How can I get over this break up.

Hi all, first time I'm posting on reddit after browsing for a while. I'm a 22 year old man, and 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a year over text during the middle of the night and did not have the courtesy to tell me this in person. I write this laying in bed while her and my friends are on a school trip... About my relationship: she is in my class at university and we will graduate together this year. It really hurt me for her to break up like this because she was away in another country for erasmus for 6 months where I waited for her and supported her all the way. She broke up with me because I was going through a rough patch in my life: I became depressed, insecure and generally unhappy and she thought she could fix me because she claims I was pulling me and her down. She could not help me and thinks that I am weak so she broke up with me at a time when I most needed her. So here I am because I need to know how everyone else dealt with such situations: every night after the break up, I go to sleep confidently that I do not care about her anymore, yet early morning I wake up unable to sleep thinking about her and all the good times and what she may be doing at that moment. Mind you all she was also my first girlfriend and the first girl I ever kissed in my life, so she was my first love and having a girlfriend was a very new thing for me and we have been to so many places together where ever I go it reminds me of her. I have listened to many people who told me to just get over it and stop thinking about it yet I find it so hard to do any of this: she broke up with me after a good day we spent together, and since that day our classmates have gone silent towards me and I feel like I have lost my friends too. Over this time, all I have done is gone home after classes because our common friends do not want me to be at the same place as her. People no longer make plans with me. After spending many days together in and out of university with my girlfriend and her coming to my home, I feel like a part of me is lost and I do not enjoy any of my hobbies and feel like crying all the time. I still love her and miss her but I also know that I need to get over her even though I still see her at university on some days. After the break up, it seems she is always outside with friends and is taking it much better than me. KoThis is tearing me apart: I can't sleep properly and I am not productive anymore. Thank you all in advance I would like to know what you all think and what you have experienced as I just want to put my mind at ease and do not want this pain to go on. How can I get over this... I just need people to talk to.

TL;DR My first girlfriend and also classmate broke up with me after more than a year without any notice and it seems like I also lost most of my friends too. I feel extremely lonely and need advice on how to get through this. I am also not a very social person.

Submitted April 06, 2019 at 07:49AM

Hi all, first time I'm posting on reddit after browsing for a while. I'm a 22 year old man, and 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a year over text during the middle of the night and did not have the courtesy to tell me this in person. I write this laying in bed while her and my friends are on a school trip... About my relationship: she is in my class at university and we will graduate together this year. It really hurt me for her to break up like this because she was away in another country for erasmus for 6 months where I waited for her and supported her all the way. She broke up with me because I was going through a rough patch in my life: I became depressed, insecure and generally unhappy and she thought she could fix me because she claims I was pulling me and her down. She could not help me and thinks that I am weak so she broke up with me at a time when I most needed her. So here I am because I need to know how everyone else dealt with such situations: every night after the break up, I go to sleep confidently that I do not care about her anymore, yet early morning I wake up unable to sleep thinking about her and all the good times and what she may be doing at that moment. Mind you all she was also my first girlfriend and the first girl I ever kissed in my life, so she was my first love and having a girlfriend was a very new thing for me and we have been to so many places together where ever I go it reminds me of her. I have listened to many people who told me to just get over it and stop thinking about it yet I find it so hard to do any of this: she broke up with me after a good day we spent together, and since that day our classmates have gone silent towards me and I feel like I have lost my friends too. Over this time, all I have done is gone home after classes because our common friends do not want me to be at the same place as her. People no longer make plans with me. After spending many days together in and out of university with my girlfriend and her coming to my home, I feel like a part of me is lost and I do not enjoy any of my hobbies and feel like crying all the time. I still love her and miss her but I also know that I need to get over her even though I still see her at university on some days. After the break up, it seems she is always outside with friends and is taking it much better than me. KoThis is tearing me apart: I can't sleep properly and I am not productive anymore. Thank you all in advance I would like to know what you all think and what you have experienced as I just want to put my mind at ease and do not want this pain to go on. How can I get over this... I just need people to talk to.TL;DR My first girlfriend and also classmate broke up with me after more than a year without any notice and it seems like I also lost most of my friends too. I feel extremely lonely and need advice on how to get through this. I am also not a very social person.