Me (24M) and my situationship (24F). Too keep talking or to let go for a bit in hopes of it returning to the way it was?

TL;DR: A girl I have been seeing for 6 months has been distant recently due to her finishing grad school, family issues and job searching. Should I keep talking to her or take a step back?

Hey everyone, I have been seeing this girl since last October. Everything was great from the start and I didn't have very strong feelings for her until about February. She had strong feelings since November, but in February, she started becoming for distant because we never had the talk about what we were and she thought I wasn't into her.

In February, we both hooked up with other people. When I found this out, we had a talk near the end of March. The talk consisted of me telling her the feelings I have for her and that I saw us being something really fun and exciting. A relationship and all. She said that she saw that with me too, but that she was trying to pull back a bit because we didn't share how we felt (I believe this is both of our faults). She also said that night that she is not ready for a relationship at that point due to the things in her life in the paragraph below. I agreed as I don't want to force anything, I want our relationship to be fun and exciting like it was the first four months.

Since that talk, she has had a crazy busy life. She moved apartments, had her friends in town for her birthday, and has since been studying for her masters finals and thesis presentation and working at her internship on top of applying for jobs and running into some personal family issues.

We have hung out one time since the meeting in late March. We went out on the town and overall it was a great night. I tried to not bring any of our relationship stuff up and keep it light and fun which we did. We text once or twice a day currently and want to hang out with her again but dont want to become a burden or annoyance in her life. But she has also been going out with her friends during the weekends and feels like she doesn't want to spend time with me. She only has so many days off these couple of months and agree she should spend them with friends, but I am truly feeling like an afterthought or a last resort.

This leads me to my question, She graduates in Mid May and will be starting her job hopefully in May as well. I am tired of feeling like the last resort in her life, even though her life is extremely hectic right now. I am trying my best to go with the flow in this relationship but I cannot help but feel like I am annoying her / being to needy to ask to hangout once a week.



Submitted April 25, 2023 at 12:14AM

TL;DR: A girl I have been seeing for 6 months has been distant recently due to her finishing grad school, family issues and job searching. Should I keep talking to her or take a step back?Hey everyone, I have been seeing this girl since last October. Everything was great from the start and I didn't have very strong feelings for her until about February. She had strong feelings since November, but in February, she started becoming for distant because we never had the talk about what we were and she thought I wasn't into her.In February, we both hooked up with other people. When I found this out, we had a talk near the end of March. The talk consisted of me telling her the feelings I have for her and that I saw us being something really fun and exciting. A relationship and all. She said that she saw that with me too, but that she was trying to pull back a bit because we didn't share how we felt (I believe this is both of our faults). She also said that night that she is not ready for a relationship at that point due to the things in her life in the paragraph below. I agreed as I don't want to force anything, I want our relationship to be fun and exciting like it was the first four months.Since that talk, she has had a crazy busy life. She moved apartments, had her friends in town for her birthday, and has since been studying for her masters finals and thesis presentation and working at her internship on top of applying for jobs and running into some personal family issues.We have hung out one time since the meeting in late March. We went out on the town and overall it was a great night. I tried to not bring any of our relationship stuff up and keep it light and fun which we did. We text once or twice a day currently and want to hang out with her again but dont want to become a burden or annoyance in her life. But she has also been going out with her friends during the weekends and feels like she doesn't want to spend time with me. She only has so many days off these couple of months and agree she should spend them with friends, but I am truly feeling like an afterthought or a last resort.This leads me to my question, She graduates in Mid May and will be starting her job hopefully in May as well. I am tired of feeling like the last resort in her life, even though her life is extremely hectic right now. I am trying my best to go with the flow in this relationship but I cannot help but feel like I am annoying her / being to needy to ask to hangout once a week.
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