How do I handle this?

My husband and I have been married for about 8 months. He has a friend lets call her Alice whom he told me about a long time ago. Now Alice just relocated to the city where my husband and I live for school. My husband helped her decide on this school and at the time it didnt bother me that of all the schools in the country, and the schools in the state, she had to choose a school that was in the same city my husband and I stay. After relocating, she asked my husband if she could stay with us for a couple of weeks until she found accommodation. I agreed because she was my husband's friend and I didnt want to make a big deal out of it even though husband asked me not to mention to his family that she was staying with us. My husband eventually found her a place far from school but very close to our house. I felt it was odd but didnt say anything. Afterwards, she started calling my husband to drive her to places, take her out to buy dinner and take her shopping. I asked why she couldnt take the bus or an Uber and my husband said she needed a friend. Some days, my husband would stop by at her place to 'gist' before coming home. They spend a lot of time on the phone together, sometimes talking, and sometimes just keeping each other company in silence. My husband says its because she doesnt have any other friends in the city. She sees him as her bestfriend and shoulder to cry on so she tells him everything. My husband knows so much about her down to the kind of guys she likes/dislikes.

I recently went on a trip and my husband told me she took him to the movies. I felt weird about it but then thought my husband would have been bored just staying home alone all week so I let that go. She also has a habit of inviting herself over especially on Friday nights. On Friday nights, I like to just relax with my husband and talk about the week, maybe just watch a movie but I cant relax with a stranger there. My husband expects me to become friends with her, but I dont like her very much since she does not respect my space and I dont see myself becoming friends with her. I am okay with occasional phone calls, although I dont know how to feel about them going out to dinner and the movies but I feel weirded out by their closeness. I dont know how to handle this.

Submitted April 05, 2019 at 09:46PM

My husband and I have been married for about 8 months. He has a friend lets call her Alice whom he told me about a long time ago. Now Alice just relocated to the city where my husband and I live for school. My husband helped her decide on this school and at the time it didnt bother me that of all the schools in the country, and the schools in the state, she had to choose a school that was in the same city my husband and I stay. After relocating, she asked my husband if she could stay with us for a couple of weeks until she found accommodation. I agreed because she was my husband's friend and I didnt want to make a big deal out of it even though husband asked me not to mention to his family that she was staying with us. My husband eventually found her a place far from school but very close to our house. I felt it was odd but didnt say anything. Afterwards, she started calling my husband to drive her to places, take her out to buy dinner and take her shopping. I asked why she couldnt take the bus or an Uber and my husband said she needed a friend. Some days, my husband would stop by at her place to 'gist' before coming home. They spend a lot of time on the phone together, sometimes talking, and sometimes just keeping each other company in silence. My husband says its because she doesnt have any other friends in the city. She sees him as her bestfriend and shoulder to cry on so she tells him everything. My husband knows so much about her down to the kind of guys she likes/dislikes.I recently went on a trip and my husband told me she took him to the movies. I felt weird about it but then thought my husband would have been bored just staying home alone all week so I let that go. She also has a habit of inviting herself over especially on Friday nights. On Friday nights, I like to just relax with my husband and talk about the week, maybe just watch a movie but I cant relax with a stranger there. My husband expects me to become friends with her, but I dont like her very much since she does not respect my space and I dont see myself becoming friends with her. I am okay with occasional phone calls, although I dont know how to feel about them going out to dinner and the movies but I feel weirded out by their closeness. I dont know how to handle this.