How do you (29M) get over someone (24F) that you loved after they end the relationship?...would forcing yourself to start dating other women help or would it make things worse? Read below for details.

So I was dating this woman & I guess this is the 1st time that I fall in love because i've never felt like this before. We were together for 4 years (they had good & bad moments), but mostly good...or at least that's how it was on my side.

She ended the relationship recently and there is no hope of things ever getting fixed at this point. Now I am fully aware of that & I know that eventually I will get over her & probably stop thinking about her but I really reallly want it to happen faster. She's all I think about, every second of the god damn day. I was even approached by an attractive coworker where she invited me to go out to a bar and I literally said that I was too busy with work. I tried going to a bar before & had a drink and it just made things worse.

How the hell can I get over her faster? I am already "focusing on myself", "doing things I like", yada yada but none of that shit is working. It's even making me make irrational decisions (I spent ~ $220k on investments in cryptocurrency just this last week...even though now that I think about it, the investment is solid and it has already returned profit but I typically don't make these types of decisions unless I am very certain & in less riskier stuff) so It makes me so upset that she has affected my life so much & turned it upside down, while she probably does not even think of me for a fraction of a second.

My question is (especially for people who have gone through something similar): I currently have zero interest in going out with anyone, would forcing myself to go out with women (coworkers or even from a dating app) help at all or would it make things worse?

I appreciate your advice fellow redditors



Submitted January 22, 2023 at 12:14AM

So I was dating this woman & I guess this is the 1st time that I fall in love because i've never felt like this before. We were together for 4 years (they had good & bad moments), but mostly good...or at least that's how it was on my side.She ended the relationship recently and there is no hope of things ever getting fixed at this point. Now I am fully aware of that & I know that eventually I will get over her & probably stop thinking about her but I really reallly want it to happen faster. She's all I think about, every second of the god damn day. I was even approached by an attractive coworker where she invited me to go out to a bar and I literally said that I was too busy with work. I tried going to a bar before & had a drink and it just made things worse.How the hell can I get over her faster? I am already "focusing on myself", "doing things I like", yada yada but none of that shit is working. It's even making me make irrational decisions (I spent ~ $220k on investments in cryptocurrency just this last week...even though now that I think about it, the investment is solid and it has already returned profit but I typically don't make these types of decisions unless I am very certain & in less riskier stuff) so It makes me so upset that she has affected my life so much & turned it upside down, while she probably does not even think of me for a fraction of a second.My question is (especially for people who have gone through something similar): I currently have zero interest in going out with anyone, would forcing myself to go out with women (coworkers or even from a dating app) help at all or would it make things worse?I appreciate your advice fellow redditors
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