Wait, or make the next move myself?

It’s a bit of a sticky situation.

I, (19 F) recently got out of a relationship of a year and a half, and was pretty broken about it. There has been a guy that my friend knows whom he insisted that I would like, and I met him the other night. Guess what? I like him.

But here’s the thing. We had a fantastic time together and got on really well, we’re very flirty with each other, physical touching, etc... and then it hit 4 AM, and we forgot to give each other our numbers. He doesn’t really have a way to reach out to me besides through our mutual friend, or social media, and I haven’t talked to anyone else as interesting as him; i’d Love to get to know him more.

It’s been about 2 days and I haven’t heard anything from him. he asked our mutual friend if I wanted to go out with them as a casual thing yesterday, but I had work, so the plans fell through. I haven’t heard anything about another plan.. but I’m really antsy to see him again, and he told me the one time that I met him a couple days ago that he wanted to see me again.

Here’s the thing. I was told by our mutual friend that he is hesitant to reach out as he has been rejected the past couple of times he has made a move, and the fact that I recently got out of a long relationship is holding him back as well, as he doesn’t want to seem pushy. I could be able to get his number through our friend.. do I text him first? Do I play the waiting game? I’m not sure if he’s busy or not, the only thing he told me was that he was going to a funeral today.. which I imagine would leave him pretty sad and not really willing to talk. I also don’t really want to seem desperate by initiating.

TLDR: a guy that I like who told me he wants to go out with me sometime hasn’t reached out to me after 2 days. Was told by a mutual friend that he doesn’t want to seem pushy. We don’t have each other’s numbers but follow each other on social media, so it’s possible to reach out. Do I just bite the bullet and shoot my shot, even though I’m the girl? I don’t want to seem desperate, but I’m really interested in him, and haven’t met anyone like him in a long time.

Submitted April 06, 2019 at 07:06AM

It’s a bit of a sticky situation.I, (19 F) recently got out of a relationship of a year and a half, and was pretty broken about it. There has been a guy that my friend knows whom he insisted that I would like, and I met him the other night. Guess what? I like him.But here’s the thing. We had a fantastic time together and got on really well, we’re very flirty with each other, physical touching, etc... and then it hit 4 AM, and we forgot to give each other our numbers. He doesn’t really have a way to reach out to me besides through our mutual friend, or social media, and I haven’t talked to anyone else as interesting as him; i’d Love to get to know him more.It’s been about 2 days and I haven’t heard anything from him. he asked our mutual friend if I wanted to go out with them as a casual thing yesterday, but I had work, so the plans fell through. I haven’t heard anything about another plan.. but I’m really antsy to see him again, and he told me the one time that I met him a couple days ago that he wanted to see me again.Here’s the thing. I was told by our mutual friend that he is hesitant to reach out as he has been rejected the past couple of times he has made a move, and the fact that I recently got out of a long relationship is holding him back as well, as he doesn’t want to seem pushy. I could be able to get his number through our friend.. do I text him first? Do I play the waiting game? I’m not sure if he’s busy or not, the only thing he told me was that he was going to a funeral today.. which I imagine would leave him pretty sad and not really willing to talk. I also don’t really want to seem desperate by initiating.TLDR: a guy that I like who told me he wants to go out with me sometime hasn’t reached out to me after 2 days. Was told by a mutual friend that he doesn’t want to seem pushy. We don’t have each other’s numbers but follow each other on social media, so it’s possible to reach out. Do I just bite the bullet and shoot my shot, even though I’m the girl? I don’t want to seem desperate, but I’m really interested in him, and haven’t met anyone like him in a long time.