Pros and cons of dating ?

i (M, 26) have had quite an interesting life since turning 18, between a highly demanding field of study, clinical depression, switching careers, crazy nights and painful mornings, etc. so at some point i thought like i should get my shit together, became hyperfocused on getting the degree, graduated a year ago and now i have two jobs, one that pays the rent, the other is entry level in my field, i have two days off, during which i find my time with friends to be highly energizing and stress-free, i have quite a sizeable group of friends as u can see and we have been together through good and bad, now i had one serious gf before for a couple of yrs, the rest of the time was more about back and forth and games, etc. either i didn't have the time nor responsibility for someone else or i was always pushing for sth to get done or add new activities to improve my health, mental and physical, now am still in the same place, i actually do like staying single and during the worst times i have been on my own, especially when i see how many girls actively work on controlling their guys' life, that is not sth i'd tolerate and i am torn between attraction to some great girls and my buzzing lifestyle, it makes serious dating feel like an extra chore and i'd like to keep my baggage as light as possible to have the highly needed flexibility that i find important to get back on my feet, any thoughts?



Submitted January 28, 2023 at 01:13AM

i (M, 26) have had quite an interesting life since turning 18, between a highly demanding field of study, clinical depression, switching careers, crazy nights and painful mornings, etc. so at some point i thought like i should get my shit together, became hyperfocused on getting the degree, graduated a year ago and now i have two jobs, one that pays the rent, the other is entry level in my field, i have two days off, during which i find my time with friends to be highly energizing and stress-free, i have quite a sizeable group of friends as u can see and we have been together through good and bad, now i had one serious gf before for a couple of yrs, the rest of the time was more about back and forth and games, etc. either i didn't have the time nor responsibility for someone else or i was always pushing for sth to get done or add new activities to improve my health, mental and physical, now am still in the same place, i actually do like staying single and during the worst times i have been on my own, especially when i see how many girls actively work on controlling their guys' life, that is not sth i'd tolerate and i am torn between attraction to some great girls and my buzzing lifestyle, it makes serious dating feel like an extra chore and i'd like to keep my baggage as light as possible to have the highly needed flexibility that i find important to get back on my feet, any thoughts?
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