Sex advise needed- gay relationship

Hi,

I'm a 29 y o submissive bottom and my partner is a 37 y o top. We both are a gay couple, currently in a long distance relationship but we are monogamous. Soon both of us are going to start living together.

Recently I have started developing some thoughts. I fancy my partner having sex (and making love, of course) with other boys. We both are brown men and his ideal type is tall, lean, toned and hairy European men. Before we both started dating, he was mostly dating men of his preferred type but after we both met, though I'm only 5'7 and brown-skinned, we both fell in love with each other because we loved each other's personality. And we do love each other physically also. But I have a desire for my man to meet and sleep with young European blokes. His ex, also a gay man, is someone who is totally his type in terms of physical appearance and I will only be delighted if he meets up with his ex sometimes and spends a weekend along with him making love and having a good time visiting some nice places and enjoying lovely dinners. Basically, I'm obsessed so much with this idea to the point that I jerk off thinking about him making love to his ex. I will only be delighted if my partner has a chance to maintain an NSA kind of relationship with his ex. His ex looks very beautiful and is quite fun-loving and he is single too.

Interestingly, I don't fancy myself with any other men, but off late, I have been thinking how lovely it'd be for my handsome and sexy partner to enjoy intimate moments with hot and much younger bottoms.

Please tell me how I should address this issue. Am I thinking the right thing? How should I talk to my partner about this without making him feel offended, because we are in a monogamous relationship and I want this relationship to be only partially open, meaning I don't have interest in meeting others for sex but I'd love my partner to do so. I also strongly desire him making love to his ex and doing fun things with him regularly. Please help!



Submitted May 18, 2019 at 06:17AM

Hi,I'm a 29 y o submissive bottom and my partner is a 37 y o top. We both are a gay couple, currently in a long distance relationship but we are monogamous. Soon both of us are going to start living together.Recently I have started developing some thoughts. I fancy my partner having sex (and making love, of course) with other boys. We both are brown men and his ideal type is tall, lean, toned and hairy European men. Before we both started dating, he was mostly dating men of his preferred type but after we both met, though I'm only 5'7 and brown-skinned, we both fell in love with each other because we loved each other's personality. And we do love each other physically also. But I have a desire for my man to meet and sleep with young European blokes. His ex, also a gay man, is someone who is totally his type in terms of physical appearance and I will only be delighted if he meets up with his ex sometimes and spends a weekend along with him making love and having a good time visiting some nice places and enjoying lovely dinners. Basically, I'm obsessed so much with this idea to the point that I jerk off thinking about him making love to his ex. I will only be delighted if my partner has a chance to maintain an NSA kind of relationship with his ex. His ex looks very beautiful and is quite fun-loving and he is single too.Interestingly, I don't fancy myself with any other men, but off late, I have been thinking how lovely it'd be for my handsome and sexy partner to enjoy intimate moments with hot and much younger bottoms.Please tell me how I should address this issue. Am I thinking the right thing? How should I talk to my partner about this without making him feel offended, because we are in a monogamous relationship and I want this relationship to be only partially open, meaning I don't have interest in meeting others for sex but I'd love my partner to do so. I also strongly desire him making love to his ex and doing fun things with him regularly. Please help!
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