I used to hit people with my hair when they tried to kiss me. Gotta miss having a ponytail. People trying to kiss without consent is seriously NOT COOL tho. May 01, 2023 at 12:51AM

I 23F moved to a new town about a year and half ago and have recently gotten involved with 33M haven’t gone past 2nd based because I am absolutely terrified about having to tell him about my HS (Hidradenitis suppurativa) it’s like acne that usually around the pubic area and under arms. I do not have bad flare up anymore just usually just mild ones. But unfortunately old flare up have cause a lot of scarring in both areas. I am no means a virgin back home I had regular boyfriends and few fuck buddys in between and this topic never came up with any of them. Should I just avoid the conversation all together and go with flow or tell him before hand? And why is it so terrifying now? Submitted May 01, 2023 at 01:03AM I 23F moved to a new town about a year and half ago and have recently gotten involved with 33M haven’t gone past 2nd based because I am absolutely terrified about having to tell him about my HS (Hidradenitis suppurativa) it’s like acne that usually around the pubic area a...

I (27M) had been seeing a girl (25F) since the beginning of the year. About a month and a half ago, we agreed to stop pursuing a romantic relationship as she was going through some pretty bad mental health issues - her job was giving her anxiety, she was having financial troubles and also had some family issues going on. She also mentioned that she was starting to feel signs of depression again (she had a bout with depression about a year ago when her dad passed away) and so we both agreed that pursuing a relationship was not the best and that we should just be friends. I was initially sad about the whole situation but I understood and decided to put romantic feelings aside and just be a friend and see what happens one way or the other. We kept conversations up pretty frequently after this all went down, but never really hung out in person. Part of this was due to conflicting work schedules, part was due to her just not feeling up to it. Throughout our conversations, I could definite...

I’m a divorced single mom of 2 and I live in a large city. Dating again has been difficult. Dating culture just isn’t what it was ten years ago when I last dated. Being divorced and having kids makes it even harder. It’s not like I didn’t know this but I guess it truly is more difficult for a woman in my situation—even with the rest of my life together. Is there even any hope for me? Submitted May 01, 2023 at 12:10AM I’m a divorced single mom of 2 and I live in a large city. Dating again has been difficult. Dating culture just isn’t what it was ten years ago when I last dated. Being divorced and having kids makes it even harder. It’s not like I didn’t know this but I guess it truly is more difficult for a woman in my situation—even with the rest of my life together. Is there even any hope for me?

Hello! I am 27 years old (M). I am a teacher right now and I feel like I am enjoying my life. However, as am growing older, all of my friends around me are getting married and starting to have kids. I've started meeting Women through dating sites, meeting them through work and friends since the age of 22. However I always get rejected in the end, and always ask "What is wrong with me"? I've been told I'm too polite and they perfer someone who not "too nice". The longest relationship was a year and it was very toxic which was long distance. . I want to believe that I will find someone who I can love and respect them for who they are. And someone who will accept my personality.I 've been working on a self love journey and been enjoying my single life with traveling and workong on myself . However, I feel like giving up and feeling hopeless and feel defeated. People around me are also feeling bad for me that I am still single and exclude me from socia...

Being turned on if just your body getting ready for sex. Allo people might get this because they see someone they're attracted to and wanna Be with. Or because Hormones are happening, or as a response to a sexual thing happening at them. Aces don't have the attraction, but we can have random (seeming) hormone fluctuations, or a hormone wash triggered as a reflex to a sex thing happening. April 30, 2023 at 10:56PM

Hey, newbie ase-r here so please forgive my ignorance (just trying to verify my understanding) If you're asexual and have a fetish, does that mean that you would (hypothetically) masterbate to your fetish, but don't have any interest in having sex with another person? April 30, 2023 at 12:18AM

Yeah that seems pretty abnormal. Most of the women I know have expressed in conversations that they usually like a guy less once they feel like a guy is ‘chasing’ them, and that definitely parallels what I’ve seen in my own dating world as well. April 30, 2023 at 12:14AM

You guys... This dude raped me... And now he is saying that I'm making a big deal about the situation. . And and saying it's not a good idea if I reported him.. . Because he tells me that it would be worst on me.... And in just So confused.... He also tells me that he never meant to do that to me... He just wanted me to not be so concerned about getting pregnant and stuff... He also tells me that He never meant it to be (well, since he doesn't believe it's rape.... )He thinks that I'm overthinking it... And that He only wanted to show me that I'm not gonna get pregnant and that I shouldn't be afraid of sex. To be clear this is what happened: STEP 1: I told him that I was really horny, and basically told him this: " Hey ex bf...I wouldn't mind having sex, but since I get so paranoid about sex, I don't think we should do it." (Please remember this part.) (NOTE:I DID EXPLAINED THAT I WAS THINKING OF HIM PUTTING HIMSELF OR HIS FINGE...

How could I save it to my computer then?? And what if my computer gets broken would I still have the audio?? April 30, 2023 at 12:09AM

Y’all. First post ever and it’s this. 😭 I’m bummed about the situation, honestly. But a guy and I met last year and it didn’t work out and then he came back and tried again. I still had feelings so I let it all happen, and just like last year, I offered to pay for my stuff since day one. He lid for a couple dates and after that I’d cover myself because I know his income is less than mine. Almost $20 and hour less, so I always thought it fair to cover myself unless he offered and be modest when he does. So anyway, in the just under two months that that we lasted this second time, we’ve “broken it off” like twice because I felt like I poured into him and our relationship a whole lot more than him. He was super invested at the beginning, texting me often and matching my energy or whatever it’s called, and then once we began to get physical, he began to stop. To the point where he’d go hours and almost a day without texting me. We only continued that far because he said he wanted to try ...

I'm sex-repulsed and scared of sex as well. It's not something I've ever had to discuss with anyone (I've never dated) but I could see it being extremely frustrating and painful to feel so invalidated. Just know you aren't alone and that there's nothing about you that needs "fixing". ❤️ April 29, 2023 at 10:51PM

No problem, thrust just means Something else, thats why i found it funny April 29, 2023 at 10:46PM

Well, that is the exact pun of my tag right there. April 29, 2023 at 01:07AM

To be clear... I'm not advising anyone to purposely play "games" here but, dating is vastly different between men and women and well, for men often times there actually are things you can do (probably should do) to get and/or keep a womans interest in you. What I am about to say will, and does work in almost all situations, and with most women. So take this with a grain of salt but keep it in mind... Title isn't entirely correct but, generally speaking here... most women enjoy being chased, sought after, wanted, and like the attention they receive from men who want them. As do men. But, in real life if men want to date a woman... trying to be "chased" is not going to work out. More often than not it's the men chasing/pursuing a woman, not the other way around. As a mid 30 year old man, I can say without a doubt to NEVER chase a woman regardless of if you are 20 or 50. Pursuing and chasing are not the same thing. Pursuing would be asking her out, show...

doing all i can to make a seba do a double take April 28, 2023 at 11:56PM

the only thing that’ll make you look bad is you sacrificing your ethics because of your past experiences. just because you were raped and one of your rapists didn’t get caught doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to catch this one. is a rapist really someone you want to have as a friend? April 28, 2023 at 11:56PM

My (21f) ex (28m) and I recently broke up over some trust issues which we talked over, but we are still currently broken up. This is our second time we split in an 8 month relationship. He wants to get married and wants a family,as he feels hes running out of time. I dont want to get married yet, but also i dont want to get married to him partly because of cultural differences and I dont want to have bio kids or maybe even have kids at all. And in his opinion I check off alot of his wife boxes and if I wanted the same future he wanted he would ask me in a heartbeat. We are both still extremely attached to each other and still extremely care for eachother. And cant seem to let go. Is it selfish of me to keep him around until im ready to let go? Is it stupid to get back together knowing what we know? I know its harmful to keep going in circles but our hearts are taking over our minds. He does keep saying that if we get back together I have to expect that he will leave me if he finds a ...

i’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, he has a extremely time consuming & demanding job. i’ve tried to be understanding and supportive of him & his career, but i feel like now our relationship has become one- sided. he’s been doing this job for about 6 months now, it’s just recently, he never has time for me anymore. the time he does have is like every other week at 1am, he comes over, i give him head, and he gives me an excuse so he can leave. doesn’t text me after, nothing. i really dont know if i’m just being to needy or “entitled “ to his time. i completely understand his situation he’s in, and i know him giving me more time & attention isn’t a option right now for him. Submitted April 29, 2023 at 12:16AM i’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, he has a extremely time consuming & demanding job. i’ve tried to be understanding and supportive of him & his career, but i feel like now our relationship has become one- sided.he’s been doing this job fo...

What’s aegosexual? It’s in your username and I’ve never heard of it before, thx April 28, 2023 at 12:08AM

Im not sure if this the right page to ask this but here we go. This is the first real relationship me (M24) and her (F23) have ever been in and it’s been a great time. However there is something she told me and that she was a rape victim. When she told me this I really didn’t know what else to do besides hug her and just say I’m really sorry it happened. She told me she was afraid of telling me because she thought I would just leave and that’s that. I stayed w her because it’s not her fault and I wouldn’t go anywhere besides staying w her. After this convo happened, it was brought up again a few weeks later but this time she told me that she has a child with her rapist. This is where it gets wild and a HUGE curveball for me since I’ve met her family beforehand and that is that her child is her “sibling” in her family. Her parents know that it’s her child and treat her as their own but my gfs daughter doesn’t know she’s her mother. Her rapist is still in her life since they’re cousins ...

Hey, this is a random question, but I’m genuinely curious how people tend to see their spouse or partner after they decide to let someone in. Like if a man cries in front of you, shares their worries, or vents about on going issues, does that make them less attractive in your eyes? I recently had a co worker voice this opinion and said this is why he’ll never vent because deep down it’s programmed into women to see men less than when they open up or cry and they lose respect for them. Took me a back honestly, but I’d thought I’d bring it to Reddit to see how people feel on this topic. Should men ever open up or should they repress everything? Submitted April 27, 2023 at 11:53PM Hey, this is a random question, but I’m genuinely curious how people tend to see their spouse or partner after they decide to let someone in. Like if a man cries in front of you, shares their worries, or vents about on going issues, does that make them less attractive in your eyes?I recently had a co w...

I (39M) have been dating a girl (39F) for about 2-3 months. We're both divorced with a few kids, and have been spending 1-2 nights a week at each other's houses (when the kids aren't there), hanging out at bars, having fun, and chilling. We also go unprotected. We text daily, have long phone calls, and share the mundane details of our lives, including ex-related dramas. We've been having deep emotional conversations too, discussing what we've learned from our breakups/therapy. Both of us are busy professionals. Recently, she told me that we never had the "relationship chat" and she's been dating another guy, doing the same things with him as with me. She didn't think it was relevant because we weren't officially in a relationship. I calmly said I'm out because I don't want to invest so much time on someone for just sex. She didn't respond well, accusing me of gaslighting and being insecure. She might have hoped to make me jealous ...

Had these experiences where i couldn't even tell a single word. lol well ofcourse that happen before, but rn most of the guys talk to me first. Well im just curious how to talk first, cause sometimes it feels different. How would u guys react if a girl talks to you first lol Submitted April 28, 2023 at 12:11AM Had these experiences where i couldn't even tell a single word. lol well ofcourse that happen before, but rn most of the guys talk to me first. Well im just curious how to talk first, cause sometimes it feels different. How would u guys react if a girl talks to you first lol

Thank you! April 27, 2023 at 10:58PM

Yeah in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I believe it goes breathable air, water, food, then shelter, for straight degenerates who don’t know what they’re talking about. When it comes to the ace list of Hierarchy of Needs it goes: Aces: On top there's breathable air, there's water, there's food... Allosexuals: And then sex! Aces: No. There's shelter, there's sleep... Allosexuals: And then sex! Aces: I'm getting there, I'm getting there... There's clothing, there's personal security, there's employment, there’s resources, there’s health, there’s property…. Allosexuals: Now sex?! Aces: Almost there, stay with me… There’s friendship, family, sense of connection, respect, self-esteem, status, recognition, strength, freedom, self-actualization, intimacy, and then, maybe, there’s sex. April 27, 2023 at 01:29AM

Or change your idea of what the relationship will be? Always been curious about the general consensus Submitted April 27, 2023 at 01:07AM Or change your idea of what the relationship will be? Always been curious about the general consensus

Idk how to navigate this. I haven't met him yet, but we've been talking for a month. I don't think I've connected with someone on deep level just in text before. He seems really nice, and had already made it clear that if nothing happens, he'll still like to be my friend because he really like my vibe and talking to me. We may meet very soon and may sleep together, depending on the situation. The thing is, I've never dated anyone and only been with guys casually. The body count is not a lot, but I'm 26 and i do crave for some romantic stability. I am anyway not getting any sex though, but if i turn this guy down, I'll be back at ground zero and will also feel bad that i am missing out on life cuz i am not having enough sex (last something physical happened was a year ago). So how to not be judgemental? My experience with fuckbois has made me a bit sceptical of guys who want fwb or hook-ups, even if they might be nice and intersting people generally. ...

So I went on a date yesterday. It was with a girl who was pretty nice and kind but not someone I am attracted to... I went to a bar and a music performance with her because I'd rather go with her than go alone... I see her as someone I could be good friends with... I mean we hugged at the beginning and end, sat next to each other having drinks.... But we never kissed or did anything that intimate... I mean yeah it was a date I guess, but I'm really going out with her to not feel bad going alone and to get more confidence to meet other girls and ask other girls out.... I mean shoudl I keep 'going out' with her in the hope of meeting a girl I actually like? Submitted April 26, 2023 at 09:34PM So I went on a date yesterday. It was with a girl who was pretty nice and kind but not someone I am attracted to... I went to a bar and a music performance with her because I'd rather go with her than go alone... I see her as someone I could be good friends with...I mea...

Not all reactions should be validated. Some fears are irrational, some responses disproportionate to the stimuli that cause them. I'm not unsympathetic to people that have extreme responses, it's not like they're bad people for reacting "incorrectly" or anything like that. But their lives are made worse by having those responses, and the compassionate thing to do is to encourage them to get that sorted out. We don't have to pretend that all responses are reasonable. April 26, 2023 at 11:32PM

Im a Diablo nerd and I agree. April 26, 2023 at 11:31PM

I (23F) have been seeing this guy (31M) for a little over a month now. We are exclusive and he obviously really likes me back. But my anxious attachment really gets the best of me. He has had to kick me out of his place 3 times now all of which I have literally begged him to spend more time with me. Last night we went on a really good date and he talked about how we can spend more time together now and maybe even go on a trip. However, I stayed the whole of the next day while he worked and when he was getting done I started asking him when he’s done implying that we’re gonna hang out etc. he told me he has to go for his class and I started begging him not to go. When he told me he has to I got mad and left right away. He hasn’t texted me since and idk how to get back from this. I want to be less crazy and needy but it seems to just come out. Submitted April 26, 2023 at 01:16AM I (23F) have been seeing this guy (31M) for a little over a month now. We are exclusive and he obvious...

To me it's a little bit like thinking about being in a horror movie Vs just watching a horror movie (they aren't similar) and it's more about the action than the people. For a lot of asexual people, there's a line where it becomes too real, like smut? audio? stills? video? And it becomes more centered on the people. Obviously not everyone here thinks this way. There's a diversity of views. Lots of ace people don't engage in masturbation. Like do you need to have the specific people you're being aroused by to be people who would be your ""type"" who you'd feel attracted to? We aren't the only people to feel arousal and attraction separately https://www.thepinknews.com/2021/01/17/gay-male-porn-lesbian-sex-sexuality-consent-kink-queer-jennifer-lynae-lee/ Sex-favourable people may enjoy the sensation without necessarily feeling the attraction. You can enjoy hugging people even if you've never felt the urge to hug specific pe...

hey, i want one :( April 26, 2023 at 12:11AM

i've talked to many women online over the phone texting and calling, however every time i feel as if a women is interested in me im always wrong and now i'm scared to do anything about it. i'm a very physical guy and i can tell very easily in person but something about being online or in a call i just can't tell, i also catch feelings very easily so it makes it so much worse. just looking for advice on how to tell. Submitted April 26, 2023 at 12:13AM i've talked to many women online over the phone texting and calling, however every time i feel as if a women is interested in me im always wrong and now i'm scared to do anything about it. i'm a very physical guy and i can tell very easily in person but something about being online or in a call i just can't tell, i also catch feelings very easily so it makes it so much worse. just looking for advice on how to tell.

I’m soo excited to see this movie April 25, 2023 at 10:26PM

I’m (23m) in a pretty tight predicament right now. Not sure how I should handle this without being seen as an a-hole. I might be losing physical attraction to my girlfriend (27), but long story short I have constantly been in my gfs corner about what she should do about her weight. I’ve actively tried getting her to exercise with me, eat healthier, come for my daily runs, and even have tried to set her up with a Hello Fresh account to get her to cook her own meals. Nothing has worked and she consistently complains about how overweight she is and how unattractive she is. I do my best to comfort her and appreciate her but she listens to what I have to say and it’s basically in one ear and out the other. I don’t know what to do, and I feel like an a-hole for even saying that I’m losing attraction to her and in a way it’s putting a strain on our relationship. Any advice would be appreciated as I constantly feel like I’m walking around eggshells around this topic and around her. Submit...

I think at times a high libido can mask asexuality, in a sense that there are some ace people who don't realize it due to the contrast in their libido and attraction. Specially if you are sex-positive and alloromantic, I can see it being hard to pinpoint. I have a high libido but 0 interest in sex even though I don't mind the idea of it. It took me forever to realize that not minding it is not the same as wanting it lol. You can probably increase libido since it is a physical thing and I guess you can also work on sex favorability if you want to and work on it, but with attraction: I doubt there is any way to influence that. Best thing to do is really understand your comforts and see how they match with your partner or potential partner. You might be okay with certain acts more than others and involving different components and situations definitely can give a different feel so it would be best to really see where you stand. I know a lotta aces are into kink and stuff, somet...

I had to tell a guy today that we are not a match, but hey good luck out there. But he wouldn’t let it go. He wanted to know exactly why we are not a match. So I told him his art is scary. Then he started debating that. I could have just unmatched him but I didn’t want to be rude, so I gave him my parting words. But he didn’t let it end there. So I had to have an awkward conversation about his artwork. Now I know why people ghost. My advice is when someone says we are not a match believe them and move on. Submitted April 25, 2023 at 01:09AM I had to tell a guy today that we are not a match, but hey good luck out there. But he wouldn’t let it go. He wanted to know exactly why we are not a match. So I told him his art is scary. Then he started debating that. I could have just unmatched him but I didn’t want to be rude, so I gave him my parting words. But he didn’t let it end there. So I had to have an awkward conversation about his artwork. Now I know why people ghost. My advice i...

Transfemme panromantic ace. Heya! April 25, 2023 at 12:20AM

TL;DR: A girl I have been seeing for 6 months has been distant recently due to her finishing grad school, family issues and job searching. Should I keep talking to her or take a step back? Hey everyone, I have been seeing this girl since last October. Everything was great from the start and I didn't have very strong feelings for her until about February. She had strong feelings since November, but in February, she started becoming for distant because we never had the talk about what we were and she thought I wasn't into her. In February, we both hooked up with other people. When I found this out, we had a talk near the end of March. The talk consisted of me telling her the feelings I have for her and that I saw us being something really fun and exciting. A relationship and all. She said that she saw that with me too, but that she was trying to pull back a bit because we didn't share how we felt (I believe this is both of our faults). She also said that night that she is ...

Is it okay for someone you’re in the “talking” stage with to not answer for 12+ hours? For context, this is our second time trying dating. They admit they have trouble communicating but I asked them to put in more effort. I don’t want to overreact and push them away but I feel like this is ridiculous. If I was on their mind, they would text right? Submitted April 24, 2023 at 02:10AM Is it okay for someone you’re in the “talking” stage with to not answer for 12+ hours? For context, this is our second time trying dating. They admit they have trouble communicating but I asked them to put in more effort. I don’t want to overreact and push them away but I feel like this is ridiculous. If I was on their mind, they would text right?

A couple of weeks ago I (M23) ran into an old friend at one of the bars. It was her and her sister’s 21st birthday. Her sister used to date one of my buddies a few years ago and that’s how we met. Her and I talked and flirted a little bit back then. One of my friends wanted me to ask her out and make a move, bc he thought she liked me. I couldn’t tell, as basically every time we were around each other we were drinking. That same friend also liked her, and they became pretty close but I don’t think she felt the same way about him. They’re still close to this day. I hadn’t seen her in almost two years, since her sister and my friend broke up. We would text each other randomly but super infrequently, just teasing each other and bantering. Only a few times per year. After I saw her at the bar, we reconnected, and she texted me later in the week about hanging out sometime. Her and I had never spent time by ourselves. On Friday night, her sister dropped her off at my apartment to have s...

Same, though mine just tend to be replays of events I’ve experienced on the rare occasion they happen. Can figure out who it is by other context clues in the dream, but their face is fuzzy and it’s almost like I’m watching from outside of my own body. Not really erotic to me or anything, just kind of a ‘yea, that was a fun time’ sort of thing. April 23, 2023 at 11:28PM

I’m F42 and have been confused and struggling myself. I think I am grey-a. I’m willing to chat some. I was also brought up conservative. April 23, 2023 at 11:08PM

Hey everyone, I need advice, so there’s this girl I’ve known Since elementary school, she’s really attractive and I wanted to ask for her number and maybe ask her on a date. We are friends on Snapchat. What would be the best way to go about this? I have severe anxiety at first when it comes to this type of thing. Submitted April 24, 2023 at 12:16AM Hey everyone,I need advice, so there’s this girl I’ve known Since elementary school, she’s really attractive and I wanted to ask for her number and maybe ask her on a date. We are friends on Snapchat. What would be the best way to go about this? I have severe anxiety at first when it comes to this type of thing.

Of course it's the teenagers sub April 23, 2023 at 12:13AM

Hello {20m} first time posting here, as with most guys here I'm also having extreme difficulties finding anyone at all, let alone a relationship. I go through the motions each morning on the dating apps, I use my likes, slog through the day, wake up with zero messages or interest, then do it all again. It's my routine now and it has been for a while now but to no effect sadly. So my question is, when dating apps/subreddits don't help at all, is there any other way or place you've had any success? I've been abused before however that's not a problem to me if that helps any. I don't care of I'm beat and hurt by someone, I simply want there to BE a someone 🌙 I want to love someone with all that I am, I get attached very fast and have a very strong fear of abandonment so I just want someone to spend the rest of my life with, someone I can make as happy as possible forever. Any genuine suggestions would be deeply appreciated 🌙 thank you humans Submi...

I'm 23 and I'm interested in a girl 22 who is in a group I regularly hang out with and club with. For context she started showing signs she was into me which, after being clued in by a mate, I started to pick up on. I didn't really have her on my radar at any point other than thinking she was attractive and pleasant to be around. During this time I have hooked up others (which was a first for me) but after doing it I realised I wanted more from a relationship. I'm pretty inexperienced in general, not had any long term partners, been on a handful of dates but struggled with being hung up on a girl I lived with for a couple of years. Over the last year I've been changing a lot in terms of getting in shape, going through therapy and various personal developments. Iused to never really go out just kinda stayed at home and hung out in small groups. I wouldn't say I'm a social butterfly or anything, just far more socially comfortable in general. Thus it leads ...

So basically I was talking with this girl on tinder and it was going really well. She was being really forward about meeting up when she gets home from college, and even asked for my snap. But then randomly a couple hours after asking me for my snap she unmatched with me. What I think happened is that I had read receipts on and she thought I was gonna ghost her after she asked for my snap (I was planning on responding later that night as that’s when I’m usually on tinder). I was pretty bummed out but remembered that she put her Instagram in her profile so I followed that. She hasn’t followed me back, but is it weird to send her a message on there? I really think what happened is that she thought I was just going to ghost her and so she took the first step. Btw this all happened over the course of like 2 days. Just want to make sure I’m not being a creep. Also what should I message her? Submitted April 23, 2023 at 12:10AM So basically I was talking with this girl on tinder and it...

When you ask her to go out in the weekend and get this reply. Then on Friday you check in. We usually have like 3 threads going on at the same time. She continues with all the threads but the one where I'm checking in, which she ignores. No point in asking again right? Submitted April 23, 2023 at 12:11AM When you ask her to go out in the weekend and get this reply.Then on Friday you check in. We usually have like 3 threads going on at the same time. She continues with all the threads but the one where I'm checking in, which she ignores.No point in asking again right?

When people say they hate late replies...we talking 15 minutes later or 4 hours? During the day I'm fairly busy and can't be on my phone constantly (work and all) I've never understood this. I'm generally okay with a couple minutes between messages. I don't wanna wate hours for a text, but I get people have lives beyond a screen. So when does it become a late reply? Submitted April 23, 2023 at 12:12AM When people say they hate late replies...we talking 15 minutes later or 4 hours? During the day I'm fairly busy and can't be on my phone constantly (work and all)I've never understood this. I'm generally okay with a couple minutes between messages. I don't wanna wate hours for a text, but I get people have lives beyond a screen. So when does it become a late reply?

Tis, but a scratch April 22, 2023 at 10:26PM

Just wanting wanting to hear some perspectives on this. I'm in the latter group as I'm a fan of accentuated curves. Submitted April 22, 2023 at 02:14AM Just wanting wanting to hear some perspectives on this. I'm in the latter group as I'm a fan of accentuated curves.

I went to gym yesterday and was exercising. When I was exercising a very hot milf came . When I saw her my dick went erect. I was only seeing her. I wanna fuck her. Can u give me any tips Submitted April 22, 2023 at 02:16AM I went to gym yesterday and was exercising. When I was exercising a very hot milf came . When I saw her my dick went erect. I was only seeing her. I wanna fuck her. Can u give me any tips

I don't get it. Hearing the bitching about "tired of people thinking I'm hitting on them when I'm being nice" Like literally so what? You think that guys just magically start liking you if you were nice ? No they were always attracted to you and when they thought you were flirting, they shot their shot. And that's should be fine. You say no, if they accept that, that's the end of it. I don't understand crying about people finding you attractive. We don't know until we ask. Yeah I'm sure you'd rather be asked out by your crush, but over again we don't know until we try and no one is wrong for that Submitted April 22, 2023 at 01:13AM I don't get it. Hearing the bitching about "tired of people thinking I'm hitting on them when I'm being nice"Like literally so what? You think that guys just magically start liking you if you were nice ? No they were always attracted to you and when they thought you were flirting...

OH MY GOD where did you get it?? Fucking adorable! April 21, 2023 at 11:37PM

that’s a good way to think of it!! thank you :) April 21, 2023 at 11:30PM

After seeing a girl a couple times and arranging a third date, I suddenly got a text saying that she didn’t want to waste my time as she’s too busy with exams and life to properly date at the moment. She said that come summer (in a couple months) she’d be keen to try again and go on another after her exams, but I wasn’t sure if this was just being polite. I’ve been on a lot of dates and had a lot of rejections too in the past. This felt a bit different. I’m at a point in my life where I feel really confident in who I am, and have a better sense of self esteem than I’ve ever previously felt. I went on two dates with this girl, and I felt like we had a genuine connection - we shared laughter and stories, and it felt so easy-going and natural. After the first date, I texted her saying I had fun and she agreed. We swiftly arranged a second date and had a similarly good experience. Both dates only lasted a couple of hours as she always had plans afterwards, so it always felt like they cou...

ADHD and OCD over here. Though sometimes I still question if I'm on the spectrum... April 21, 2023 at 12:23AM

I stopped using dating apps bc I only got crickets. I also don't drink so I don't go to bars or clubs. I've got plenty of outdoors/social hobbies and have a job, but both are almost entirely male dominated. I've never approached a girl before or asked any girl out, so ig I'm 0 for 0. I hoped a girl would ask me out instead since I've got approach anxiety, but that isn't going too well. I have no idea if I'm attractive or ugly, as I've never been called either. Never flirted before or have any idea how dating works tbh. TLDR: So what should I do to get a gf? Assuming a girl would even want to date a guy who's never been in a relationship b4 And pls don't tell me to work on myself, I've already been doing that. Submitted April 21, 2023 at 01:16AM I stopped using dating apps bc I only got crickets. I also don't drink so I don't go to bars or clubs. I've got plenty of outdoors/social hobbies and have a job, but both are...

I’ve been talking to someone since October, but every time I try to plan something they make some excuse. It’s very discouraging and I don’t think I can keep talking to them. How should I notify them? Submitted April 21, 2023 at 12:13AM I’ve been talking to someone since October, but every time I try to plan something they make some excuse. It’s very discouraging and I don’t think I can keep talking to them. How should I notify them?

Idk I feel like most allos would react that way too. The whole joke of denji's motives is he assigns the same level of grandiose importance to them as other anime protagonists do to more "nobel" goals. So when it seems like he's about to go on a speech about whats worth living for, the other characters are expecting some generic philosophical perspective about life, or some promise to a dead friend, or some bloodthirsty vow of revenge. But he then just comes out with shit like wanting to cop a feel, or get a girlfriend, or as above, have sex. So it's entirely possible the reaction could've been more of an "eww. Pervert" rather than an "eww. Sex". Maybe I'm wrong though, & it is ace rep. April 20, 2023 at 11:24PM

Autistic here and I was diagnosed as a kid! April 20, 2023 at 11:22PM

Sexual attraction is still sexual attraction no matter how you're getting it and I believe those with fetishes can still feel at least some form of sexual attraction for people as well. That's mostly in reference to the sexual attraction being rare, some greysexuals only feel sexual attraction a few times in their life and that's all. April 20, 2023 at 01:22AM

I am coming out of an abusive marriage that lasted 18 years. I have been enjoying dating and experiencing new people. It’s been overall very positive. I am just casually dating right now, not looking for a relationship right away. However, I’m a little terrified I will never have satisfying sex again. I have slept with a few people and they all were such short encounters AND I wasn’t able to orgasm. From lack of skill/effort, not nervousness. I got lots of positive feedback on my own efforts. While my marriage was a train wreck, one thing we did well was fuck. Both of us always orgasmed. We really had each other figured out sexually. I find myself really missing getting railed. 😂 So I’m wondering if this has just been bad luck or if lots of people just aren’t terribly great at sex? Yes I know that I can work on a sexual relationship if I find someone that I am really into…but I’m not ready to get that close yet. I feel shitty for being critical, but sex is just a big part of who...

So I was 100% certain she blocked me in iMessage, because of how annoying and drunk I was (4-5 times drunker than her) on the first date. It's hard to overstate how bad the impression I gave was and I didn't fully remember everything I said. She also said she was a morning person and previously texted in the morning. So when the message box was green I assumed block. Additionally, I thought I left such a bad impression that I don't want her to be able to reverse image search on Hinge, or report me, or and screw with me on another platform or find my info. So I unmatched to hide my profile from her. Turns out she actually replied in iMessage later that day... so I laughed my ass off at how stupid and paranoid I was. If it turns out she actually still likes me how should I explain the unmatch Submitted April 20, 2023 at 01:15AM So I was 100% certain she blocked me in iMessage, because of how annoying and drunk I was (4-5 times drunker than her) on the first date. It...

We (28f, 27m) had only been going out for a few months but things seemed to have been going really well. He was showing up, making an effort, constantly talking about the future as recent as a few days ago - what he wanted to do together, having intimate conversations, constantly telling me how much he likes me and all these other things. Then yesterday out of nowhere, a few hours after having a totally normal conversation where he was showing me something he was excited about, I got a text ending things. A text. I feel so blindsided and even more hurt because there wasn’t really a reason given, but the confusion is making it worse. I feel like I have no closure and could use some advice on idk anything. I feel like I’m having so much trouble processing this because things were still new and good, and it came out of nowhere. Submitted April 20, 2023 at 12:05AM We (28f, 27m) had only been going out for a few months but things seemed to have been going really well. He was showing ...

FWIW when I started HRT my libido tanked for a few months but then it stabilized and came back once my body was used to the new hormone balance. It doesn't mean you're ace, but it also doesn't necessarily mean you're not ace. Identify however feels good and reasonable for you. April 19, 2023 at 11:29PM

Off topic, and I can't help you cause. I’ll admit that I find those sorts of questions very entertaining as an allo, but I am very pleased to know that other people play Hot Seat as we called it because I’ve never met another group of people that play it aside from my college friends! April 19, 2023 at 11:26PM

Might be starting a long distance relationship soon and his friend added me on snap and asked what my intentions were with his bsf and this guy is the most important friend in his life, how should I respond serious or less serious and any ideas. Don’t know why I’m stressing about this Submitted April 19, 2023 at 01:16AM Might be starting a long distance relationship soon and his friend added me on snap and asked what my intentions were with his bsf and this guy is the most important friend in his life, how should I respond serious or less serious and any ideas. Don’t know why I’m stressing about this

The only meat I want is served at Arby's. April 19, 2023 at 12:28AM

THAT'S SO PRETTY I WANT ONE April 19, 2023 at 12:28AM

This girl (24) and I (25) were never in a relationship we just talked. I know this is a dating page but we never dated. Honestly I touched her boobs one time, hugged her a few times and we kissed on the cheek one time that's it. So we talked throughout last year, but this year things went bad between us and we stopped talking. Last week we had a talk about everything and it went well atleast to me. At one point I told her that I don't feel like we're friends anymore, she responded saying of course we're still friends. Now fast-forward to today I'm not a social media type person, but I reactivated my Facebook and eventually I sent her a friend request. In return she blocked me and when I asked her about it she said she doesn't want me as a friend and she doesn't want me as anything. So obviously she's saying 2 different things. And dont hit me with the "you need to get over it" that's not a problem at all, the problem is I'm confused as...

I call them my partner! It's a term used quite a bit in the LGBTQIA+ community, so sometimes I know it gives the impression that I'm gay or that one of us is NB when neither of those things is true, but 1. I don't like giving anyone any identification info if I don't have to, especially if I don't know them well, and 2. I've been with them for almost a decade now, and calling your significant other boy/girl friend feels a little bit inaccurate for the type of relationship we have. They're my partner, and we, like partners, have a dynamic that's a little more hammered out than that of two folks who just got together, I think. Just my 2¢ though! April 18, 2023 at 11:24PM

Hello I’m new to the group I’m taking a look at some of the posts to see what’s out there. There is one question I do have I live in Alaska and it’s hard to meet guys here I’m a highly sexual type guy I enjoy being with guys a lot I’m a top and bottom but my luck is pretty poor I’m a goodlooking guy how can I meet guys in Alaska more I’m not into the club scene I’m a private type guy and like to keep it that way any advise April 18, 2023 at 11:23PM

People = shit by Slipknot Joking of course April 18, 2023 at 01:33AM

Yup, I was looking for this option April 18, 2023 at 01:33AM

I’m a college student, and last week, a dude asked me out at the gym. He told me I was very attractive and wanted to get to know me better. We texted for a bit, and eventually, he asked me out on a date. I was clear about when I was free, which was only on Sunday that week. He said he was free the entire day on Sunday and that it would work out for him. He did not text me for a couple days before the date. The day of the date comes, and he texts me a couple hours prior and basically tells me he partied a bit too hard over the weekend and cancelled the date to do his homework. He did apologize and ask to reschedule, but I was not sure how to answer and sort of dodged the question. I feel a little put off because we did plan it ahead of the weekend time, but I don’t know if I’m being too uptight. He has been nice to me so far other than that. Any advice would be appreciated. Submitted April 18, 2023 at 01:17AM I’m a college student, and last week, a dude asked me out at the gym. ...

i mean i read in my bed? also watching videos, if ur lucky enough to have a tv in ur room that too. can someone please tell me actually what the man meant? im genuinly confused April 18, 2023 at 12:21AM

You are giving off some serious purity vibes, here. Neither lack of sexual attraction or having sexual attraction is a disease. I don't like getting 'props' when it comes at the expense of others. April 18, 2023 at 12:21AM

I'm 16M from the UK few months ago I broke up from my 1st gf (dated since 13) so I feel that I'm terrible with women (in starting a romantic relationship), I am a really confident calm guy who's friend with every friend group in the school, so what is your adviceinn building my ability to get/attract women overall? Submitted April 17, 2023 at 11:59PM I'm 16M from the UK few months ago I broke up from my 1st gf (dated since 13) so I feel that I'm terrible with women (in starting a romantic relationship), I am a really confident calm guy who's friend with every friend group in the school, so what is your adviceinn building my ability to get/attract women overall?

You might want to stop watching the Shrek movies, then. April 17, 2023 at 12:28AM

No, it's about dragons, cake, garlic bread and WAR! April 17, 2023 at 12:27AM

I (18F) am a freshman in college. In high school, I never received any attention from guys. Hell, I only ever had my first crush during the first semester of college. While I was happy for everyone, I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t hurt a little for me to watch girls at school being given presents for Valentine’s Day or holding hands with their boyfriends around campus. It’s hard not to be at least a little jealous of those things, right? Because I didn’t/haven’t experience(d) any romance in my life, I’ve been filling the void with novels that contain romance for as long as I can remember. It’s been an escape for me. I like to attach myself to the female characters and imagine what it would be like to be in the universe of those novels. It really is such a good feeling. The feeling of reading the scene when the characters you’ve been wanting to get together finally kiss and getting so excited you have to close the book and giggle while kicking your feet around on your bed is unm...