What's Easier? Continuously getting hurt or accepting loneliness by giving up on love.

I know this sounds bleak and I don't post on Reddit very often, but after the situation below happened I wonder if the extremely difficult path to love is worth the condition I'll be in IF I ever find it.

Imagine that just a week ago I (31M) got to see a person (29F) that I have budding feelings for in a unfiltered, relaxing state and those feelings grow even more. She tells me that I am so special that she wants to introduce me to family that she has never let meet a guy before. That feels so good that I literally want to melt into the couch. You have in your own little weird way of an extremely romantic evening (greasy pizza, mediocre movies and cuddling on the couch). The night ends with, although a bit awkward, great sex and her falling asleep in your arms. I wake up to her cuddling on one side of your chest and a cute dog cuddling with you on the other. And I think to myself "This, this right here, is exactly what I want in my life". I try to explain that no matter what our "title" is, I know in that moment that I don't want to be with anyone else but her. But because you're a bumbling idiot, it comes out wrong. The next week I have life threatening incident and the first non family I contact is her and in a weird way that makes our connection feel even stronger. Now less than a week later she doesn't feel like that anymore and there's nothing I can do about it.

TLDR: Is the 1 out of 1,000 times love works, worth the 999 heartbreaks or is just accepting loneliness and giving up trying to find love the easier life strategy.



Submitted May 18, 2019 at 01:55AM

I know this sounds bleak and I don't post on Reddit very often, but after the situation below happened I wonder if the extremely difficult path to love is worth the condition I'll be in IF I ever find it.Imagine that just a week ago I (31M) got to see a person (29F) that I have budding feelings for in a unfiltered, relaxing state and those feelings grow even more. She tells me that I am so special that she wants to introduce me to family that she has never let meet a guy before. That feels so good that I literally want to melt into the couch. You have in your own little weird way of an extremely romantic evening (greasy pizza, mediocre movies and cuddling on the couch). The night ends with, although a bit awkward, great sex and her falling asleep in your arms. I wake up to her cuddling on one side of your chest and a cute dog cuddling with you on the other. And I think to myself "This, this right here, is exactly what I want in my life". I try to explain that no matter what our "title" is, I know in that moment that I don't want to be with anyone else but her. But because you're a bumbling idiot, it comes out wrong. The next week I have life threatening incident and the first non family I contact is her and in a weird way that makes our connection feel even stronger. Now less than a week later she doesn't feel like that anymore and there's nothing I can do about it.TLDR: Is the 1 out of 1,000 times love works, worth the 999 heartbreaks or is just accepting loneliness and giving up trying to find love the easier life strategy.
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