I think I’m jealous of all the sex my fiancée has had. Either jealous or just insecure about how sexually explorative she was.

So I’ve been with my soon to be wife for 4 years. I met her when I was 25 and she was 23 going on 24 I was a super virgin when we met. She’s my first and only everything. She on the other hand has never told me the exact number of men and women she’s been with but I know she says it’s embarrassingly high and that she was “wild and crazy” in her college days.

We sometimes talk about funny dating stories and funny sexual encounters from our past and Normally I don’t have a problem with it. But sometimes we come across certain things that make me uncomfortable. Like she once said the worst sex she ever had was a threesome she had where both guys “thought they were with a sex doll and not a woman who has limits and can feel pain”.

The thought about her being with 2 guys at once and they treated her like that kinda made me feel sick. And the fact that she implied she did it multiple times made me feel even worse. I also have issues when there are times I’d like to try new things and she has always had an experience with it and doesn’t want to try. I of course never want her to do anything she’s uncomfortable with.

This gives me a feeling I sometimes struggle with that I missed out. Like I never was able to be wild and crazy like she was. She’s had so much more sex than me and has tried things I’ll likely never get to try. I feel like I missed out on being able to experiment sexually.

My fiancée of course is amazing in bed and I’m so madly in love with her and she wants me to explore with her, like she has even offered me a chance of having a threesome with another woman, but there are just somethings I want to try with her and other guys got to her first.

Is this feeling normal? How do I cope with feeling this way?

Submitted July 28, 2021 at 11:53PM

So I’ve been with my soon to be wife for 4 years. I met her when I was 25 and she was 23 going on 24 I was a super virgin when we met. She’s my first and only everything. She on the other hand has never told me the exact number of men and women she’s been with but I know she says it’s embarrassingly high and that she was “wild and crazy” in her college days.We sometimes talk about funny dating stories and funny sexual encounters from our past and Normally I don’t have a problem with it. But sometimes we come across certain things that make me uncomfortable. Like she once said the worst sex she ever had was a threesome she had where both guys “thought they were with a sex doll and not a woman who has limits and can feel pain”.The thought about her being with 2 guys at once and they treated her like that kinda made me feel sick. And the fact that she implied she did it multiple times made me feel even worse. I also have issues when there are times I’d like to try new things and she has always had an experience with it and doesn’t want to try. I of course never want her to do anything she’s uncomfortable with.This gives me a feeling I sometimes struggle with that I missed out. Like I never was able to be wild and crazy like she was. She’s had so much more sex than me and has tried things I’ll likely never get to try. I feel like I missed out on being able to experiment sexually.My fiancée of course is amazing in bed and I’m so madly in love with her and she wants me to explore with her, like she has even offered me a chance of having a threesome with another woman, but there are just somethings I want to try with her and other guys got to her first.Is this feeling normal? How do I cope with feeling this way?