she likes she replies "just take me harder" which is a sign that she does not know exactly what she likes.Ive played around the thought of buying a sex toy.What sex toy works best for you?There is so much to choose from, vibrating cock rings, finger vibrators, bullets, plugs.Thanks for the help❤️

Looking for some ideas to use with my partner. We often are in the same environment and the build up to sex is often very similar. (Think along the lines of Netflix and chill) I’m looking for some more out of the box ways someone has initiated foreplay that ended up leading to sex. For example something they said that stuck out to you, or something they did that really turned you on. Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:18PM Looking for some ideas to use with my partner. We often are in the same environment and the build up to sex is often very similar. (Think along the lines of Netflix and chill)I’m looking for some more out of the box ways someone has initiated foreplay that ended up leading to sex. For example something they said that stuck out to you, or something they did that really turned you on.

Absolutely no one asked, but I didn‘t know I had a thing for hairy arms and legs until I started dating my boyfriend. When we‘re on the bus or watching a movie together I can‘t stop touching the hair on his arms or legs and the more I do it or think about it the more it turns me on. He thinks it’s cute and will roll up his sleeves for me to tease me when I’m noticeably getting turned on. However I‘m somehow not that much into chest or pubic hair lol. Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:18PM Absolutely no one asked, but I didn‘t know I had a thing for hairy arms and legs until I started dating my boyfriend. When we‘re on the bus or watching a movie together I can‘t stop touching the hair on his arms or legs and the more I do it or think about it the more it turns me on. He thinks it’s cute and will roll up his sleeves for me to tease me when I’m noticeably getting turned on. However I‘m somehow not that much into chest or pubic hair lol.

My (30M) girlfriend (33) was exchanging messages telling us we were in crisis. She was talking with him for about a month, while I was financially supporting her to be in a dream internship. She stops and told me after a while everything that happened. I am pretty hurt, felling insecure and not enough. The guy is famous and has a bad boy style which is not me at all. This gets in my guts. But the venting part is: the story made me horny (?????). I have no idea how to deal, I feel shitty but also I was aroused by her exchanging photos. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO FEEL ABOUT THIS. I don't really understand this ambivalence. How can I be so hurt and still be hard thinking about it? Just pretty confused. I know that sexuality is plural but I'm scared with me Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:24PM My (30M) girlfriend (33) was exchanging messages telling us we were in crisis. She was talking with him for about a month, while I was financially supporting her to be in a dream internshi...

So my 21F girlfriend repeatedly said that she wants to try and finger my 26M ass. Although I don't want to try it (I find it kinda gay, and I am 100% heterosexual) I do want to fulfill most of her sex fantasies. Are there any guys here with experience on this? How did it feel? Any tips to prepare? Thanks in advance! Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:29PM So my 21F girlfriend repeatedly said that she wants to try and finger my 26M ass. Although I don't want to try it (I find it kinda gay, and I am 100% heterosexual) I do want to fulfill most of her sex fantasies. Are there any guys here with experience on this? How did it feel? Any tips to prepare? Thanks in advance!

Using a throw away acc ofc bc my bf has reddit … So at first my bf was so about hygiene always smelled good always had clean smelling breath and always showered before we hung out always had a clean room .. the longer we been dating his hygiene has just completely dropped hes like lost himself … he has an externally high sex drive and i mean i have a decent one but i just have been so so turned off when he wants to have sex because he just smells so bad his feet are atrocious!!! he literally makes the bed smell at times .. i also think he might not wipe after he uses the bathroom, it’s gotten to the point where his breath stinks and i don’t even want him to eat me out and he gets mad when i reject him eating me out and causes arguments .. how do i bring all this up without being mean i have no idea what happened but i can’t take it anymore i just try and take care of my needs with a vibrator when he’s at work to avoid having sex with him … i literally can’t even suck his dick the way...

Are there ways to tell if a guy likes one better than the other? And If he likes your butt Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:38PM Are there ways to tell if a guy likes one better than the other? And If he likes your butt

Versus just with clitoral stimulation. Does anyone else do this? Is there a scientific reasoning for why this helps? Or am I just really weird... Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:45PM Versus just with clitoral stimulation. Does anyone else do this? Is there a scientific reasoning for why this helps? Or am I just really weird...

If you would, do you think it would be better or worse than the first time? I personally had a fine experience when I lost my virginity, but it wasn’t necessarily amazing and I think it’d be fun to see what they were like now. But I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone. Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:51PM If you would, do you think it would be better or worse than the first time? I personally had a fine experience when I lost my virginity, but it wasn’t necessarily amazing and I think it’d be fun to see what they were like now. But I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone.

I’m just curious to know. Would love to also hear from people who were once unfit (like me currently) and have since improved their fitness- like what’s changed for you now? Maybe it’ll be a good motivator lol. Hopefully I’m posting in the right sub! Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:53PM I’m just curious to know. Would love to also hear from people who were once unfit (like me currently) and have since improved their fitness- like what’s changed for you now? Maybe it’ll be a good motivator lol. Hopefully I’m posting in the right sub!

So I’ve been with my soon to be wife for 4 years. I met her when I was 25 and she was 23 going on 24 I was a super virgin when we met. She’s my first and only everything. She on the other hand has never told me the exact number of men and women she’s been with but I know she says it’s embarrassingly high and that she was “wild and crazy” in her college days. We sometimes talk about funny dating stories and funny sexual encounters from our past and Normally I don’t have a problem with it. But sometimes we come across certain things that make me uncomfortable. Like she once said the worst sex she ever had was a threesome she had where both guys “thought they were with a sex doll and not a woman who has limits and can feel pain”. The thought about her being with 2 guys at once and they treated her like that kinda made me feel sick. And the fact that she implied she did it multiple times made me feel even worse. I also have issues when there are times I’d like to try new things and she ...

im a trans guy on t now for over 2 years but my body still doesnt pass and it makes me afraid that if i have sex i will be seen as a woman or if my partner is only attracted to men they wont be attract to me anymore when they see my body, or that i will accidentally get misgendered during sex because they cant help it they just see my body as female. without meaning anything bad you know. and i have so much shame about this also like i feel like my body is disgusting and wrong because it isnt totally male and i feel like im being predatory by being attracted to people because im deceiving them. sometimes i honestly think i shouldn’t have a sex drive or jerk off or even get turned on because i feel like my body is too unnatural for that. thats horrible to say and ive never told anyone that but i just wanted to get that off my chest idk. and i dont want to be like this but i really dk how to stop feeling like this. Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:56PM im a trans guy on t now for ove...

Pardon? July 27, 2021 at 11:47PM

I think you can. I’m ace, and I find lots of different people attractive in different ways, including hot. I too don’t want to have sex with them upon looking at them. Based on what you said, I think you’re right and demi might be a good descriptor for you. July 27, 2021 at 11:47PM

Yay I'm the same way sorry but that's doesn't work on me person I'm just to powerful for you July 27, 2021 at 11:46PM

Could possibly be aesthetic attraction to them? Like the same way you'd appreciate the beauty in a fine work of art July 27, 2021 at 11:43PM

If someone truly loves you they will respect you for who you are. And try to find a way to make both of you happy and comfortable. July 27, 2021 at 11:42PM

You can be feeling aesthetic attraction. I am definitely ace but the artist side of me definitely diggs some good representations of human anatomy 😁 July 27, 2021 at 11:42PM

I know it’s called pegging when a female performs it on their male partner but is there a specific term for it when it’s F/F anal? I’m genuinely curious and if I’ve phrased this question in an ignorant way, I apologize in advance. Thank you! Submitted July 27, 2021 at 10:58PM I know it’s called pegging when a female performs it on their male partner but is there a specific term for it when it’s F/F anal? I’m genuinely curious and if I’ve phrased this question in an ignorant way, I apologize in advance. Thank you!

so my girlfriend and i have had sex quite often and we always stick to one position cause we are first timers and we just stick to what works best but we wanted to try other positions and i tries going in deep for once because i usually dont put everything in. Some positions for her usually hurt her and when i try to go deeper it hurts her too. After that she starts to cramp really bad from it for a couple of days. what should i do next time? Submitted July 27, 2021 at 10:59PM so my girlfriend and i have had sex quite often and we always stick to one position cause we are first timers and we just stick to what works best but we wanted to try other positions and i tries going in deep for once because i usually dont put everything in. Some positions for her usually hurt her and when i try to go deeper it hurts her too. After that she starts to cramp really bad from it for a couple of days. what should i do next time?

Is it just my experience, or a lot of guys act in sex like when they finish, your mission in sex is over? If you don't ask for an orgasm or doesn't say anything, very likely not going to get it. Show is over. Are you ok with a sex even if you don't finish?What kind of thinks annoys you most in sex behaviour of the partner, and when you feel most fulfiled and happy? How would you like to be treated to feel that it was a damn good sex? Hugs Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:05PM Is it just my experience, or a lot of guys act in sex like when they finish, your mission in sex is over? If you don't ask for an orgasm or doesn't say anything, very likely not going to get it. Show is over. Are you ok with a sex even if you don't finish?What kind of thinks annoys you most in sex behaviour of the partner, and when you feel most fulfiled and happy? How would you like to be treated to feel that it was a damn good sex? Hugs

Hey everyone. Back in Dec 2020, I said something without even thinking and it has wrecked my boyfriends self esteem. Particularly in the bedroom. I have tried everything I can think of. Worshipping, reassuring that I like what he has, telling him I was wrong (because I was), giving up my mental health so he could have a bit of happiness, and just constant apology. I’m the asshole here, I know. He broke up with me this past weekend because primarily this. He wants to reconcile, but not sure if that is actually possible. Please help. I love him more than anything. I fucked up. I know that. Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:06PM Hey everyone. Back in Dec 2020, I said something without even thinking and it has wrecked my boyfriends self esteem. Particularly in the bedroom. I have tried everything I can think of. Worshipping, reassuring that I like what he has, telling him I was wrong (because I was), giving up my mental health so he could have a bit of happiness, and just constant apol...

He’s coming back from a 3 month long trip next month! And soooo excited to see him.. also super horny haha. I want to make our first time having sex again amazing!! What are some things I can do? .. candles, new sex tricks?, roleplay ideas?, bdsm shit… let me hear it all!! Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:06PM He’s coming back from a 3 month long trip next month! And soooo excited to see him.. also super horny haha.I want to make our first time having sex again amazing!! What are some things I can do?.. candles, new sex tricks?, roleplay ideas?, bdsm shit… let me hear it all!!

If I'm being honest I just don't have what it takes to find a women, but I don't really want to die a virgin. I'm planning a trip to visit the sequoias in the future and I'm thinking about making a stop in Nevada to go to a brothel on the way to just get it over with. I'm not really expecting it to change much in my life as sex really isn't a huge deal to me but I would at least like to experience it in my life. Has anyone decided to go this route, and did you find it to be a positive experience or no? Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:18PM If I'm being honest I just don't have what it takes to find a women, but I don't really want to die a virgin. I'm planning a trip to visit the sequoias in the future and I'm thinking about making a stop in Nevada to go to a brothel on the way to just get it over with. I'm not really expecting it to change much in my life as sex really isn't a huge deal to me but I would at least like to expe...

In all honesty ive said numerous times in the moment "I want a baby with you" during sex. Particulaly during very pationate times. Why is this a heat of the moment outburst? Am i alone in saying this? Are women turned on by this? (my partner seems to agree but i dont know if its playful or similarly aroused by it or something). I love my partner to the ends of the earth but it just makes no sense. I mustn't have kids yet, im low income, low maturity, still living with my parents. Anyone able to explain this other than biological urges? Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:25PM In all honesty ive said numerous times in the moment "I want a baby with you" during sex. Particulaly during very pationate times.Why is this a heat of the moment outburst? Am i alone in saying this? Are women turned on by this? (my partner seems to agree but i dont know if its playful or similarly aroused by it or something).I love my partner to the ends of the earth but it just makes ...

Hey guys, ​ So basically, as it says in the title, my girlfriend complains because I last too long when we have sex, it usually last about 30 mins to 1 hour, or more. Sometimes (rarely) I finish under 15mins, which is good to her. But this is something that I can't control, I haven't done a check up, but I can't cum unless I use my hands, I do feel like I'm about to finish inside of her sometimes, but my penis just doesn't want to. This is where it gets even more complicated, my girlfriend decided to tell me that 1 year in our relationship, that she's annoyed I have stamina, we've had sex countless of times but tells me only now. I keep wondering, has she faked that she felt good before? She keeps saying that it makes her insecure that she can't make me finish under 15mins, or 5mins, she wants to boost her own ego, but this is making me insecure, I thought girls like stamina, but my girlfriend apparently doesn't. She makes herself a victim, say...

hey, i’m dennis, it’s soon to come me and my girlfriends 9 month anniversary, i am a gentleman, i look after her, i care for her, the whole job lot, and all of my mates are talking about “oh yeah, i finished but she just kept on going” and stuff like “she says she wants to try a new position tomorrow” whilst my girlfriend has 0 intrest in sex, like we still have it, but my mates have it like 3 times a week, i’ll be lucky if i get it 2-3 times a month, and there’s nothing wrong down there, i last for like 30-40 min, it’s a good size, it’s clean and i know how to use it, but she just doesn’t want sex, she wants me to do things like play in tue garden, walk the dogs, go out with her, but no sex, and i’m not trying to sound bad, but when i don’t get it, it makes me sad. Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:26PM hey, i’m dennis, it’s soon to come me and my girlfriends 9 month anniversary, i am a gentleman, i look after her, i care for her, the whole job lot, and all of my mates are talking ...

My sub has recently expressed interest in introducing wax play. The biggest concern I have is that he’s a pretty hairy guy. Any advice? Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:35PM My sub has recently expressed interest in introducing wax play. The biggest concern I have is that he’s a pretty hairy guy. Any advice?

Just curious because my husband does this SO much, and he says I’m immature that I get annoyed by it. I have a wayyy higher body count than he does and I almost never refer to anyone else I’ve slept with, it just seems weird to me. I’m not a super sensitive person but it’s like to the point I want to tell him to fuck off when he talks about these other girls. Our bedroom is in the throes of death a little bit (he has low sex drive because of work stress), but he loves to reminisce. 🙄 Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:37PM Just curious because my husband does this SO much, and he says I’m immature that I get annoyed by it. I have a wayyy higher body count than he does and I almost never refer to anyone else I’ve slept with, it just seems weird to me. I’m not a super sensitive person but it’s like to the point I want to tell him to fuck off when he talks about these other girls. Our bedroom is in the throes of death a little bit (he has low sex drive because of work stress), but he ...

Bf(m36) mad cause I(f29) was sent a pic of a dudes cock in an anonymous chat room. But he watches porn on the regular. Also he sees nude chicks scrolling on reddit so... why he mad at me again? Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:40PM Bf(m36) mad cause I(f29) was sent a pic of a dudes cock in an anonymous chat room. But he watches porn on the regular. Also he sees nude chicks scrolling on reddit so... why he mad at me again?

I bought a vaginal douche at cvs with the intention of emptying it, refilling with water and using it as anal douche to have anal sex with my boyfriend. Upon realizing these types of douches are clearly not the same, I tried it out of curiosity. I looked it up later and realized that they are not healthy. Is there anything I can do to prevent it from causing my vagina an issue? I already washed the douche out thoroughly, refilled it with water, and then rinsed out my vagina to try and remove the soap. Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:44PM I bought a vaginal douche at cvs with the intention of emptying it, refilling with water and using it as anal douche to have anal sex with my boyfriend. Upon realizing these types of douches are clearly not the same, I tried it out of curiosity. I looked it up later and realized that they are not healthy. Is there anything I can do to prevent it from causing my vagina an issue? I already washed the douche out thoroughly, refilled it with water, an...

It's a fetish for him and well...I think I get it. Is it normal to feel like I'm cheating because I've used this to my advantage and I openly sleep with whoever I want. Submitted July 27, 2021 at 11:47PM It's a fetish for him and well...I think I get it. Is it normal to feel like I'm cheating because I've used this to my advantage and I openly sleep with whoever I want.