Should I ask out a girl in my English group?

I would have asked her right away or the next day if we would have met naturally. We’ve been a group together for about 3 weeks now and I’ve been telling myself as well as advice from friends to wait until the project is over before asking her out as it could make things awkward and we won’t be able to complete the project. This sounded really dandy at first and my initial plan was to just be flirty with her through our meetings, but my group is always coming up with excuses as to why they cannot meet so I have barely been able to interact with her. I wanted to see if we actually had some chemistry together and if that was the case by the end of the project then I’d ask her out knowing we clique. Well, I’ve barely been able to interact with this girl and so far I’ve done literally everything for the project so I doubt it would make our project any worse as they don’t contribute to anything. Assuming this pattern keeps up, I’m just feeling like a coward who’s to afraid to ask a girl out and I’ve overheard her talking about a guy she’s seeing has been seeing other girls. So I’m just idly sitting back as some asshole is wooing her when I know I’m better than him, but I don’t want to make things awkward in our group even though I’m the only one doing anything. Honestly, after typing this out I see how foolish I am for listening to my friends and will probably just ask her out next time I see her knowing that it won’t affect shit.

TLDR: I like a girl in my English group, but I’ve been told by friends to put off asking her out as it would make it awkward to work together, but my group never meets up and I’ve done all of the work so far. I’m starting to realize how dumb I am as I’m just increasing the chances that another guy will come along who will woo her and lock her up into a relationship before I have a chance to even ask her to hangout by the end of this project.



Submitted April 06, 2019 at 08:17AM

I would have asked her right away or the next day if we would have met naturally. We’ve been a group together for about 3 weeks now and I’ve been telling myself as well as advice from friends to wait until the project is over before asking her out as it could make things awkward and we won’t be able to complete the project. This sounded really dandy at first and my initial plan was to just be flirty with her through our meetings, but my group is always coming up with excuses as to why they cannot meet so I have barely been able to interact with her. I wanted to see if we actually had some chemistry together and if that was the case by the end of the project then I’d ask her out knowing we clique. Well, I’ve barely been able to interact with this girl and so far I’ve done literally everything for the project so I doubt it would make our project any worse as they don’t contribute to anything. Assuming this pattern keeps up, I’m just feeling like a coward who’s to afraid to ask a girl out and I’ve overheard her talking about a guy she’s seeing has been seeing other girls. So I’m just idly sitting back as some asshole is wooing her when I know I’m better than him, but I don’t want to make things awkward in our group even though I’m the only one doing anything. Honestly, after typing this out I see how foolish I am for listening to my friends and will probably just ask her out next time I see her knowing that it won’t affect shit.TLDR: I like a girl in my English group, but I’ve been told by friends to put off asking her out as it would make it awkward to work together, but my group never meets up and I’ve done all of the work so far. I’m starting to realize how dumb I am as I’m just increasing the chances that another guy will come along who will woo her and lock her up into a relationship before I have a chance to even ask her to hangout by the end of this project.
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