Mm. Yes. Put all the aces on Uranus. February 01, 2023 at 12:34AM

I still don't know if I want to. February 01, 2023 at 12:33AM

My folks and I have a good loving relationship, but also I know what I don't feel like explaining to them. (also, when they once broke down when i said i don't want kids ever) February 01, 2023 at 12:32AM

So i matched with this guy on a dating app which already i know isn’t the best place haha but we went on 3 amazingggg dates within the span of just abt 2 weeks i think and they all went really well from what i could tell, the last one lasted 9 hours and we went out to do 3 different activities. He dropped me off after the date and we hugged and said goodbye as usual, it’s been 4 days since our last date and we’ve spoken very little, yesterday and the day before we didn’t speak at all except for a gif that i sent which he replied to with another gif. I know he’s online on the app we message on but he still hasn’t replied. So i just wanted to see if I could get any outside opinions. I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it and being weird or if I should stop waiting for a reply. Submitted February 01, 2023 at 12:12AM So i matched with this guy on a dating app which already i know isn’t the best place haha but we went on 3 amazingggg dates within the span of just abt 2 weeks i think and...

i told a man who is interested in me ( but not a boyfriend yet) that other men are attracted to me and ask me out ( but I don’t accept their invites) and he got really upset. He responded that I am making all of it out & this is all bs to make him jealous ( which I did not intend). When I go out to clubs there are men attracted to me and they ask me out, however I don’t accept their invitations since I am not interested in them. I am hoping for something with this guy however. Now I regret telling him that I frequently get approached by other men, I think I shouldn’t have told him about it. Can I fix it ? We are not dating ,yet, but have been on that path ( very slowly due to him). Submitted February 01, 2023 at 12:12AM i told a man who is interested in me ( but not a boyfriend yet) that other men are attracted to me and ask me out ( but I don’t accept their invites) and he got really upset. He responded that I am making all of it out & this is all bs to make him jealou...

Is what my ex 30m has done probably nothing to do with me 27f? Recently broke up with ex boyfriend. It’s been hard. During the relationship, he talked about his ex girlfriend all the time, he kept up all the photos on his instagram from when they were together, lovey dovey captions etc. they remained best friends after the breakup and in default contact. But then he moved to the uk from the USA and met me. Well I shouldn’t have been looking I know, but his ex posted that she had a new boyfriend in the uk, a pic of her new boyfriend and that she’s moving to the uk to be with him. All of a sudden, my ex has made his instagram private. Is this probably because he wants to keep the pictures up but still be able to see her? Or has he made it private because of me?I did panic because I made a post about his instagram behaviour yesterday using anon Reddit account, and then it’s weird timing with him making his account private. I said some horrible things and called him a narcissist, but m...

Hey there, fellow redditors, Allow me to share a piece of my story with you all. I'm a 26-year-old man, not short nor unattractive, I'd say I look pretty good. I've got an education and a job that pays well, I believe I'm pretty smart too. When it comes to my personality, I'm a cool, fun, and kind person. Although I'm somewhat of an introvert, I've got a wonderful family. On the surface, I keep up a good appearance, but deep down, I'm a complete mess. I feel like a dead man inside, struggling with depression and terrible mental health. Most days you'll find me holed up at home, smoking pot and trying to find peace. My self-confidence is low, and I don't enjoy being the center of attention. But despite it all, I try my best to make those around me happy. I haven't been in a relationship for two years now. Women approach me at work or at parties, but I politely put them in the friend-zone. I'm afraid of being in a relationship, you see, I...

I'm a sex repulsed ace and dating a sexual person, for me I only like holding / hugging and rubs / touching feels good but when we do anything sexual I stop enjoying it. But I'm aegosexual by definition so when I'm directly involved in sex I don't enjoy it and it no longer feels good but I have been doing things to make him happy. It's been hard to explain to him that basically anything more than touching is just for his enjoyment and not mine. Basically me being a people pleaser I could literally sit on my phone and scroll thru TikTok just so I'm enjoying something while he goes down on me 🤣🤣 but we haven't had full on sex yet just cuz I don't want to 🤷🏽‍♀️ and I told him like we COULD but I probably won't like it and want to stop half way thru. January 31, 2023 at 12:48AM

I’ve been trying to get a girlfriend for 5 or so years. After asking my successful friends and looking on forums the most common advice was the following. Confidence Humor Style Charisma Eye contact I followed all of the steps to a T, but all I get is rejection from women. Women often compliment my personality and say I’m very funny and stylish (two things that according to Reddit are big factors in attracting women), but they never see me as boyfriend material. I had great conversations with a girl I was interested in and did all of the flirting essentials (eye contact, touch, humor) and yet I overheard her saying she didn’t really like me and only liked my personality. So is all of this advice just bullshit? The number one thing I hear about dating is that confidence and personality can help you attract women, but that doesn’t seem to work for me. I only end up gaining women who like me as friends and never as boyfriends. Or am I just not being confident and funny enough(whi...

I hope everyone is able to answer without attacking each other and understand we will have a collective discussion as respectful adults among each other thank you..that said.. its a topic many around me have questioned before, today i feel like asking. Now anyone aged 18 and over can legally date whoever they want , right? I am in my 20s, most people i have been attracted to have always been around my age, so when i was 18 i remember having a crush on a 17 yr old, and liking some 18 and 19 yr olds too etc and so on, but what is to say i dont fall in love with someone i dunno 6 years younger? Again obv 18 at least. Now me personally (due to mentality) knowing someone was under 20 would be too young for me, i can only speak about my experience, cause at age 20 i felt my mind expanded a lot more with university , experiences, autonomy etc.. but what about you? What age differences would you be cool with when dating? Someone 3 years older/younger max? And why is there so much hatred and d...

March in from the north, they will never expect it January 30, 2023 at 11:15PM

I was dating this girl for about two months and we were physically involved too the entire time. I asked her last Sunday if she wants to date exclusively to which she said that she doesn’t feel that she wants a relationship or is ready to settle down yet and is seeing other people as well. I ended things with her saying that I’m not comfortable with the situation. I texted her again yesterday after 5 days of not talking at all. She told me that she was pretty sad the entire week since she was missing me. We decided to meet again today just as friends and nothing more. She looked more excited than ever when I met her today and she took my photo which she never did when we were dating. We also decided on what all things can we do and she initiated the topic of going to her favorite restaurant. Am I reading too much into this or am I getting mixed signals. Submitted January 30, 2023 at 01:15AM I was dating this girl for about two months and we were physically involved too the ent...

I do this with my girlfriend all the time. We're both asexual January 30, 2023 at 12:26AM

I don't smile at all. She said it's the first time she's seen me smile. Submitted January 30, 2023 at 12:00AM I don't smile at all. She said it's the first time she's seen me smile.

The point of this post is that I know OLD is hard… but it would be nice to give & receive the benefit of the doubt. I (30M) work on weekends, and I spent yesterday being a brother and an uncle before going to work last night. I saw the match notification pop up at my brother’s place. But being on dating apps during that time is inappropriate, imo, especially since I hadn’t passed by my brother’s place in a while. That’s family time. This woman I matched with (mid-20’s), on fb dating, was cute and seemed wholesome. Looking for a long-term partner and taking dating seriously. So I didn’t want to send her a message at 3am (after work) because it seemed like a weird hour to reach out for the 1st time. Didn’t want to give her the impression I’m a casual guy. Figured I’d send that 1st message today at a more “normal” hour. When I went to go do that, I noticed she unmatched. I guess that’s what I get for waiting and overthinking. Lesson learned, I guess. She probably assumed I wasn’t...

Does it matter what underwear I wear, because My dumbass anixtey is making feel i need to CKs to impress them. Submitted January 30, 2023 at 12:13AM Does it matter what underwear I wear, because My dumbass anixtey is making feel i need to CKs to impress them.

I am male 27, she female 21 and we live in a small ski town. I met this girl, and my friend says she was gazing at me at the bar and just lit up when we talked. I have also noticed that she gets kinda nervous and do goofy stuff around me. Example yesterday, we accidentally met at the grocery store(i work there too, but i was a customer) and she just ran away in the middle of conversation and xome back with a packet of gum asking me if she could buy a packet of gum in the store. And on the outside when i bring my cart back she starts doing motorcycle sounds and gesturing reving it, while her friends look weirdly at her. We also play some floorball(floor hockey) occassionally and she would try to grab my hands all the time (cheating). Also I would usually be nervous, but when i talk to her it is like all worries dissappear and I can just be myself. We really get along. Also im a little introverted and im afraid i will run out of things to talk about. My problems are, How would you...

Where's the good dating/friends app ? In MN Submitted January 30, 2023 at 12:16AM Where's the good dating/friends app ? In MN

got paralyzed with fear during truth or dare when i got asked who i would sleep with January 29, 2023 at 01:07AM

I’ve been dating a woman (35, no kids) who, as the title says, speaks to her two dogs like they understand her, and also let’s them sleep in her bed. I’ve always had cats which I do not sleep with. I have not brought the topic up as more than a passing joke which she didn’t take very well. AITA for not wanting her dogs in bed with us at night and finding it strange that she talks with them? Submitted January 29, 2023 at 01:16AM I’ve been dating a woman (35, no kids) who, as the title says, speaks to her two dogs like they understand her, and also let’s them sleep in her bed. I’ve always had cats which I do not sleep with. I have not brought the topic up as more than a passing joke which she didn’t take very well.AITA for not wanting her dogs in bed with us at night and finding it strange that she talks with them?

Not really stealing I just want to download it so I can look at it when I want January 29, 2023 at 12:21AM

It was a complete surprise. Although I've met fellow ace-specs before, but those were always at ace/queer events/groups, I've never found one in the wild and been recognized for it. January 29, 2023 at 12:20AM

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months, and we really really love each other. We hit it off almost immediately and every time I see her my day brightens up. She makes me feel safe, secure, wanted, understood, appreciated, and valued in a way I feel like no one else has. There’s just one problem that for me has only gotten more and more apparent for me. She is what she describes as “grey asexual”. She says she feels sexual attraction but very rarely. She claims part of it may (and I do mean MAY) be a result of the antidepressants she’s been on for over 15 years now. Near the beginning of our relationship I told her about how I’m not asexual and at some point in the future that I’d like to be sexual with her. She freaked out when I said that but then asked if that was gonna be a long way away, to which I honestly responded yes as that’s what I thought I was going to feel. Flash forward to now and here I am somewhat panicking about how I’m feeling. I’m demisexual, ...

fiery sensation that goes through your body too. Heartbeat quickens as well. I've experienced that before, but that was romantic attraction. Mainly because I also had the urge to get close to her emotionally, hold hands, hug, cuddle, and kiss. Did you feel those feelings too? January 28, 2023 at 01:16AM

i (M, 26) have had quite an interesting life since turning 18, between a highly demanding field of study, clinical depression, switching careers, crazy nights and painful mornings, etc. so at some point i thought like i should get my shit together, became hyperfocused on getting the degree, graduated a year ago and now i have two jobs, one that pays the rent, the other is entry level in my field, i have two days off, during which i find my time with friends to be highly energizing and stress-free, i have quite a sizeable group of friends as u can see and we have been together through good and bad, now i had one serious gf before for a couple of yrs, the rest of the time was more about back and forth and games, etc. either i didn't have the time nor responsibility for someone else or i was always pushing for sth to get done or add new activities to improve my health, mental and physical, now am still in the same place, i actually do like staying single and during the worst times i ...

There's a lady from home I am interested in, who I originally picked up the vibe was interested in me as well. I have hung out with her in group settings a few times and picked up her number. I won't see her for a month. I texted her about 3 weeks after I went back off to Uni just asking how she was, and the conversation was originally going well but it eventually got dry after a day. Eventually, I asked her to add me on socials, to which she said she will add me. Almost directly afterwards, the conversation sort of ended/got dry so I didn't respond to her last message and left it at that. She never added me on the socials. I thought I just wouldn't respond since the conversation was either way drying up and it was too much talking for someone I wouldn't see for a while. I thought I'd text her in a few days and just make a joke or something. What do y'all think is the best course of action? Submitted January 28, 2023 at 12:10AM There's a lady f...

I’m 20(m) and I have a massive love/crush on my neighbor for like 3 years. We both stay on the same floor and literally all our friends are in the same circle, so not seeing isn’t possible. I have confessed my feelings before only for the issue not to be touched on, no matter how many times it comes up, because we want different things. Personally I don’t want a relationship with her (in the dating sense), and I don’t know what she wants. We are both in a phase were we like multiple people. Recently, I’ve been avoiding her (not snubbing, but not getting too close as before). She thinks we are fighting, but I’m not. She also has made no attempt to find out why I’m not speaking to her. We were literally so close, that there was no physical boundary between us. And this just deepened my feelings for her, because I’m a physical person and she knows this. I’m trying so hard to find the best solution for my scenario. This issue has messed with my mental health before, but I was able to move...

I’ve had a crush on a girl for the last month or two, she’s a waitress at a restaurant I visit weekly. Don’t know if I should say/do anything or not as I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable at work or whatever. The swipe could’ve even been accidental on her part who knows 🤷‍♂️ Submitted January 28, 2023 at 12:15AM I’ve had a crush on a girl for the last month or two, she’s a waitress at a restaurant I visit weekly. Don’t know if I should say/do anything or not as I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable at work or whatever. The swipe could’ve even been accidental on her part who knows 🤷‍♂️

As an ace, I did this to my (consenting) partners. We had fun being weird and joking around like that. Most times it would be followed up with "Some people like this stuff. Can you believe that?" where we'd then laugh at how ridiculous it all was. January 27, 2023 at 11:18PM

The original commenter asked that we generally use the term for people. I responded letting them know why not everyone is comfortable with the term. You then commented in a way that I interpreted as you saying that you were tired of people saying they felt uncomfortable with the term. I also got the idea that you were saying not liking being called queer was buying into terf stuff. If that’s not what you meant then I do apologise, but certainly this comment thread has not just been about how people want themselves to be called. Also, I’m not identifying with the full acronym. When talking about people being lgbtq+ we aren’t saying they identify with every aspect of the acronym we are saying they belong to it. For example, I’m not intersex, and saying I’m lgbtq+ doesn’t mean that I am. It’s an easy way to refer to someone under the umbrella if you aren’t familiar with the specifics. Just like how u want queer to be used, but I’m just saying when in doubt it’s safer to use the acronym w...

First a bit of backstory. Me (13m) and my crush (13f, new girl) both are in the same grade (7th) and class. Lots of rumors have been going around about me (mainly positive I think. Haven’t gotten TOO much insight.). One of the first things was that my crush like me (no one to this moment knows 100% I like her without making a 50/50 guess (I OBVIOUSLY DO). I thought she liked me, BEFORE the rumor got to me, but then she stated that she never liked and doesn’t like me. (I tried to find 100% certainty that she was saying that to get rid of embarrassment, but I never could COMPLETELY convince myself. Anyway, the main factor that gave me conscience a chance thinking she still liked me was the constant Mixed Signals. Now to the question : Does she like me? My crush is a lot more open towards me I feel, but I’m not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing, as being more could mean less awkwardness for her (doesn’t like me), or it means she wants to hang out, talk, and have fun (she like’s...

I’ve been talking to a guy for a month. We’ve gone out twice. I asked him if he wanted to hang out and his answer was “not this weekend. Maybe next weekend.” That answer sounds very lukewarm to me. We have not made any plans to hang out again. He still is the first to text me every day. Is it ok for me to ask if he still has an interest in seeing me or is that too clingy? Should I wait to see if we plan anything next week? Submitted January 27, 2023 at 12:05AM I’ve been talking to a guy for a month. We’ve gone out twice. I asked him if he wanted to hang out and his answer was “not this weekend. Maybe next weekend.” That answer sounds very lukewarm to me. We have not made any plans to hang out again. He still is the first to text me every day. Is it ok for me to ask if he still has an interest in seeing me or is that too clingy? Should I wait to see if we plan anything next week?

Oh interesting, thanks for your honest answer. It makes me understand celebrity crushes better and how other people may experience them too January 26, 2023 at 11:37PM

I asked one of my male ace friends about this once and, in short, he said that there's a really big assumption from other people that he's just lying, or failing to perform his gender properly, or homosexual, or actively "punishing" a potential partner. I think that's fairly unique in some ways compared to women. From what I can tell, women still have to deal with "you're just lying", but there's an added "you're being selfish"/"Well, I can change that". It's almost as if with women, there's an assumption that she's just playing hard to get, or is refusing to provide sex (which is apparently a bad thing to some people), while with men there's an assumption that the lack of sexual attraction also removes his gender, or makes him unjust. What I find interesting, as someone who is agender, is the way non binary people are treated. Now, a lot of it will still match up with someone's assigned gender, but...

not increase wages beyond the heightened cost of living in any area outside of the middle of nowhere Very likely a consequence of them not allowing much of any immigration. Everyone talks about the "downsides of immigration" but few talk about the real and observed downsides of not allowing it. Immigrants due to increased propensity to take risks, diverse perspectives, and self-selection are more likely to start a successful business and drive innovation. January 26, 2023 at 11:31PM

I been seeing this guy for 1 month been on 3 dates and we are about to go on our 4th date, and so far he has been doing all the right things and confirming dates and being a gentleman. But last week we were supposed to go on a date, he didn't msh me the day before till very late and he not just confirm the date the day before, but canceled the date on the day off (he hurt his back, so I understand) he called to reschedule and I asked him please confirm the date with me a day before, because I want to know where and when I'm going a day before so I can schedule my day accordingly, which he said, we been talking fine for the last a few days, but our date is tomorrow and he hasn't confirmed our date yet and it's night now. We been talking today, but he still saying nothing about the date. He did not behave this way for the last 3 dates. Now I'm not sure if I text and confirm or wait and see if he does on his own or cancel? Submitted January 26, 2023 at 01:15AM I...

Is it ok if my fiance feels depressed, hates her life and wants to die instead of being happy as we prepare to our marriage and starting our journey together ???? Submitted January 26, 2023 at 01:21AM Is it ok if my fiance feels depressed, hates her life and wants to die instead of being happy as we prepare to our marriage and starting our journey together ????

Two.Fucking.PHRASES ‘You haven’t found the right person yet’ - out of context message told by my mother to me ‘What if you are attracted to women and you want sex’ - that one friend who seems to accept, but says this every.fucking.DAY. This is making me unable to accept myself because of self doubt Both live in my mind, rent free, and I hate it January 26, 2023 at 12:25AM

I like my men like I do tea, I hate tea. Women on the other hand... January 26, 2023 at 12:24AM

Hey, everyone. There's this cute guy in my Italian class and I've (F21) noticed him (M21) looking at me so I think i want to approach him. Problem is that i have no idea what to say to him. Usually I'd ask for help with homework but our italian class hasn't given us any hard work yet. Also, he sits with another girl every class (they don't appear to be dating though) so it would be rude of me to sit next to him out of the blue. Any ideas? Submitted January 26, 2023 at 12:13AM Hey, everyone. There's this cute guy in my Italian class and I've (F21) noticed him (M21) looking at me so I think i want to approach him. Problem is that i have no idea what to say to him. Usually I'd ask for help with homework but our italian class hasn't given us any hard work yet. Also, he sits with another girl every class (they don't appear to be dating though) so it would be rude of me to sit next to him out of the blue. Any ideas?

Deja vu January 25, 2023 at 11:21PM

I know that feeling! In addition to that stuff....as a dude, sometimes I also get really nervous when small children are around, like people might see me looking/smiling at them and thinking I'm a paedo. I can be like, no! I'm honestly attracted to nothing! January 25, 2023 at 01:44AM

I hung out yes hung out with one girl outside of school. That was a year ago now I’m in university 2nd half of first semester if that makes since. I haven’t met anyone I’m interested in to focused on school. I’m better and more comfortable alone. Some people are good at some things some people are bad at somethings. Are you good at socializing? Communicating? Do you go out a lot with your friends? If the answer is no to any of these ask yourself do you really want a relationship? What would you and your partner do? Also if your answer is no to any of these then it seems your better at keeping yourself company. If after doing some reflection and you want a relationship. What does that relationship look like? Is it realistic? Are you acting drastically different with your partner then with yourself and friends? I don’t think 1 person can convert an introvert to an extrovert especially if a whole friend group and family can’t do it. Last question are you interested in outgoing people tha...

we have known each other for two years, we spoke a couple of times and that was it. For the last half year, he has been calling me to go out and see each other. after a couple of refusals, I agreed to meet. we went for a drive in the car, and he kissed me. after a few days we spoke again, I live alone and he said to come to my place, I didn't let him. he called for three months, we didn't hear from each other all the time but occasionally, where he said that I was attracted to him because I kept rejecting him and that he would like to come to my place and he knows that I am a virgin. I told him that he can fuck the girls he wants, why does he want me, he said that I am interesting to him. only after three months I gave in and we met again in the car, we kissed and everything was without sex. we live in a city where we know a lot of the same people and we agreed not to tell anyone about this, I told him when we meet somewhere we don't know each other, he got angry after ...

Why tf are we still infantilisibg ace & nd folks & using the term "aspie" in the year of our lord 2023? January 25, 2023 at 12:45AM

Jesus, that’s disgusting. January 25, 2023 at 12:45AM

So me (M15) her (F14) started talking a while ago and I really really like her but a year ago before I started talking to her I may have asked out a couple of her friends.. now this was probably the teenage mindset of “I need a gf” and to clarify they both rejected me so now I’m scared if I ask her out it won’t seem serious to her. Ps. I really like her, I draw her in class I blush everytime we talk face to face smiling too. I feel stunned when she begins talking to me.. she’s just incredible. I just want to cuddle her and love her - URGH HELP Submitted January 25, 2023 at 12:06AM So me (M15) her (F14) started talking a while ago and I really really like her but a year ago before I started talking to her I may have asked out a couple of her friends.. now this was probably the teenage mindset of “I need a gf” and to clarify they both rejected me so now I’m scared if I ask her out it won’t seem serious to her.Ps. I really like her, I draw her in class I blush everytime we talk fa...

They get hard when they have to pee. Lmaooooo I really hope you’re joking cause that is not remotely true. January 24, 2023 at 01:15AM

I agreed to go on a sushi belt date where we eat and take a crack at making assumptions about each other’s personalities. Like for example I would assume “You bite people unironically to show affection” and Segway that into a short discussion on how we like to show affection. Do you guys have any ideas for non offensive assumption I can make to lead into more meaningful discussions? Submitted January 24, 2023 at 01:13AM I agreed to go on a sushi belt date where we eat and take a crack at making assumptions about each other’s personalities. Like for example I would assume “You bite people unironically to show affection” and Segway that into a short discussion on how we like to show affection. Do you guys have any ideas for non offensive assumption I can make to lead into more meaningful discussions?

I need help reacting to something - kind of situation here. Submitted January 24, 2023 at 01:14AM I need help reacting to something - kind of situation here.

Yeah January 24, 2023 at 12:07AM

I wouldn’t say I’m done with dating just taking a “break”. I’ve gone on a few nice dates with a girl and nothing came of it. Have gone out to clubs with girls and I’ve probably had more fun doing that. It can be fun and cute but it’s honestly a waste of money and time. I’m 22 and had 2 gfs, 1 which lasted almost 2 years who I loved loved dearly. I’m at a point in my life where I have to figure out my future and find who I want to be, as corny as that sounds it’s more important. I just started thinking of deleting dating apps but I won’t since I have no ability to come up to a girl irl and make convo just yet. I’ll probably use apps to just make friends and have plans for a weekend when I’m free. I’m going to start gym again so that’s exciting also. Submitted January 24, 2023 at 12:11AM I wouldn’t say I’m done with dating just taking a “break”. I’ve gone on a few nice dates with a girl and nothing came of it. Have gone out to clubs with girls and I’ve probably had more fun doing ...

We are both in our mid 20’s and both are very shy. She has given me a Japanese mug, two hand knitted characters from anime we both like, and one of her favorite books to read. I told her I would like to pay her for the gifts but she insisted that it was okay and refused any payment. I told her that maybe I could make her something in return( I am a Apprentice Sculptor). I am currently working on making her favorite anime character. She said that she would like that. In the meantime I have bought her a mug as well from an anime she likes, I also bought her a book mark from another anime she likes because she loves to read and loves to drink tea. I also got her a copy of my favorite book and very cute gift box and wrapping. Do you think this is a good idea or maybe it would scare her? I just wanted to return the favor because the gifts meant a lot to me, I’ve been very lonely lately and going through the hardest time in my life and she made me something for Christmas and it was the o...

Except for the the fact that it isn't. CNC still requires that all parties involved give consent. No consent was being given here. Committing sexual acts to someone who does not consent is rape. Quit trying to downplay that. January 23, 2023 at 01:32AM

Oh yeah I have the money to move out. And my mom has made it clear she sees me as property or an investment or a slave. Idk which one is better to choose from. And she doesn't know what boundaries are : Example : She slaps my ass (I'm a guy btw). I say "I don't like that". She sais "well you're my son. I don't have to get your permission" Or she'll say something like "Ok, if you prefer me to give you a kiss on the cheek, you got a choice". WHAT ABOUT NO UNWANTED CONTACT? January 23, 2023 at 01:31AM

So I M24 and my….dating partner? (We’re not Bf and Gf yet) 22F have been dating for a bit. We agreed a third date will happen. Something she’s told me and I’m ok with is that she’s a bad texter: I.E she doesn’t respond quickly or forgets to check her texts. Now in fairness, I do not text very often, and when she IS responding, there’s always an apology. So, for those who have been in or are in a relationship, what’s it like to have an other who’s a bad texter? Submitted January 23, 2023 at 01:13AM So I M24 and my….dating partner? (We’re not Bf and Gf yet) 22F have been dating for a bit. We agreed a third date will happen. Something she’s told me and I’m ok with is that she’s a bad texter: I.E she doesn’t respond quickly or forgets to check her texts. Now in fairness, I do not text very often, and when she IS responding, there’s always an apology. So, for those who have been in or are in a relationship, what’s it like to have an other who’s a bad texter?

How many boys/girls did you dated before you committed to your last relationship? Submitted January 23, 2023 at 01:16AM How many boys/girls did you dated before you committed to your last relationship?

I (23F) have been talking to this guy (23) for a month now. In the beginning he was very attentive, and even went on a couples trip 3 weeks into talking and I met his friends. In person he’s very affectionate. My thing is, he answers real slow to texts, and I feel like I’m forcing him to be otp with me. When before he used to always text me, get mad if I didn’t reply quick enough,etc. My friends say I’m over thinking things a lot and me and him have had multiple arguments about this. Sunday when he dropped me off home from being with him for the weekend I brought up how his friends asked when we would make it official. And he said “ I want to be in a relationship eventually” and how he doesn’t even know if he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend , how he doesn’t think I’m ready for a relationship…. Y’all I cried when I got home because we are having unprotected sex( stupid I know) we are going out on dates, I met your friends.. Should I drop him? I really like him but also I feel li...

I mean you still could've January 22, 2023 at 11:21PM

Right! I wish I could help more! Thats why i need good comebacks! Lol! January 22, 2023 at 01:12AM

I know the matter of this post is not funny, but the title had me laughing hard. XD January 22, 2023 at 01:11AM

Will appreciate an advice from community. M35, almost never in my life used cologne. I guess I can do better on dating scene if I would start using one. How do I choose? I literally don’t know how to start as I am very visual, not smell-oriented person. I obviously shower often, and always shower right before the date. I was told I have very low amount of sweat (women who I was in LTR with told they were surprised I never almost smell sweat). My style is traditional (think Rodd&Gunn clothes) or sneakers/t-shirt (think Lacoste). Always pants, never shorts. I live in SoCal which is warm climate and prefer breakfast/brunch first dates. Body type is on muscular side. Submitted January 22, 2023 at 01:16AM Will appreciate an advice from community.M35, almost never in my life used cologne. I guess I can do better on dating scene if I would start using one. How do I choose? I literally don’t know how to start as I am very visual, not smell-oriented person.I obviously shower often,...

Thankfully, they'll never know I'm talking about them! January 21, 2023 at 11:53PM

So I was dating this woman & I guess this is the 1st time that I fall in love because i've never felt like this before. We were together for 4 years (they had good & bad moments), but mostly good...or at least that's how it was on my side. She ended the relationship recently and there is no hope of things ever getting fixed at this point. Now I am fully aware of that & I know that eventually I will get over her & probably stop thinking about her but I really reallly want it to happen faster. She's all I think about, every second of the god damn day. I was even approached by an attractive coworker where she invited me to go out to a bar and I literally said that I was too busy with work. I tried going to a bar before & had a drink and it just made things worse. How the hell can I get over her faster? I am already "focusing on myself", "doing things I like", yada yada but none of that shit is working. It's even making me make irr...

So I’ve had a thing for my co worker for awhile. We flirt back and fourth all the time and eat lunch together. We have a ton of playful banter and just love giving each other a hard time. He’s a major flirt though and has kinda got a rep for it. I know you shouldn’t mix work with pleasure, but i almost just want to hangout with him once to see how things go. We talk about a ton of things, but never have really talked about hanging out. He works as a bartender part time too and has asked me to stop by and get drinks though. I texted him and told him I’d stop by tonight with my friend, but she bailed and i don’t know if i should go now. I’m trying to figure out what i can text him to leave the door open for him to tell me he still wants to see me / would wanna hangout! Any suggestions? Submitted January 22, 2023 at 12:15AM So I’ve had a thing for my co worker for awhile. We flirt back and fourth all the time and eat lunch together. We have a ton of playful banter and just love giv...

(31 M, 30F) Context: he’s mentioned he has to help with his grandma who is 95 and has dementia and his dad who has stage 4 cancer. We met in person at a bar so not OLD. After our first date he immediate asked to see me Friday.The first time he asked, I said I’d let him know but my fault, I wasn’t very clear and he never followed up. I messaged day off and said I’d availability that day but then he said he’d to go see his grandma cos she had some issues in her home. We messaged in between and he’d even double text the next day if I didn’t respond Our 2nd date was great (Thursday) after the date he immediately asked to see me Monday after he got back from his work trip. He’s back Sunday. Of which I was very clear and said yes I was down. He’d also been specific about wanting to see where this went. Below is a summary text conversation (Monday) Me: Hi are we still hanging out today? (Monday) Him: I’m sorry still in (city) for work and had to extend my trip till Tuesday. I’d love to ...

Woah, that's so surprising, cuz I've seen how much lgbtqia+ stuff Australia has censored in animation. Perhaps it's different cuz they consider animation "for kids" & apparently think kids aren't mature enough to learn about love.. January 21, 2023 at 12:20AM

Things about me ~ I am 5’7 176 lbs (im working on losing weight) ~ black hair, brown eyes, dark skin ~Mexican my English is %60 {Hobbies ~ Video games ~ Watching shows and movies (action,comedy,thriller) Watching sports ( soccer,bball &football) ~ Stuff I like Outer space ~ Technology ~ancient stuff (Egypt, alien’s etc ) What I’m looking for Dedication To The Relationship I don’t really ask for much i rather have someone with good personality then good look’s I have Discord, Instagram, I hope to hear from one of yall beautiful ladies. Submitted January 21, 2023 at 12:16AM Things about me ~ I am 5’7 176 lbs (im working on losing weight) ~ black hair, brown eyes, dark skin ~Mexican my English is %60{Hobbies ~ Video games ~ Watching shows and movies (action,comedy,thriller) Watching sports ( soccer,bball &football) ~ Stuff I like Outer space ~ Technology ~ancient stuff (Egypt, alien’s etc ) What I’m looking for Dedication To The Relationship I don’t really ask for much i r...

Hear me out … I’m 21 in college and my professor is in his mid 30’s. He’s very handsome, smart, funny and everyone likes him. The best part is he’s single with no kids. I noticed last semester he would look at me when I wasn’t paying attention. When I would catch him he would either look away or down. The few times he would make eye contact with me is when he makes jokes or tells funny stories. I’m very quiet so we never rlly interacted until one day I shared something personal with the class his eyes lit up and he said, “Thank you for sharing (my name) blah blah blah…” But when the other kids shared after that he didn’t care. Here’s where it gets good…. On the last day of class last semester we were busy taking notes for the final exam. As I’m taking notes I could feel his eyes on me. Then I looked up at him and this time he raised his eyebrows and gave me that “what’s up?” nod that guys do. I smiled shyly and then we broke eye contact. Class ended and during break I’m out to dinne...

He's not going to do anything like that. He's just an ass. I guess im really looking for comebacks. January 20, 2023 at 11:08PM

Okay so I work at starbucks and this girl just started working in the store that my starbucks is inside of and she really caught my eye but I haven’t seriously talked to a girl since my last relationship ended badly two years ago either way she smiled me the first day she started and and I know that doesn’t mean she likes me but I just really fell in love with her smile and Everyday before work i’m like okay imma talk to her and then i get there and she comes to get a drink at my starbucks like she does every day and it’s just a hi how are you what are you getting if even that so i just wanna know how to like really talk to her bc for some reason i’m so scared edit: if it helps i’m 18m and the same age or a year or two older Submitted January 20, 2023 at 12:53AM Okay so I work at starbucks and this girl just started working in the store that my starbucks is inside of and she really caught my eye but I haven’t seriously talked to a girl since my last relationship ended badly two...

Hi all, For my new years resolution, I made it my goal to go out more and put myself in situations where I could meet new people. A lot of activities my friends and other redditors mentioned seems to be physical activity related like dance classes, rock climbing, and other fitness classes which so far have all been solid recommendations. My issue now is that physically some days I feel physically exhausted but mentally I'm still solid for meeting new people. Does anyone have any recommendations for other non-physical activities I could try? Submitted January 20, 2023 at 01:05AM Hi all,For my new years resolution, I made it my goal to go out more and put myself in situations where I could meet new people. A lot of activities my friends and other redditors mentioned seems to be physical activity related like dance classes, rock climbing, and other fitness classes which so far have all been solid recommendations.My issue now is that physically some days I feel physically exha...

We are by no means exclusive or do we have any labels at this point. Been talking for about two months. Is it weird to ask if she's talking to other people or seeing other people? I haven't and wouldn't mind if she was i just sort of want to know how serious she is and if there's others in the picture I wouldn't be surprised but just sort of want to know. Is this a normal question to ask at this point? Submitted January 20, 2023 at 01:09AM We are by no means exclusive or do we have any labels at this point. Been talking for about two months. Is it weird to ask if she's talking to other people or seeing other people? I haven't and wouldn't mind if she was i just sort of want to know how serious she is and if there's others in the picture I wouldn't be surprised but just sort of want to know. Is this a normal question to ask at this point?

Other the tinder what’s a dating app you would recommend that’s not creepy and user friendly Submitted January 20, 2023 at 01:11AM Other the tinder what’s a dating app you would recommend that’s not creepy and user friendly

22F here. I’m just wondering why dating has changed so much from back then to now. For example, my parents knew each other as teens, and then got into a relationship, and married each other when they were 21 and 23. (This was in the early 90’s). I have many aunts and uncles and it was like this for most of them as well. They married their spouses during their 20’s and are still married to them to this day. However nowadays, I keep seeing so many Reddit posts talking about men that are well into their 30’s that say they’re still “not ready” for a relationship, or are already approaching 30 years old and still not looking for anything serious. They’re still looking for only fwb and hook ups. I keep seeing posts from females talking about guys in their 30’s and still having the same issues as people in their early 20’s. It’s like guys don’t mature nowadays. By 32 years old, my dad already was married and had two kids (my older brother and I) and this is true for most of my uncles as wel...

get a new therapist immediately, and report that one. invalidating your sexuality is bad enough, but defending a bully who SA-ed you?? that’s vile. January 20, 2023 at 12:21AM

So reason I ask is I am some kind of mentally underdeveloped freak. I have been through undergrad and now finishing up pharmacy school and was social but also had anxiety. I never learned game, now I am 25 M and a virgin who has never been on a date. The dating apps literally never had a match. I have some handicaps like being overweight and brown and 5'8.5, I am working out and looking good for me all but its kinda over. Just gonna focus on graduating and then pursuing med school. Anyways I used to be this hopeless rom com romantic. I even made a book of fun dates I could take a girl on and will send that to someone if they want. Anyways, can I just hear cute stories of what you do for your bf/gf, it is nice to hear?Not all us guys are that lucky. Submitted January 20, 2023 at 12:13AM So reason I ask is I am some kind of mentally underdeveloped freak. I have been through undergrad and now finishing up pharmacy school and was social but also had anxiety. I never learned ga...

^ yep this right there. That’s what it was January 19, 2023 at 01:41AM

Looking for relationship advice, however most of what I can find is for people who: Are married Are not currently dating Are dating someone that they did not know well before dating. I’m currently dating my best friend of four years, so I don’t think our relationship follows traditional “milestones” or anything like that, but i’m still not sure what to do and in search of general advice Submitted January 19, 2023 at 02:10AM Looking for relationship advice, however most of what I can find is for people who:Are marriedAre not currently datingAre dating someone that they did not know well before dating.I’m currently dating my best friend of four years, so I don’t think our relationship follows traditional “milestones” or anything like that, but i’m still not sure what to do and in search of general advice

I’m bisexual and haven’t had sex with a woman yet, and I’d like to explore more. I happened to match with I guy I click with on tinder, had no intention for a relationship or meeting someone like this, but I do like him romantically and not just to sleep with. Fwb and guy I’ve been talking to live in another city, and I was already planning a visit back there to have 3somes with my fwb and other parties (Making sure to keep safe from stds and getting regularly checked). Before I meet this guy in person would it be wrong to still go through with the plans? I vaguely talked with the guy about me planning 3somes with a friend, and wanting to check out sex clubs, but didn’t specify it would be on my next trip. Should I tell the guy, not tell him because we haven’t met in person yet/aren’t dating so it doesn’t matter, or cancel them entirely? Submitted January 19, 2023 at 01:15AM I’m bisexual and haven’t had sex with a woman yet, and I’d like to explore more.I happened to match w...

That we're prudes. January 19, 2023 at 12:30AM

So I’m a single guy and have an ok dating life. One thing I’ve noticed is that if I’m really into a women I just lose all sense of composure and don’t know how to act. I second guess myself, read too much into things and generally have zero chill. However when I have little to no interest they are more attracted to me than I am to them. I know on some level it’s because I’m probably being more myself with the latter but I wish I could convert this mode of behaving when I’m actually attracted to someone. Anyone else experience this? There’s someone I’ve met whom I’m sensing a connection with and I’m quite feeling. But I dare not engage for fear of letting it slip like I’ve done countless times before lol. It’s like I need hypnosis to convince me I’m not attracted to her or some shit. I know internally I’m assembling the pedestal in which she will be placed as we speak lol Submitted January 19, 2023 at 12:14AM So I’m a single guy and have an ok dating life. One thing I’ve notic...

So I matched with a guy on Hinge and we had a really good conversation, now he gave me his whatsapp so we could go and chat there. I was the whole day busy and to be honest forgot to text him on whatsapp. I am in med school and have a few exams next week and after an abusive relationship I try to not attach myself so easily to a new man in my life. He tried calling me on the app then and it kind of makes me feel annoyed that someone would go so far to call me that when I dont send a text back right away and I am afraid that this guy is controlling again. Would you say that it is a sign of interest that he calls you or if he is being needy that I did not text him yet to schedule a first date? I am honestly afraid he is too got to be true, I do not trust guys anymore after being cheated on and being betrayed, he is so kind and caring or at least it seems like it but I rather feel like I need to protect myself. Submitted January 18, 2023 at 02:14AM So I matched with a guy on Hinge ...